to ask what's the worst/silliest advice you've seen on here?

[Francoitalialan]

MN is such a tremendous source of info but sometimes it goes wonky. What's the worst/silliest advice you've seen?

I agree with you cleaty it is, it is wrong on so many levels, that is why op has to seek advice from appropriate agencies. It would prompt me to think is there anything else he has done whilst I'm not there, that dd is afraid to tell me for fear of her fathers reaction.

Spotify mumsnet is peculiar in the way resident parents are usually painted as the villans of the piece. Never seen it that way round anywhere else.

I got totally shot down on a thread for no reason even though other posters were saying I was being a totally reasonable ex!

My other favourite was when a poster was berated for using maintenance to pay the rent. Because apparently maintenance should only be used for the kids. And by paying rent SHE was benefitting by having a roof over HER head. Selfish bitch

Worst advice I ever saw:

OP- I need a termination as I have life threatening complications in pregnancy.

Poster- Have you considered having the baby and giving it up for adoption?

So, the kids were not living with her, nor had their own rooms?

Oh they were Lweji
And to make her even MORE of a bitch, she even used some of the maintenance money for food shopping. And didn't pay for hers separately or keep it in a separate cupboard and cook it separately

Most of the advice I see on here about whether to contact/not contact Children's Social Care is misleading.

As someone pointed out upthread, each area will have different thresholds etc so even if you work in the field you can never say with certainty what will or won't be done. To be honest, even in the same area it can depend on who you speak to (it shouldn't but it does)

I often have to talk myself out of posting my opinion/advice for these reasons. I tend to stay in the safer territory of SCD and GBBO threads these days!

Ime, any post that mentions having indoor cats, no matter what the actual topic, results in a YABU for having indoor cats. Or posts asking for advice on babies and cats and the inevitable raft of 'rehome the cats' that follows.

And thumb, sorry, think I was in a pedantic mood yesterday!

I'm truly stunned at the number of people who call the police to log stuff. I've only called the police once in my life, after my house had been burgled. I didn't realise that the police needed to keep a list of every person who gets on my nerves.

Oh and the 'give the old lady your house, you selfish fucker' thread was weird.

Every police force in the UK probably has a database filled to capacity with minor irritations logged by mumsnetters.

NEVER post asking for advice about your child's diet as you will be told that you are poisoning them if they ever eat normal foodstuffs like bread or breakfast cereal (AKA shit in a box) or if they ever drink anything apart from milk or water.
The only foods that I have never seen described as bad for children are avocados, porridge, full fat Greek yogurt, green vegetables, fish and eggs. Every other food is either 'too carby' (this includes sweet corn), 'full of sugar' (this includes all fruit) or 'highly dangerous' as one poster described chocolate.

Thanks, Obsidian & Lunchpack, I didn't know that. Both kids well over 18 now anyway.

'Give the old lady your house' was only one poster. Everyone else said she was ... misguided.

Being told by some posters that, after being raped by a family member in my own home, I MUST report it to the police because of his potential future victims and the fact that I would NEVER forgive myself as I could have prevented it.

then when I reiterated the fact I was definitely not going to report it and have him charged, the implication that it was on my head when (not if) he attacked anyone else.

So sorry, Aramynta.

Of course it wouldn't be your fault.

I suspect that those posters were trying, clumsily, to get you to report that horrific crime so that the perpetrator might be brought to justice.

But any suggestion that YOU would be to blame is actually twisted.

'Why can't you just walk?'

In response to any description of travel difficulties/schoolrun problems/lack of car etc.

Presumably from people who live on lovely flat, traffic-free roads, within a mile of everywhere they could possibly want to go, with no other commitments during the day and no comprehension of the fact that all routes are not created equal.

I once posted a thread ranting about the rush hour rat-run down the lanes around our village, when I was trying to get 18 month-old DS1 to nursery in the opposite direction so that I could work from home. I thought I'd given a fairly thorough description of the single-track, pavementless roads, down which rabid computers hurtled at 60mph, forcing innocent locals into the hedge, so I was a bit surprised to get a response, complete with puzzled face, saying 'But why wouldn't you just walk? Why live in the country and drive everywhere?'

Yes, because doing an 8 mile round trip twice a day, down dangerous single-track roads with no pavement, up a great fuck-off hill and across a dual carriageway, in all weathers, with an 18-month old in tow is exactly what we moved to the country for. Not to mention the fact that this would probably leave me about 2 hours of the working day to actually, you know, work.

Sometimes cars are necessary!

That's probably a reply from someone who's just building up a posting history, by answering the single line thread title, rather than engaging with the OP kungfu

aramynta

I just love the fact call 101 is the answer to so many things on here

I can't tell you how often I get a call at work and read it and wonder if the caller is on here

My increasing grey hairs and the turning to drink on days off is directly linked to these calls

The 101 are crazy.
Hope anyone that listens to this
Batshit advice is charged with wasting police time.

Omg someone just knocked on my
Door.. Lots of call 101. Do t know why, op is criminal in hiding and refused to answer the door.

Meter reader just knocked on my door. It's nice there's still a few around... OMG op call 101 NOW.. You are in danger.

A person has just walked down the street. Never seen the person before.. Call 101 you are all in danger. everyone on your street and in your neighbourhood is in danger..

It sounds like the guy next door is beating the shit out of everyone in the house. Lots of screaming, begging to stop. It's the middle of summer and all windows are open. Sounds like someone is really getting hurt.. Should I call 999 or
101... Omg op, what is wrong with you? Keep out and stop being such a nosy neighbour. Ignore it and
Get on with your day rather than twitching your curtains.

Kungfu - that typo is HILARIOUS!! I now have a fabulous mental image of computers hurtling down your narrow lane...

I remember your thread, some people just have no concept of the type of road you were referring to. I also remember your "stand-off" thread with the woman who refused to give way!