to ask what's the worst/silliest advice you've seen on here?

[Francoitalialan]

MN is such a tremendous source of info but sometimes it goes wonky. What's the worst/silliest advice you've seen?

Callous? It is a useless bit of medal at the end of the day . selling it doesn't deminish how it was earnt. Anyway 95% of people said she was u, not all.

95/100%, either way she was unreasonable. Yup callous. Perhaps you and the OP of that thread should learn some respect for veterans and what they did for us. While you're at it you should learn how not to behave like spoiled brats. It wasn't even the OP's property, so why you would think she had any right to want it sold is beyond me!

The OP of the VC thread was disrespectful and acting like a spoilt brat. Telling her so was not bad advice at all.

Exactly what I said Seems this thread has been abandoned, in favour of one about missiles and airport security.

Don't change your surname upon marriage as you are giving up your identity and you will become your husbands possession

She didn't value the medal above having a secure home. Everyone was saying selling the medal diminish the role he played. When it doesn't, its just a material possession.

Many people sell family heirlooms for very practical reasons, no point living in poverty and having some heirloom. Take a photo to remember and sell it IMO.

It wasn't hers to sell.

Hmmm
A little over invested, perhaps?

Nope, just gobsmacked at the entitlement of you that poster.

Family help each other out IMO. And heirloom belong to the family, not just the current holder of them.

No, heirlooms belong to whoever was gifted it. It was not for the op to even think of selling before it was hers.

The ops mother said she wished she could help her.

Correct. She didn't say she was willing to sell a VC medal to do so. That was the ops awful sense of entitlement kicking in.

I remember the vc medal thread, I was in the 'sell it' camp too. Thread descended into posters listing precious things they would never sell despite being so poor they had no shoes etc. Imo, advice to hold onto valuable, but ultimately useless, items when you have family in need is stupid. So I add that to this thread!

I remember the vc one, I thought they should sell it too. It got ridiculous with people talking about not selling their grandfather clocks even if they were homeless and on the streets

The op there said that her gf never talked about the war or showed of his medals. He would probably of been glad to be shot of them if it helped his grand child out.

It wasn't hers. Wasn't she trying to get her mother to sell it so that she could have the money to buy a house? The mother didn't want to sell it due to huge sentimental value and the OP was leaning on her anyway.

You can't sell what isn't yours. In this case the medal was in the custody of the mother.

VCs are not dished out willy nilly.

Yes, technically she had no claim on it.....but I don't think it's unreasonable to want your mother to want to help you out. The op was really slated, just for wishing her own mother would make a small sacrifice that would really help her out. I bet if that op had wanted a kidney the thread would have been different, but throw in old war heroes and medals and suddenly it's un-thinkable. (For arguments sake we'll say the kidney wasn't life saving but to improve her quality of life)

If I had been the mother in that situation I would have sold the medal in a heartbeat. That doesn't mean anyone else is obliged to though.
Did she ask her mother if she would consider it or did she think she was automatically entitled to it?

I can't think of a single thing that could ever be so sentimental that I'd let my kids and grandkids suffer. Not one thing.

Intrigued. Where is the vc thread? I missed it.

I don't remember the op as suffering. She was renting (like millions do) and felt she was entitled to sell the medal so she could buy a house. Perhaps it would have gone more in her favour of she'd had a better attitude. Calling a VC 'just a piece of metal' is pretty disrespectful when you think about what people go through to be awarded one. I wasn't surprised her mum was unwilling to sell it. I would be the same if my son was so disrespectful.

I'm not surprised that wasn't an accurate representation of the thread.

I remember the vc one

So do I.

I also remember it appeared a few weeks after Tracey Barlow did something similar (sold a war medal belonging to Ken without his knowledge that his Uncle had won) on Coronation St.

The op also quoted a value far in excess of what VCs generally sell for.

The only thing ridiculous about the advice given on that there was the sheer number of people frothing at the work of someone blatantly looking to buy a house in close proximity to a bridge.

Calling a VC 'just a piece of metal' is pretty disrespectful when you think about what people go through to be awarded one.

Given how cossetted and privileged posters like that OP seem to be, it's hardly surprising that they wouldn't understand the value of such a medal or the sacrifice necessary to earn one.

Nobody is being disrespectful to the man who was awarded the medal, but honestly.....I'm not going to salute a medal, or stand up when a vc is brought into a room, or treat a Medal like it is anything more than a large coin. Asking people to respect objects is silly. Who knows, maybe the buyer would have respected it more than keeping it in a drawer?? What does everyone else do with their poppies once rememberance Sunday is over?? I bin mine without feeling like I've disrespected anyone.