To say men playing video games is childish?

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My DP is the most wonderful person, and the video games don't annoy me to an extent of anger, but they do raise my eyebrow a lot.

DP is only 22 but I think this is still too old to be playing games, although I understand men more than twice his age do. I once asked DP ''aren't you a little old for those?" And his reply was a very calm 'no, it's a stress reliever and my boss plays it too' (his boss is 44 with a wife and 2 DCs).

What cringes me out the most is him swearing and talking to other players over the zombie games etc, who are mores often that not less than half his age or not much older than half his age! Yes, really.

I understand that I'm lucky he's the type to ask 'do you want me to come off this?' And often I just say no darling. This is because I can get on with other things. Even I ask him to come off, he will and you wouldn't have known he even liked playing because he acts so normal once he's off.

My DP is a 'normal' bloke in all aspects apart from the silly video games. I just wish he'd stick to fishing instead lol.

AIBU to say grown men playing video games is a little bit eye brow raising worthy? I understand it is a stress buster, and perhaps I'm just a moody cow and need to be put in my place by fellow MNetters.

You're still essentially just playing with toys.

What's wrong with that? We play board games and I've never seen a thread complaining that they are bad or childish.

Alibabsandthe40Musketeer I'm working on one screen and have Mumsnet open on another. If I'm using Mumsnet on my phone, I'm playing on my phone.

Op you sound confused. This thread really isn't going the way you'd like is it?

Op what's your stance on the recent trend of colouring books for adults?

Oh dear, I'm in real trouble then, as a 70 year old woman who plays World of Warcraft and have known my 22 year old online friend for several years.

We chat on Skype - he sends me his university essays to check the grammar (he is Russian, living in Australia). I also act as agony aunt when he has girlfriend trouble. We share a similar sense of humour and age doesn't really come into it.

I think you need to chill a bit OP.

Op what's your stance on the recent trend of colouring books for adults

Back in the 70s and 80s my mum and I used to like altair design

So what do you do for fun and to unwind Mackerel?

God I loved those bruffin

as a teenager I often used to find my mum reading my copy of 'blue jeans' or 'jackie'! And got many happy memories of playing board games with her. She used to often steal away my pocket solitaire too. And later on my dad used to kidnap my Rubiks cube! He was bloody addicted to that thing

My 42 year old DH plays CoD and FIFA and the language and attitude from some of the kids playing is appalling. Their parents have more to answer for than your DP OP

I'm not judging people necessarily for doing these things, just for trying to make them sound more worthwhile by giving them stupid fucking names. You're still essentially just playing with toys.

Yes, they're essentially just playing games. Or "gaming", as the bloody dictionary calls it. www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/gaming It's just a name, don't get so het up over the term "gaming". Just because you think it should be called "playing with toys like little children" doesn't mean that everyone should. You are an unreasonable shambles, head back to 1972.

As for this ludicrous OP and the tedious, back-tracking follow-ups, you've gone from "To say men playing video games is childish? " to "it's a bit strange when my husband swears at children", which is not only a completely different kettle of fish, it's a different bloody world. The first is a sexist, easily debunked thought, and the second is really, really weird behaviour.

You don't like gaming because you've got it into your mad head that it's a children's pursuit, despite evidence to the contrary - some games have a BBFC 18 rating, do you advocate that they should be played by nobody?

How about games that challenge your intelligence, reactions and strategic decision making? Are they less worthwhile than spending your evening on Mumsnet or watching TOWIE? Gaming is at least an active pursuit, rather than passively taking in information on a screen.

Get out of here, YABVVVVU.

Th winning team of a recent DOTA tournament got $6 million.I think even e team that came 15th got over $50,000

Defensive much?! Yanbu seems odd to me too op

One of the advantages of being on the internet is not getting patronised for your age or appearance or pretty much anything but those things you choose to put out there.

It's a great boon for a lot of children and adults, that suddenly they are treated as an equal, not looked down on simply because of a particular aspect of themselves that they can't avoid portraying in real life. Full body armour in physical games like ice hockey can do similar things, but only if the people don't get to meet first.

Of course children can find themselves in environments that aren't really appropriate for them, but that doesn't mean you should assume every person you meet on the internet is a child or vulnerable. You have to trust the individuals and their carers to protect them. Of course that doesn't mean you should be rude, obnoxious, etc. but it certainly means you should treat them to the expected code of the game.

OP you need to get off your judgemental high horse! You sound quite stressed about this, perhaps a nice adult colouring book would help?

Everything we do in life is just passing the time until we die. You choose the sort of life that you find most enjoyable and entertaining out of the options available to you. If he likes video games then he likes video games. You accept that or look for a man whose hobbies don't annoy you.
My 18 year old son spends alot of his spare time plugged in to computer and gaming headset and I suspect in 4 years he'll be much the same. The game related banter is part of it although my son's chat is usually more jokey and silly than nasty but can be sweary.
If you think your boyfriend is being nasty to young children then look for a different boyfriend.

My partner is 35 and bloody loves gaming. It's not for me but then I love knitting and cross-stitch. He games while I knit. It works for us.

YABVU I play (I'm 26) and my dp plays (he's 25). There are plenty of hobbies I might raise an eyebrow at, gaming isn't one of them'

The poster, starspread?, counting down the days to the next release is it AC Syndicate? Because I am so excited about my pre order arriving?

I love gaming but dont like horrendous trash talking over the headset though a bit of swearing is expected bollocks to that kraber sniper

Some young dc do end up in a lobby with you and I am horrified their parents let them speak to strangers and play 18 games. Both myself and a friend end up being like Mum and Dad online and telling them not to tell people their age and locations.

I think you have changed the empahsis on what bothers you about his gaming because it wasnt going your way op.

There are many women that game but it also depends on what you class as actual gaming. My sister plays Kandy Krush on her i pad and that is included in stats. I wouldnt class her as a gamer. I think gamers that have a dedicated Gaming PC or a console are the difference between someone who enjoys some online games and a gamer.

If you buy a large plastic panda to use as a headset stand for your beloved turtle beaches because it matches your gaming profile pic to the bemusement of your other half then you certainly are

Agree my husband spends hours playing candy crush but doesn't class that as gaming and moans about my son and his headset. I find my son's sort of gaming more entertaining and imaginative than endless rows of sweeties.

YABVU. though I'm obviously biased as I am a 30 year old female gamer who regularly plays console games with my DP!

gaming is a hobby that can be enjoyed by everyone, regardless of age, and that's one of the great things about. I don't really get why you think it's childish if your DP interacts with younger players online? he's probably also interacting with people twice his age!

"He'll have his own 10 year old in less than 10 years!"
So are you pregnant, or with a very little baby? I'm wondering if there's a high level of child-protecting hormones that might be kicking in here.

These games are played with the voice chat being an important part of the social experience, and if there are players on that channel of any age kicking out the usual smack talk then they'd better be prepared to take it as well.

Some people wind down watching Eastenders, some on mn, some knit, some play video games. Dh is 35 and likes sports games on the xbox while I read a book.

I understand your point about him talking to children but to be honest kids on games like COD can be really vicious. I would be shocked if a grown man let a pre teen bully him

Yabu obviously.

My brain actually feels like it's melting if anyone tries to make me sit down and watch television at night. Gamings just a hobby like anything else.

I'm a 28, dh is 40 and we are both gaming mad. Every console known to man and a scattering of high end gaming rigs litter our house.

Obviously since dd(2) came along the amount of time we actually get to play them has gone down. I still remember the joy when she started sleeping through from 7pm and I could get my fix!

Child no.2 on the way (fingers crossed) so some time in April we will have to give up our hobby again temporarily.

Currently wearing a fallout 4 t-shirt with my pj bottoms. Now that's sad.

Speaking to strangers on the internet about your personal problems could be seen as childish. Very teen angst thing to do.

any hobby can be a seen as a waste of time because that's all it is. Wouldnt judge someone for loving shopping anymore than someone who Cosplays or collects vintage buttons. Yabu.

I sound 12 on the phone and on games, I used to have a job in the emergency services and people would think I was a prank caller.
I'm 28, a woman & a gamer.