To say men playing video games is childish?

[PampersNotPampered]

My DP is the most wonderful person, and the video games don't annoy me to an extent of anger, but they do raise my eyebrow a lot.

DP is only 22 but I think this is still too old to be playing games, although I understand men more than twice his age do. I once asked DP ''aren't you a little old for those?" And his reply was a very calm 'no, it's a stress reliever and my boss plays it too' (his boss is 44 with a wife and 2 DCs).

What cringes me out the most is him swearing and talking to other players over the zombie games etc, who are mores often that not less than half his age or not much older than half his age! Yes, really.

I understand that I'm lucky he's the type to ask 'do you want me to come off this?' And often I just say no darling. This is because I can get on with other things. Even I ask him to come off, he will and you wouldn't have known he even liked playing because he acts so normal once he's off.

My DP is a 'normal' bloke in all aspects apart from the silly video games. I just wish he'd stick to fishing instead lol.

AIBU to say grown men playing video games is a little bit eye brow raising worthy? I understand it is a stress buster, and perhaps I'm just a moody cow and need to be put in my place by fellow MNetters.

Oh GOOD, glad to see it's only grown men playing video games that bothers you. I would be devastated to know that my nearly 40 year old woman self wouldn't be allowed to join in the fun.

Politely passing OP a grip

Most of it is all good fun, it's just banter. I hardly think these kids sit there worried all night someone's going to bang their mom or whatever crap people are saying

Excuse me but I just said I would feel the same towards a woman doing the same thing?

My partner is 28 and loves his video games. He does play them less now we live together and have a toddler but he does like playing. I don't have a problem with it, generally does not affect family time and it is his hobby.

My DH is 44 and he plays away on his XBox 360 (he would buy an XBox One if I'd let him!) I'm not that interested in gaming but the games he plays look amazing (graphics-wise). Think GTA V / Destiny / Tomb Raider / Red Dead. The DCs love all the Lego games where 2 of them can play together co-op. No harm in gaming at all, at any age.

He's 22. YABVVVVVU. He is essentially a kid.

Another YABU. It isn't interfering with family life. He is behaving as a typical gamer would so if the parents of the minors playing aren't happy with that they're the ones who shouldn't let them play (unless this is supposed to be a kids' game).

Why won't you 'let him' ThereIsIron? You do know that the 360 won't be supported past next year don't you?

I wouldn't be impressed if my husband banned me from upgrading.. It'll be a flicking of Vs.

I hate DH's fecking computer games. But not because they're childish.

Yabvvu.

I play games as does my DP. I think you are being judgemental.

I've just discovered minecraft in an attempt to understand what my children are on about. I love it! Many hours wasted

Keletubbie he is not essentially a kid he is a fully grown adult with a child.

I sound like I am about six years old over my headset, so it's probably quite shocking to hear me swear like a trooper when things go wrong.

I would tone my language down to suit the intended audience, so if parents are letting their children play games suited way above their age, then they should probably be making sure (with parental controls and supervision) that their kids can't access chat whilst playing.

I don't allow my son to play anything that's online and eighteen plus, and tend to ban most games above a sixteen, with a couple of exceptions for games I know myself that are single player. This is partly due to not wanting to expose him to normal game chat like this, it's competitive and it's adult, not suitable for kids really. So your husband's behaviour is probably pretty normal gaming chat.

I prefer to date gamers as they are more understanding about how much time I spend playing games, and can join in too.

PMSL at 'he looks normal when he's not playing' OP do you think we all run around in cloaks shooting at people and collecting magic coins in real life??

YABU! It's a hobby like any other. We're both 30 and love gaming together.

No stranger than spending your time posting and reading threads on here...

The goalposts are all over the place on this thread.

FWIW DH pays CoD and similar and is in his 40s. When he hears very young children, he will tell the other players not to swear and he's always pretty fab WRT racist or sexist language. He actually told everyone to stop playing once when a very young child was getting upset and told the child to get their parent.

YABU.

YANBU at all. I particularly hate the way adults describe their playing of computer games as 'gaming' to try and make it sound like a legitimate adult pursuit. 'Game' isn't a verb FFS, just because you're not calling it 'playing computer games' doesn't make it any less childish.

I also dislike things like 'scrapping' (adults making scrap books) or 'cosplay' (adults dressing up in costumes). There are probably loads of others.

I'm not judging people necessarily for doing these things, just for trying to make them sound more worthwhile by giving them stupid fucking names. You're still essentially just playing with toys.

how old are you OP?

LARPing and Cosplay are also awesome. I also do colouring in as a mindfulness exercise (and because I enjoy it), am a major Dr Who geek (and shall be cosplaying at the festival in November) and read teen fiction. I don't see myself as childish at all, I do what I enjoy and if it's something kids enjoy too, that's cool because it means me and mine can all do something together.

"You're still essentially just playing with toys."

So?

LARPing is the one I was trying to think of!

Playing pretend.

Mackerel what are you doing right now? Mumsnetting? Or playing with a computer?

PatriciaHolm well, exactly. If you don't mind being seen as playing with toys, call it playing with toys. Don't give it a wanky name to try and make it sound like something else. That's what I'm saying.