To tell the head that actually HER hair looks shit

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DD year 6 has just started doing her own hair in preparation for residential trip. School rules state it has to be tied back. She can do a perfectly serviceable plait with no hair loose/around her face. She has naturally frizzy/wavy hair anyway

The head teacher told her twice last week her hair was messy and 'looked a mess'. Head told her she couldn't get her photo taken for the newsletter on Friday as her hair was too messy, overheard by DS as well.

AIBU that if the hair meets school rules then head can bugger off with her opinion of if its ascetically pleasing to her or not? And possibly tell her that since she has lego hair we don't want her hair advice

Maybe the headteacher is a control freak who likes perfectly straight chiselled hair. That's no excuse to insists other have the same style. She has no right.

Emo your dd's hair is lovely.

OP tomorrow morning at drop off, have a quick word with the class teacher, and just say do not say anything to my dd about her hair, at any time, under any circumstances, (I'd also add 'is that clear?' just to make your annoyance known make sure she understood). Then, immediately, go and tell the head teacher the same. This is nonsense, it's doing no good at all and it is damaging. Tell them to take the picture whether her hair is messy, neat or all shaved off, the photo is of her, not of a hairstyle.

Denman how did it go? Is the Head chastened over the head?

TRex what a weird and unnecessarily aggressive way to speak to the class teacher who will have no idea what it's all about.