Dp is a twat

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I've name changed because I'm so embarrassed.

One of dp and my friends came too see me today, she came to tell me that while dp was out with a bunch of our friends he took it upon himself to discuss our sex life.

He told them what gets me off and the things we get up to. The sounds I make and other really personal things that I wouldn't want anyone else knowing. Every intimate detail.

My friend said that she told him to stop it but the males of the group were egging him on to tell more. So he did.

Now I personally think that what goes on between us should stay between us. I feel humiliated and really upset. It's a total breach of trust IMO.

Aibu if I bin bag all his belongings and chuck the twat out?

YANBU.

I could never trust someone again if they did that to me.
And good on her for telling you too.

That shows a shocking lack of respect for you and your privacy. I notice he told them all about what gets you off, probably not sharing any info about himself.

I'd be having a very serious think about what kind of future you want with this idiot.

Get rid! YANBU. What does he have to say for himself?
Chuck him and find someone who isn't a twat.

Definitely a twat of the highest order. I'd also be fuming about the mates egging him on (presuming they are your friends too) - coz that's just weird

There is no way you can trust him after that? What else would he think is good gossip for his mates? It's so childish and nasty.

Has he done anything like this before, about anyone/anything? It is really weird, it totally undermines you and shows no regard whatsoever for you or your relationship.

I would bag up his stuff and tell him to take his nasty mind elsewhere.

I am sorry OP, it can't have been pleasant to hear but at least you do know you have a good friend, who may help you remain strong when he starts to cry at you!

Are you sure?

Do men really discuss shit like that?

YABVVVU.

Binning is nowhere near bad enough. Dump his shit in a bin and set it on fire.

He's a 37 year old man FFs. Not some teenager.

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Toy knowledge he's never done this before. He's out playing golf with these friends now so he doesn't have a clue that I know.

Whenever he acts like a tit he blames it on being drunk. There's no excuse in my book.

YADNBU. I had an ex do this to me with his workmates, who I also had to work with. I didn't know until the gf of one of the workmates told me why they were all asking me weird questions! I wouldn't have been so fuming if it wasn't for the fact that he had also shared all this with my male boss. Indid get him back though, but that would likely out me.

Its a horrible feeling of betrayal. If you do chuck him out, label all the bags with "fuckingfumingsdh's anal beads" "fuckingfumingsdh's penis enlarger". And leave them where his mates can see!

Also yes. Get rid. Obvs. Trading intimate details for cheap laughs is so far beyond the pale.

"Are you sure ?"

Do you think op's friend could be lying ? Which is the most likely scenario here ?

"Aibu if I bin bag all his belongings and chuck the twat out?"

Absolutely not!

I didn't think that these men existed tbh.

Not only talking about personal stuff, but others wanting to know the details!

He's effectively reduced you to a piece of meat in front of his friends. A real man would build you up in front of his friends, not this.

Get rid.

What a knobber! YANBU to give him marching orders!

I suggest you ask him for his version of events before doing something you might regret if your friend has been shit stirring.

I'm not saying she is, but it's worth considering if dp doesn't normally have for for this.

We have been together for 18 years. We were each other's first sexual partner so we have learned things together.

I never thought he would do anything like this. I feel degraded and dirty, I know that sounds dramatic but I genuinely do.

I did wonder if the friend might be lying also but it read to me that they had given the OP actual examples of what was said rather than just said in general "your OH told his mates intimate stuff" iyswim.

"He always blames drink when he has acted like a tit"

Sounds like he has form.

My friend wouldn't make it up. She has nothing to gain from it at all.

I had wondered why I have been getting winks and sniggers. I've been made into a joke.

When he has a drink he acts like a tit. Nothing violent or nasty though.

In that case...

... Revenge O'Clock

YANBU. Your dp is indeed a twat.

Do you have kids?