To think that a double standard applies to cock size?

[Babycham1979]

Sorry in advance, this is a thread about a thread. On the sex forum, there was a discussion about whether you can assess a guy's cock size based on any other part of his body (of course you can't).

However, it strikes me that the way women discuss men's dicks would be considered utterly unacceptable if the sexes were reversed. Surely, a big cock is no different to a tight vagina (and a small one, a very loose vagina), but if men regularly and publicly made jokes about, or compared women's tightness/looseness, they'd be strung up from the nearest lamppost.

AIBU?

[IrishDad79]

Well, "most women" may have been loose terminology on my part, but I certainly think it's a fair proportion of women who do this. I'm inclined to believe MinecraftWonder's testimony as being closer to the reality than most of you are willing to admit. Truthfully, have none of you ever asked a friend, after a liaison or ONS with a guy, about the size of that guy's cock?

I mean, I've seen threads here where women describe not only their own OH's penis, but that of her sisters'/friends' OHs' penis also (as recounted to her by said friend/sister).

I can't imagine a scenario where I, or my brothers or my friends, would discuss our partners' genitalia either with one another or even anonymously on one of these forums.

[SanityClause]

Nope. Not something I recall happening on MN threads, IrishDad. Link?

[SanityClause]

And here we do have the double standard. You and your friends don't do it. So, that's representative of all men. But a small number of people purporting to be women on a thread, on a site visited by at least hundreds of thousands do it, and that is representative of all women.

You are judging women far more harshly than you are judging men.

[madwomanbackintheattic]

Never. Sorry to disappoint. i'm sure it won't affect your fantasy female discussion assumptions though.
Why would I even want to know?!..... What am I supposed to DO with that information? Run home and fantasise about so and so's dp? Ew. No ta.

I'm loving that sex and the city is being used as evidence, though. Really. It brings a whole new meaning to the nn Mr Big.

[KurriKurri]

I can't imagine a scenario where I, or my brothers or my friends, would discuss our partners' genitalia

And yet you can imagine women doing this on a regular basis' How odd of you.

Why are you 'inclined to believe' the one person who agrees with you rather than the many who don't? Again - how strange.

You seemed to be outraged at an imaginary thing that imaginary women are doing, and eager to disregard real women telling you that they have never and would never do this.

As to threads on a forum - I have seen far more threads on here about men who have made derogatory reference to the size of their partner's vagina, than I have seen threads where women make remarks about penis size.
But it is a forum with thousands of members - I don't assume that a few posts about such things represent the majority of men or the majority of women.

In real life I have never heard women or men do it. But disregard that and wait for the one post that will tell you you are right, so you can continue in your fantasy world where women talk about penis size all the time. That fact is, difficult as it may be to accept, we're just not that interested in your cocks.

[IrishDad79]

Sanity, don't be so naive. If you really want, I'll post links to those threads but you can just google it yourself and you'll find them.

[SanityClause]

Its your point to prove, IrishDad.

[WorraLiberty]

Truthfully, have none of you ever asked a friend, after a liaison or ONS with a guy, about the size of that guy's cock?

No, never.

And I've managed to get to 46 years old without doing so, and without ever hearing my friends do it either

[MinecraftWonder]

Nope. Not something I recall happening on MN threads, IrishDad.

Seriously?

Go on advanced search and type in 'cock size'.

There are many threads where it's referred to (and I've only spent a couple of minutes looking) - questions about whether size matters, does your oh satisfy you in that department (related to penis size), a few disclaimers about how size definitely matters, all on different threads.

[MinecraftWonder]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1372710-AIBU-about-being-dissatisfied-by-my-mans-Penis

A few very...helpful...pointers on that one, about how to make sex better if you unfortunately have an oh with a tiny wang

[lljkk]

I've had women volunteer this kind of info to me about their experiences. Just nattering, ain't it?

[MinecraftWonder]

For the poster who pointed out that Sex and the City isn't actually real - yes i'm aware of that, but that's not really the point.

SATC was marketed as four sexy, sassy, modern women which I can imagine many idiots would see as role models. It was seen as acceptable for these glamorous women to be discussing penis size openly in the not too distant past.

Imagine the reverse - four high powered, sexy confident NY men, who regularly have in-depth discussions about the width and elasticity of women's vaginas.

It wouldn't even make it to air.

[fulldutypaid]

I like a bit of sexist banter myself.

[SanityClause]

Did you read the thread, Minecraft?

For a start, it's from 4 years ago. Hardly a day to day occurrence on MN, then.

Secondly, the consensus seems to be, well he can't help having s small penis, and if he is satisfying you in other ways, then that's fine.

There is also the assumption by many posters that the OP is not female, anyway.

You'll have to do better than that.

[AnyFucker]

Oh dear

[MinecraftWonder]

Excuses excuses...does it matter how old it is? Isn't the point that so many posters are denying it ever happens?

You're not serious Slug? These are all direct quotes from that thread (and only about half of it, I didn't bother collating the 'evidence' from the rest.

Are these cock measurements whilst soft or hard?

Some small soft cocks get very big when hard and some big soft cocks don't growing at all

OP if your husband shaved his todger would look bigger

In my experience men with big cocks have a tendency to think it's the be all and end all

[DiscoGoGo]

This thread is swiftly turning bizarre.

"SATC was marketed as four sexy, sassy, modern women which I can imagine many idiots would see as role models. "

That's not a very nice thing to say. Basically that lots of women who watched sex and the city were idiots

I also think it's weird to call women "naive" for pointing out that they and their friends don't discuss their OH dicks.

I would also continue to strongly refute the idea that women are much worse than men when it comes to objectification and talking about people's body parts.

And as a final note I would posit that if anyone is obsessed with cocks and their size and what can be done with them it's men and most especially their own.

Refer to the PP who talks about the flood of unsolicited dick pics that women receive.
Note how many women have had the pleasure of having a stranger show her their on a tube, bus or train
Recall how many young girls have had men draw attention to their groin area in passing
Consider the thrust (ha!) of mainstream porn made by men for men and most often featuring women (or men) engaged in frantic dick worship

And the ask yourself who is obsessed with cocks here? It ain't women.

This thread is a brilliant demonstration of how what a person thinks reveals more about them than anyone else.

YES I have discussed ONS with friends. NO the conversation did not revolve around, or even touch on, the size or girth of the blokes cock. Because there are far more interesting things to talk about. Penises Are Not Very Interesting except to their owners.

[DiscoGoGo]

lol @ minecraft stating that there are posters on this thread claiming that no woman has ever talked about size in the history of the world ever

It's this idea isn't it, that men can do whatever the fuck they like, and frequently do, but if one woman steps just one toe out of line one time, then thats' IT and it totally all cancels out and women are all bitches anyway innit I always knew it.

[MinecraftWonder]

Disco, I enjoy a bit of SATC at times. I didn't call anyone who watches it an idiot. I was talking about impressionable women who think they're cool and put them on a pedestal as role models.

[MinecraftWonder]

Said who Disco? Certainly not me if that's what you're getting at.

There are women saying it never happens, the most recent saying she'd never seen it on mn. You don't need to scroll far...

[DiscoGoGo]

You said that many would see them as role models.

And then used the crossing out to say that you considered those many people to be idiots.

It's not vague.

How upset do you feel about the sort of response women get from men on the internet, by the way?

Also, are you going to head over to some gay sites and tell them to stop talking about cock? It seems to be quite a popular topic.

[DiscoGoGo]

If someone says they haven't seen it on MN then they haven't seen it on MN.

There are thousands of threads on here, tens of thousands of users, and MNers are not all online looking at MN 24/7.

So if someone says they haven't seen a thread where people talk about penis size, then how is that unbelievable?

[MinecraftWonder]

I was referring to your second paragraph, not the bit about SATC.

Tbh i'm not really upset about any of it.

I was posting in response to many direct quotes saying how they could never imagine discussing penis size, that no one they knew did it and finally that it had never been seen on mn.

Which is quite clearly (the mn part) rubbish.

[DiscoGoGo]

It's not rubbish if a woman says that she doesn't talk about it, and her friends don't , and she's not seen it on MN.

You're automatic jump to "that woman's a bloody liar" seems a bit strange.

I'm interested to know your answers to my other questions though.