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AIBU?

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To think that a double standard applies to cock size?

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Babycham1979 · 04/10/2015 20:25

Sorry in advance, this is a thread about a thread. On the sex forum, there was a discussion about whether you can assess a guy's cock size based on any other part of his body (of course you can't).

However, it strikes me that the way women discuss men's dicks would be considered utterly unacceptable if the sexes were reversed. Surely, a big cock is no different to a tight vagina (and a small one, a very loose vagina), but if men regularly and publicly made jokes about, or compared women's tightness/looseness, they'd be strung up from the nearest lamppost.

AIBU?

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LieselVonTwat · 05/10/2015 09:30

Not really my thing either, it makes me feel uncomfortable. I usually rather enjoy graphic discussions, too.

RoboticSealpup · 05/10/2015 09:31

#notallwomen make comments about cock size. I've never done it. So your argument about it being demeaning to men is void.

Sorry, I've always wanted to derail an argument about poor little men in that way. It's also true that I have never made such a comment and I never would. On balance, however, women usually bear the brunt of objectification (reducing people to bodyparts) so I struggle to see this as sexism against men, the same way I don't think it's racism if a black person calls me a "honky".

IrishDad79 · 05/10/2015 13:15

I'd wager that most women, particularly close friends and sisters, discuss their DH's/BF's cock size amongst each other.

I have two brothers and a large group of (male) friends from school of over 20 years standing and I can safely say that I've never once discussed their wives'/girlfriends' genitalia with them.

thehypocritesoaf · 05/10/2015 13:21

God no, I never ever have, and no one ever has to me.

What makes you think that is something women routinely do?

AnyFucker · 05/10/2015 13:31

IrishDad79, nope.

babybarrister · 05/10/2015 13:31

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AnyFucker · 05/10/2015 13:32

Perhaps you get a kick out of thinking that women have nothing better to do than to compare their bloke's cocks though, yeah ?

beefthief · 05/10/2015 14:15

Men have many societal benefits over women. If you choose to push back and say "the thing I find most unacceptable is that it's okay to talk about boob size, but not cock size", then that's your right, but it's an odd battle to pick.

Particularly since fighting unpleasantness with more unpleasantness is, well, unpleasant. Be nice to each other.

DiscoGoGo · 05/10/2015 14:33

OMG Irish dad what on earth makes you think that is a normal thing to do? I've never done that.

Maybe part of the issue here is men getting annoyed at what they assume women talk about when there are no men around. Their assumptions are probably based on knowing how men talk when women aren't around.

That's the only explanation I can think of.

DiscoGoGo · 05/10/2015 14:37

AF yes there is suspicion about what women get up to when there aren't blokes around. Men assume we sit around complaining about their dicks apparently. Because obviously women have nothing better to talk about.

Actually when it comes to joking and taking the piss out of mens bodies, abilities, dick size or state etc when you hear that it's usually men making fun of each other.

Plus as I mentioned earlier lots of chat about this on the net amongst gay men. ..

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 05/10/2015 14:37

IrishDad I can assure you I have never discussed the size of DHs cock with anyone, nor been told any details about the size of anyone else's cock.

Do you really think we have nothing more interesting to talk about? Or so crass to chat about something so intimate?

KurriKurri · 05/10/2015 14:40

IrishDad79 - no never.

Maybe its a male thing thinking women are talking about them and their cocks all the time?

God forbid we should talk about politics/culture/science/our jobs/anything remotely intelligent, our brains might turn to scribble.

Lamination · 05/10/2015 14:45

Omg irish dad, never here either and I have lots of female friends and never a whisper about their partner's cock sizes either. Plenty of men have shared their cock stats though. Really I couldn't give a chuff about the willy of my partner...sex is much much more and life and the importance stuff much more again.

AnyFucker · 05/10/2015 14:47

Just another bogstandard cock-obsessed mansplainer.

Ten a fucking penny on this site

eedon · 05/10/2015 14:48

Yes because all women talk about to each other is cock sizes, that's all we think about.

The amount of times I've felt sick from some ugly knob photo sent on online dating. 99% of them are ghastly really don't know why they do it!

MinecraftWonder · 05/10/2015 14:52

YANBU op.

If men were overheared comparing their oh's breast size, you'd think they were a bunch of shallow and objectifying arseholes.

If they were discussing how tight their vagina's were, there'd be uproar.

It is seen as much more acceptable for women to discuss penis size. I've been in groups where women have done it, I've seen it on TV and in films (Sex and the City anyone? There's a whole flipping episode about the cock size of someone Samantha is shagging).

It's wrong on both sides.

happyending14 · 05/10/2015 14:55

irishdad I haven't either.

eedon · 05/10/2015 14:57

Sex and the city isn't real, its a group of gay guys that wrote a show where hetro women act like they are on the gay scene.

RoboticSealpup · 05/10/2015 15:01

irishdad if you seriously believe that women routinely disrespect and objectify their life partner for laughs, my guess is you've either had some horrible experiences with nasty women, or you're doing something similar yourself, so you think it's normal. Which is it?

RufusTheReindeer · 05/10/2015 15:51

irishdad is talking bollocks

"I'll wager" is code for "i've no idea if women do this or not but i bet they do because what else do they have to talk about"

Having said that DH is convinced that whenever i get together with friends that a topless pillowfight ensues...keeps him happy for hours

eedon · 05/10/2015 16:02

I'm having two girlfriends over for dinner tonight. We will discuss politics, culture, business and the environment. I won't be going "hey Suzzie that guy I'm seeing has a really thick one".

slugseatlettuce · 05/10/2015 16:10

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madwomanbackintheattic · 05/10/2015 16:29

I'm 44 and have never had a comparative discussion about penis size with any girlfriend in my life. Bit of wishful thinking there, Irish, I'd wager. Says a lot more about you than it says about any woman that has ever been in my social sphere...

AF nailed it. Just another cock-obsessed mansplainer.

Bottlecap · 05/10/2015 16:53

I'd wager that most women, particularly close friends and sisters, discuss their DH's/BF's cock size amongst each other.

Nonsense. Fortunately, I don't know anyone this coarse. I haven't discussed sex with my sister or friends since I was a teenager.

Bottlecap · 05/10/2015 16:54

Having said that DH is convinced that whenever i get together with friends that a topless pillowfight ensues...keeps him happy for hours

LOLz

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