To think that going out with the "girls" isn't the B all and end all and that maybe these people need to grow up and stop dumping their kids on people so that they can go out and get drunk!

[Suzi78]

Just that really. I have shall we say aquaintences on Facebook who I've known from various places, work, college, school etc and their posts are full of nights out, holidays, lunches etc and this is all they seem to care about. There are four women in particular, three of whom are single parents (if you can call it that) and the other is married. There Facebook feeds are all about how they can't wait to dump the kids on their fathers at the weekend as they can't wait to go clubbing, to parties, concerts etc etc, but are dreading their hangovers the next day!

Now I know that everyone is entitled to a bit of me time and shouldn't be begrudged a night out but with these women it's every single week! Three of them don't even work so I don't know how they afford to go out every week as well as buying a new outfit, getting their hair done weekly, manicures etc.
As far a I'm concerned (before anyone suggests it, and I know that they will) I'm not jealous, I'm relitively happy with my life and could chose to go out every weekend if I wanted to as I have enough friends who socialise in different circles and I'm always invited to go out, but I work all week, my children go to after school club so weekends are for family time. Now I know that people do things differently and whilst that's all good I don't know how these women can just dump their kids every week not spend any time with them and spend their money on goog out when their kids need things first. I know I'll probably get flamed for saying this but I dot care, I think it's disgrace, a parent is supposed to put her kids before everything (within reason) and clearly these women don't give a damn and would rather spend their time getting drunk on nights out than with their child and spend money on flashy clothes and haircuts rather than on their children, AIBU to think this is kind of sad?

Argh, I'm swearing too much now. I just can't believe how sanctimonious and smug this OP is.

Thanks, Accidental. It was tough going, especially all those lovely country walks my Grandad took me on, or having cosy chat in the kitchen with my Gran whilst she baked, but I'm sure I'll get over the horror at some point.

Suzi, we get it. Your life is so much better than other people's, and you are the ultimate Mumsnet parent. Here you go, special one .

Yes grandparents :( mine let me eat cocopops all night and stay up till 10pm - the bastards

I sometimes dump my kids on my mum - you know in the school hols so I can WORK. The evil bitch takes them crabbing, for ice cream, to the park, to the museum, for lunch, to the cinema - she's a tyrant - I pity those poor dumped children forced to spend time with people who love the bones of them

You are now trying to validate how you spend your free time .

Do what suits you and what you enjoy, why not gift the same consideration to others?

"I have a dh at home and don't have to wait for the weekend to "dump" my kids on my ex, the difference is I don't feel the need to escape my kids."

It doesn't sound as if you have any insight into the lot of the lone parent, or the realities of court-ordered access.

I hope your smug married state endures (and that's a genuine wish, not a PA attack, because I think you'd find the adjustment even harder than it usually is).

Earshit I'm jealous. ExH doesn't do overnights right now. I get my first in weeks next Saturday.

Dp and I are planning on dropping fast and running to the nearest pub asap.

We have plans for lots of alcohol and lots of noisy sex.

ODFOD

Why does your husband get to go out to the pub but you can only have friends over? Friends who bring their children with them so it's not exactly down time for you is it?

You sound like you need a good night out OP. And that doesn't have to mean getting hammered, just time away from the home and responsibility for the night. Or is that just something that men get to do in your opinion?

their not escaping their kids either, their making use of the time they have their ex has them. You can go out any time you like, so why are you dictating when other people can or can't?! For oh the fourth fourth million time their not dumping their kids their facitaliting access! In some cases a legal requirement!

I assume "working" reason means "within" reason. Y'see OP, that's pretty subjective and going on your previous posts, perhaps "within reason" for you pretty soon won't be "withing reason" for your teenage DS.

And when you're standing at your front door with the rolling pin in your hand saying "what time do you call this then?" cause DS has stayed out past your concept of "within reason"...well, then...perhaps a little bit of um dissent might occur. And then maybe you'll have to upsticks and move out of Stepford because you just don't fit in there any longer.

Classy, very classy!

Blooming heck!!!

Well you're getting the flaming you expected are you not.

Is it that despite two of them not working they somehow have the cash to go out and spend it however they wish and yet you work all week and can't afford it even if you wanted too? Because if so that galls me too!

And I don't know how people afford to go out on the lash every week working or not.

Think a lot of posters on here are jumping in and having a go just for the sake of it now.

Hands op another flameproof coat

So you don't like adult company and prefer to be with your kids all the time? Can't say I'm surprised - judging from your attitude on here you're sorely lacking in social and conversational skills.

Haven't RTFT but I kind of agree op.
I've got friends in their late 30's & 40's, all with 2 or 3 young kids, still doing the weekly nights out with the girls & weekends away for various birthdays. All posted on Facebook to remind the rest of us how exciting their life is ( if you're having that great a time why are you uploading pictures every hour on the hour )
It is bordering on sad territory when you're still prancing about like an 18 year old in your 40's. Now & again yes - every week. No.

I thought from the thread title that the friends might be dumping the kids on you...but they aren't so it really really doesn't matter how they spend their time.

I don't get what you are so annoyed about, I really don't

we hardly see them all night, they're upstairs watching films and playing games whilst me and my friends have a few glasses of wine and have a good gossip. Sorry if that doesn't sound like fun to some of you but I love it.

So your dumping your youngest kids on their friends kids themselves - how is that better than them spending time with their dad?! (Lighthearted Jibe to point out hypocasy)

Tbh sounds like a lovely night, but you've said it yourself, sorry if some people don't find it fun, no they won't just like you don't find it fun going out and getting drunk, different strokes for different folks! The difference is their not coming on here going this married friend of mine never leaves her kids, we have to trapse round hers have dinner and wine while our kids play upstairs, what's wrong with getting a babysitter or leaving them with their dad so we can have a night out when my kids are on access!

Btw we'd tell them they were being unreasonable too!

Hiya, not really as me and dh don't struggle for money,(we aren't rich we are just careful) so we can go out whenever we want to be honest. I've already said that I understand that people live their lives differently to me and dh but I just dot understand the need to want to go out and get hammered every weekend. And why people keep telling me that I need a night out I don't get as I'll have a night out whenever I chose to, I'm not dictated to by an ex or a schedule, apart from work I'm quite "free" really.

I'm bored with you now OP. Ta ra.

Yes of course I'm dumping my kids on my friends kids, of course I am! I mean they're only a floor up playing monopoly or watching a film on Netflix whilst we are downstairs having a gab. And to whoever said I don't love adult company are you crazy? I love nothing more than adult company, my work colleagues are ace, we have such a laugh and my friends too are amazing people, they just have children and can't always leave those children in order to go out on the lash, so we do the next best thing and meet up at one another's houses.