3 children in 3 bed house

[marzipancustard]

I'm asking for other opinions as my sister is doing my head in! We're planning on having 2/3 children in the future & currently live in a 3 bed. My sister has a v large 4 bed detached and plans to have 2 little ones. She keeps telling me (in a very patronising way) that if we have 3 children we'll have to move to a 4 bed because it would be cruel to make 2 children share?

This is total BS, right? We shared a room growing up and I'm sure loads of kids do, don't they? Is it cruel making them share?

Your sister should keep her opinions to herself. It's nothing to do with her and it is ok for siblings to share.

Having said that as others have said you must be prepared if it doesn't work when the DC are older.

I'm the eldest of 5 and our little brother was give the box room. The four girls shared the largest bedroom. It was a very big room with enough space for two single beds, a bunk bed and just about enough storage. We didn't have much stuff anyway. It was ok even though me and the next sister down didn't get on. We often argued and fought like cats. It got steadily worse until I was about 13/14 and she was 11/12. By then she was as big as me and she used to steal the few clothes I had. We had no private space. I used to spend lots of time at friends homes listening to music/chatting in their (single occupancy) bedrooms. I would also sit in the shed at home sometimes. I don't think dividing the bedroom would have worked for us. My sis would have still searched through my stuff and read letters from my first boy friend. He was away in the navy. She would still have been a bitch if we had separate rooms!

I married at 18. I'm sure the reason I wanted to marry so young was to escape from the family home. This was over forty years ago and we are still married. My nasty little sister is now my best friend. We joke now that we could never live together.

My own six DC all shared with siblings when they were younger. It is a lovely when they are small and through the primary school years. IMO they do need private space when they are older. We did extend to six beds eventually. Before that we did enforce private space even in shared rooms and we always had somewhere for school work away from the younger ones.

Of course they can share. However, as they get older be prepared for endless arguements and one or more of them hating it. My 2 have just got their own rooms after 7 years of sharing happily and they are delighted.