Telling school about child's behaviour (out of uniform) at park?

[ParkLifeShit]

Name change as I've told a couple of friends about this and have no idea whether they are on here!

Reception age child was extremely unpleasant at the park. Pushed DS (3) multiple times down a high slide (an enclosed one like a water slide). Each time DS asked him to not push this time and he said he wouldn't. Then as DS neared the mouth of the slide, he pushed him (both hands) again. Resulted in DS being badly winded, very upset and unable to stand straight for well over an hour.

It wasn't an accident, I watched him (and told him off as he repeatedly did it). I told his mother what had happened and that I'd had to tell him off (she was on the other side of the park). She didn't seem that interested and certainly didn't tell him off as I would have done but I guess that's her choice.

As an infant school teacher, I would actually value this kind of information and would use it to talk to the children about their behaviour both in and outside of school.

However, I'm 8 months pregnant and therefore perhaps over-reacting. My heart was breaking for my DS as he asked so nicely for the boy to not push and kept trying to use the slide. But he's my first so maybe I'm being PFB?

So WIBU to tell the school that the boy goes to or just chalk it up to a bad experience?

at some of the responses on this thread.

Either mean drunks or hit a nerve it seems.

Especially after the op agreed she was being unreasonable pretty early on.

Aero Fair point! My Sunday morning brain fog hadn't totally cleared whilst writing that. Teaching a three yr old assertiveness skills is pretty ludicrous! I think I just wanted to give the OP something constructive to think about since she's had such an unnecessary amount of flak. I'm fairly new to Mumsnet so not had much exposure to the darker side but it's really horrible to read people goading/interrogating others who have just asked for a bit of advice. I may stick to the pregnancy/antenatal threads in future as I've not seen anything anywhere near as unpleasant on those boards. Hope you're ok OP. You seem like a decent person with your head screwed on who just had a difficult day at the office (family-wise). You can't control anyone else's bad behaviour (both on here or in RL) so don't take any of the events of the last couple of days to heart.

I don't see that anyone has condoned either the other lads behavior or his mums attitude. So I don't see why everyone is getting ott making digs about people thinking the behavior is acceptable. Unless I missed it nobody said it was, just that op was bu to go to the school.

I also think all those piling in to make snide digs and shout 'bully' in ops defence, are displaying more nastiness than anything said to the op.

Really Lurked? I don't see that at all.

Totally disagree with your second paragraph Lurked.

I know I commented to reassure the op that some of the earlier posts are not pleasant or necessary. To give the thread more balance. Not to be 'nasty'.

I'd imagine others felt the same.

It is nice to witness calmer children getting hurt by the boisterous ones!

Sorry ButtonMoon, but your mistake made me just burst out laughing!!

Hahahahah it's because it's a Sunday morning and I'm sleep deprived

Me too hazey

I have a mental image of Button sitting in the park with sandwiches and a flask!

I didn't say everyone defending the op. I said those making snide digs etc

Haha worra oh god disclaimer I do not encourage my children to attack the weak quiet ones!!

Preschool Fight Club - bring it on!

My god op you've got some exceptionally bitchy replies on here. Absolutely nothing wrong with you telling off the other child and I'd be furious with other mum for not doing anything about her childs behaviour. He might only be 4 but they do need boundaries.

If it makes you happier to ring the school then do it - it's probably behaviour they see at school too and they can address it (speaking as a primary teacher here, we've had those calls). Don't know how you know which school it is though?

OP I think you deserve an unmumsnetty hug...

I can't believe how harsh some of the replies on this thread are. Little Kid gets hurt by Bigger Kid, Bigger Kid's mum doesn't seem to give a shit, Little Kid's mum gets rather upset, moreso than usual due to pregnancy hormones... Totally normal! Surely it's basic maternal instinct to get somewhat upset or pissed off when someone hurts your child, regardless of whether that person is 4 years old or 14 years old or 40 years old. (Paternal instinct too for that matter, DH is even more protective over DS than I am...)

I would feel exactly the same way in your situation. I feel a little flutter of anxiety every time some bigger kids go stampeding around my toddler at the park or soft play because I can see how small he is and how easily he could get hurt by them, accidentally or on purpose. I really think this is normal and I can't understand why so many people on this thread think it's being hysterical...

I'm not sure why I get the shiny viper trophy (I didn't for example say "that kind of ott PFB mentality, from a reception teacher, is what concerns me. Truly scares me"); but I'm happy to take it on if it makes people feel better about, erm, life in general.

My older son, when he was the age of the OP's child, reacted extremely to situations - knocks, bumps etc - that would see others his age bouncing back within moments. Turns out he had a serious (albeit easily controlled, once diagnosed) underlying condition. I still think that not being able to stand up straight for 'well over an hour' after being pushed down a slide would, for me, be a cause for concern. But if it was just hyperbole, that's fine.