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Original poster

Telling school about child's behaviour (out of uniform) at park?

164 replies

ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 22:25

Name change as I've told a couple of friends about this and have no idea whether they are on here!

Reception age child was extremely unpleasant at the park. Pushed DS (3) multiple times down a high slide (an enclosed one like a water slide). Each time DS asked him to not push this time and he said he wouldn't. Then as DS neared the mouth of the slide, he pushed him (both hands) again. Resulted in DS being badly winded, very upset and unable to stand straight for well over an hour.

It wasn't an accident, I watched him (and told him off as he repeatedly did it). I told his mother what had happened and that I'd had to tell him off (she was on the other side of the park). She didn't seem that interested and certainly didn't tell him off as I would have done but I guess that's her choice.

As an infant school teacher, I would actually value this kind of information and would use it to talk to the children about their behaviour both in and outside of school.

However, I'm 8 months pregnant and therefore perhaps over-reacting. My heart was breaking for my DS as he asked so nicely for the boy to not push and kept trying to use the slide. But he's my first so maybe I'm being PFB?

So WIBU to tell the school that the boy goes to or just chalk it up to a bad experience?

OP posts:
Aeroflotgirl · 27/09/2015 08:42

There are some downright nasty and spiteful people on here, yes Aibu can be like shark infested water, approach with caution!

Aeroflotgirl · 27/09/2015 08:44

I agree, the boy's mother was at fault here, too busy texting or having a quick power nap to see what was happening, then when op approached, coukd not give a toss attitude. lazy unacceptable parenting.

CarShare · 27/09/2015 08:48

It must be really upsetting and frustrating to have witnessed your son being pushed about but maybe work on how your son can assert himself in these situations if you feel you want to do something productive. Some of the responses on here have been particularly antagonistic (not sure why, it's clear you're just upset about an unpleasant day for your family and quickly said you wouldn't go to the school). Hope you have a nice day with your family Flowers

JassyRadlett · 27/09/2015 08:50

I'm surprised that more people aren't advising the OP that it looks as though her child might have a serious underlying condition. Because "being unable to stand straight for well over an hour" after being pushed down a slide a couple of times is a serious red flag.

I'm enjoying this display of your medical expertise in over-the-internet diagnosis alongside your clear high level of knowledge and experience in child behaviour.

How are you at plumbing? My shower is on the blink.

anothermakesthree · 27/09/2015 08:51

You 'watched' as your child was repeatedly pushed down a slide. Hmm

Aeroflotgirl · 27/09/2015 08:52

Op ds is only 3, yes he was telling the boy not to hit him, how more assertive can a very young child be!

LadyPenelope68 · 27/09/2015 08:57

A child out of school hurt your child at a park, was accompanied by his Mother and you spoke to her. End of story! If you weren't happy with her response I'm afraid that's tough luck! As for contacting the School about it, if you are a teacher you'd realise how stupid you'd look!!

ButtonMoon88 · 27/09/2015 08:58

parklife I can sympathise with you greatly and I think the response you had on here is just the result of a few miserable people jumping on the bandwagon. Yes you would have over reacted if you had told the school but in the moment I can understand why you would think to do so as mum certainly didn't seem to care! One day this little boy will get pushed so hard and all of a sudden his mum will listen. Hope your DC is ok, maybe it's a good lesson for him to use his own voice. It is nice to witness calmer children getting hurt by the boisterous ones!

Original poster
ParkLifeShit · 27/09/2015 08:58

Yes another I just stood about and watched. I occasionally shouted some encouragement to the boy doing the pushing, to make sure he did a really thorough job.

OP posts:
ButtonMoon88 · 27/09/2015 08:59

That should say it isn't nice to witness...

Original poster
ParkLifeShit · 27/09/2015 09:00

Please RTFT! I've said I won't be contacting the school on the first page!!!

OP posts:
parrotsummer · 27/09/2015 09:03

'Am I being unreasonable'
'Yes'
'Ok, thanks.'
'Insult insult insult.'

Hmm
JassyRadlett · 27/09/2015 09:03

Reading comprehension doesn't seem to be a strength for many folk on this thread, OP.

Mememememe15 · 27/09/2015 09:26

I love how you suddenly became a teacher last night! Can I join your super quick course ????

parrotsummer · 27/09/2015 09:29
Confused

She said on page 1 she's a teacher.

Mememememe15 · 27/09/2015 09:31

I know but someone said she suddenly became a teacher, some people do make me LOL

parrotsummer · 27/09/2015 09:32

Still Confused

Hopefully the OP has 'lol'd at the rudeness shown to her. It would have rather upset me, actually.

TwatByName · 27/09/2015 09:34

What the fuck does it matter if she's a teacher or not, or if she said it in the OP/page 1 or page 5?

Some poster, are making themselves look like proper twats

Aeroflotgirl · 27/09/2015 09:36

Some people just add bits to and twist things to their own advantage. That is why I rarely start threads.

Mememememe15 · 27/09/2015 09:37

They sure are, she did say a few pages she wasn't going to speak to the school yet they continue to post

I've not been on AIBU before, I didn't realise how bitchy it can get

Notoedike · 27/09/2015 09:42

The behaviour of certain posters on this thread has been disgraceful!

Original poster
ParkLifeShit · 27/09/2015 09:43

Absolutely meme enroll at teachingisapieceofpiss.com Grin

I knew what you meant Smile

It did upset me parrot but thankfully some less bitchy more sensible posters have come out of the woodwork this morning so am able to see the funny side. A bit.

Anyway, am going to leave it now for my own sanity!

OP posts:
parrotsummer · 27/09/2015 09:45

Good luck with your pregnancy Cake

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 27/09/2015 09:55

Bloody hell ParkLife! Not sure what caused all that nastiness. Hope you're ok. Brew

MrsGentlyBenevolent · 27/09/2015 09:56

I can see why some reacted negatively to your opening post. It does read a bit hysterical, then saying 'oh I'm pregnant by the way, so hormones', is like trying to excuse and over reaction. However, glad your son is ok - in future, I'd probably walk away sooner if it seems the other parent isn't dealing with it. Parks usually have more than one play item, no need to keep going back to where the rude child was.

Aero - there have been some posts on here that may be quite rude. However, you are rather hypocritical calling people "rude and spiteful", in one post and following it with a judgement on other parents, making unfounded assumtions on what they were doing and questioning their parenting on the whole. Rememeber, we only get half the story on here (if that at times).