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Telling school about child's behaviour (out of uniform) at park?

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 22:25

Name change as I've told a couple of friends about this and have no idea whether they are on here!

Reception age child was extremely unpleasant at the park. Pushed DS (3) multiple times down a high slide (an enclosed one like a water slide). Each time DS asked him to not push this time and he said he wouldn't. Then as DS neared the mouth of the slide, he pushed him (both hands) again. Resulted in DS being badly winded, very upset and unable to stand straight for well over an hour.

It wasn't an accident, I watched him (and told him off as he repeatedly did it). I told his mother what had happened and that I'd had to tell him off (she was on the other side of the park). She didn't seem that interested and certainly didn't tell him off as I would have done but I guess that's her choice.

As an infant school teacher, I would actually value this kind of information and would use it to talk to the children about their behaviour both in and outside of school.

However, I'm 8 months pregnant and therefore perhaps over-reacting. My heart was breaking for my DS as he asked so nicely for the boy to not push and kept trying to use the slide. But he's my first so maybe I'm being PFB?

So WIBU to tell the school that the boy goes to or just chalk it up to a bad experience?

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 22:57

Yes, he was fine.

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Permanentlyexhausted · 26/09/2015 22:57

With all due respect Parklife, you said you had to tell him off repeatedly and he continued to do it. I gave my advice based on what you'd told us. The child is presumably only 4, but it sounds as though he didn't think you exhibited enough authority to actually be obeyed.

multivac · 26/09/2015 22:59

maybe I'm being PFB

No maybe about it. Aren't you lucky to have the NHS on hand!

swimmerforlife · 26/09/2015 23:02

Well what are the school going to do about it? Tell him off again? Take some privileges away for something that happened out of school? Just leave it OP, kids will be kids.

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 23:02

As I said, I went on the GPs advice (over the phone). I spoke to a nurse who was on the desk as I decided that he was OK, to confirm my choice to leave. I didn't take up any more than a couple of minutes of anyone's time.

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 23:03

I've already said I'll be leaving it Smile

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LittleLionMansMummy · 26/09/2015 23:03

Op I would expect better behaviour from a reception aged child too. Ds is very boisterous but exceptionally gentle and understanding with younger children.

However I think that speaking to his school is over the top and for that yabu.

multivac · 26/09/2015 23:03

Jolly good, PLS. Now, are you going to hassle the kid's school, too?

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 23:05

As per my post at 22.45

Thank you for some of the kind replies on here. I'll certainly leave it and not tell the school.

Yes.

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multivac · 26/09/2015 23:05

littllelionetc
Why on earth would you expect better behaviour from random children, when your child is 'exceptional'?
Do you know what 'exceptional' means?

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 23:05

Sorry, that should say no, I won't be contacting the school,

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rollonthesummer · 26/09/2015 23:07

My uncle is a retired head. He tells us of a couple of phone calls that he had from members of the public on a Monday morning telling him about teenagers smoking in a nearby park on a Sunday afternoon. They were not in uniform (as it was a Sunday) and may or may not have been students at his school. What did they expect him to do!?

Aeroflotgirl · 26/09/2015 23:10

OP did not tell boy off repeatedly, she said he repeatedly pushed her ds, and she told him off!

Shutthatdoor · 26/09/2015 23:11

I know what school he goes to because he went to the same nursery as DS.

Going to the same nursery does not automatically mean going to the same school Hmm

LittleLionMansMummy · 26/09/2015 23:11

Actually yes you're right multivac, wrong word. Yes, most of the similar aged children I've come across wouldn't have behaved like that either. I suppose I mean that ds seems gentler/ more aware than most with younger children but I would still expect more awareness in primary school aged children generally.

Mememememe15 · 26/09/2015 23:12

Personally I'd expect better behaviour from the mother. Some of the replies you have had are harsh and uncalled for, children can be injured very easily

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ParkLifeShit · 26/09/2015 23:15

No need for the face Shut. I know what school he goes to because he went to the same nursery and know which children went to which school! If I didn't know which school, why would I even ask the question?!

Which is actually now redundant as I've already decided not to!

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Mememememe15 · 26/09/2015 23:16

Seems people can't read anymore, I've seen you state you're not going to speak to the school

Permanentlyexhausted · 26/09/2015 23:16

I don't think that is clear either way, Aeroflot

I watched him (and told him off as he repeatedly did it).

Perhaps she meant she told him off because he did it repeatedly. I took it to mean every time he did it she told him off. Semantics, maybe, but I don't think the meaning is clear.

Lurkedforever1 · 26/09/2015 23:18

Yabu. Schools have enough to do without getting involved in what an unsupervised 4yr old did on a slide yesterday.
I'm also suprised that if the other child was pushing so much you suspected cracked ribs, you let it happen more than once.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 26/09/2015 23:18

Yabu.

multivac · 26/09/2015 23:19

A four year old pushes a three year old down a (highly health and safety assessed) slide a couple of times. The NHS is called in to confirm the latter is fine (although I would still be concerned about a three-year-old who 'couldn't stand straight for well over an hour' after such a minor incident). But mumsnet has sorted it all out....

Mememememe15 · 26/09/2015 23:20

It does say the GP suspected broken rib

Mememememe15 · 26/09/2015 23:21

Cracked not broken*

IHaveBrilloHair · 26/09/2015 23:22

Why on earth did you not leave, you let this happen over and over?
The other child wasn't behaving nicely, but you watched it happen repeatedly, and then wanted to report it to the school.