being a twat with school uniform?

[Unreasonablebetty]

My husband says I'm being a bit of a twat and I thought I would check mumsnet for anyone else's opinion....
Every year, when it starts to get cold my daughter ditches the school dress and clarks shoes for a new pair of hunter wellies and leggings with a polo top and school jumper- usually with some kind of branded coat that's the same colour as the boots (yes lots of thought goes into this)
Now DD is almost 8, she's starting to take care of her clothes a bit more, would it be (as my husband says) a step too far for me to buy her Ralph Lauren polo tops for school in the winter?

He says it's fine that she has the hunter wellies, it's fine that she even has a designer coat, but the polo tops are just twattish and a bit "try hard" for school.
Maybe I'm seeing it wrongly, but I like Ralph Lauren, why not? I don't see why she can wear this stuff out of school and it's great, but in school it's a big no no?

I think it's very easy to sneer at people who are just trying to do their best for their kids. Like it or not, branded clothing does represent aspiration for some people, not because they're thick or horrible people. However, I reckon that in practical terms, OP, your daughter will look lovely in supermarket/high street polo shirts.

that is totally a troll post

Your daughter goes to school in Hunter Wellies? sure.
Try harder next time.

Have you read the whole thread Longstocking? Or at least the OP's subsequent posts?

I have never seen a school child in leggings when they were meant to be wearing uniform and the child's family had no money issues.

True, derxa, leggings are often a sign that a spare pair of Asda trousers for £4 is just too expensive, but 8 year olds don't see it like that and the teachers don't mention it of course so it isn't a problem.

Is she not underdressed in leggings and the top half of her uniform?

Really, dc just want to have the same clothes as everyone else at school. You say your mother gave you 'dodgy' clothes as a child and yet you are trying to mark your own dc out in the same way.

I really think this isn't real, just my opinion.

The most unhappy teenager I know has been indulged with clothes and gadgets so she measures herself (and other young people) by what they have/wear, making her unpopular except with those of similar views. She has many many multiples of the same item and boasts about them being designer/expensive. The mum grew up in a large family with not much money and can be very snobby. The girl often uses ' you are just jealous of all my things' to try to win arguments but now they are older, other dc just laugh at her lack of groundedness, sadly.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to give your DD good clothes. Why not teach her to mix and match items she likes from all sources (cheap to expensive)? My DC do that and are often complimented on combinations. They need that confidence in choosing clothes that suit them, not by their cost, to help them survive as grounded individual teenagers. Some young people use brands as a 'safe' uniform and need to develop confidence in their own style.

For school, make sure she is dressed like everyone else, or 'just above' if you want to e.g. if most wear Asda, buy Sainsburys; if most wear M&S, buy John Lewis. Then you can be sure she will be seen to be well dressed without standing out. At that age, they just want to match.

We all want to do our best for our DC, so you are on the right track. You are good enough already, we all are!

I don't believe this is a real post.

But all I can say is save the money, she is 8. No idea why anyone would want to buy designer clothes for a fast growing kid. Surely you are dressing her up like Barbie when she'd rather wear the regular uniform.

We all thought wind up too. Hence the chav conversation