being a twat with school uniform?

[Unreasonablebetty]

My husband says I'm being a bit of a twat and I thought I would check mumsnet for anyone else's opinion....
Every year, when it starts to get cold my daughter ditches the school dress and clarks shoes for a new pair of hunter wellies and leggings with a polo top and school jumper- usually with some kind of branded coat that's the same colour as the boots (yes lots of thought goes into this)
Now DD is almost 8, she's starting to take care of her clothes a bit more, would it be (as my husband says) a step too far for me to buy her Ralph Lauren polo tops for school in the winter?

He says it's fine that she has the hunter wellies, it's fine that she even has a designer coat, but the polo tops are just twattish and a bit "try hard" for school.
Maybe I'm seeing it wrongly, but I like Ralph Lauren, why not? I don't see why she can wear this stuff out of school and it's great, but in school it's a big no no?

CheekyMaleekey I only wear wellies for DS if it's pouring down raining, as the heavy rain ruins his school shoes.

Yes, plenty of children wear them in the rain. They're not everyday wear for school.

Sorry Cheeky re- read your post. Didn't know the OP wanted her DD to wear wellies everyday...

The whole "branded" look from head to toe is too much OP.

But why are Ralph Lauren polo shirts nicer than marks and spencer ones?
Why do you think your child has to have the nicest option of any thing anyway?

I think I might be the only one thinking go for it. If you want to buy something then go for it. I personally wouldnt be asking anyone elses opinion as I dont really care what others think but each to their own and so on

I know I seem obsessed with the welly thing, but surely it's "nicer" for her to have decent shoes than a pair of wellies?!

I love you OP

That is madness. Do you make sure the label is sticking out at the top so that everyone can see it and realise how much money you have wasted there?

Get a polo shirt from M & S, or the George range at Asda. No need to pay twattish prices for a thing she will probably outgrow within a few months.

I've never heard of a child willingly wearing wellies to school. Mine only ever did in snow. Otherwise they wouldn't. It was uncool.

Hunters are crap. I tried them for dog walking. Poor grips on the soles, and they split within a few weeks.

Muck boots are the biz for me, but why on earth not just get a good pair of plain black school shoes?

Twat

I hope the plimsols are designer ones!

Our school actively discourages any sort of designer label in school. They aren't needed in school, especially not primary school.

I don't see why she can wear this stuff out of school and it's great, but in school it's a big no no?

Polo shirts and wellies don't look good in or out of school.

I'm fascinated by the leggings.

I love this thread! It's like the TOWIE version of MN.

Brilliant!

I am beyond confused. Doesn't dd have a school uniform. ? My dcs get after school detention if ONE item is not proscribed. Can your 8 yr old really rock up to SCHOOL in designer gear? If so I would be very very worried about the place she is attending and be putting all my efforts into finding somewhere normal where children go to learn rather than worry about what labels they are wearing (or their parents more like).

Actually, having read it again... Well done op..this can be nothing but a windup to get a reaction. Bravo ! We fell for it.

My dd also attends a very naice state school in a very naice area.

No one wears Hunter Wellies, or any branded clothing. As someone up thread said 'flashy and common'

I bet the DD's mobile phone has to match the wellies and jacket!

Hula baby- thank you for your reply, it was kind of you.
I hadn't even given the whiteboard pens a thought. We had plenty of problems trying to get them out of last years polo tops.
Thank you for the reply, it's really appreciated.

And as for everyone else who accused me of stealth boosting (or whatever it was) and others who said that this was made up,
Really? I think I would have made something up a little further fetched. I asked a question because I do have a tendency to get carried away where my daughter is concerned, but not at all because I'm a chav, or because I want to be flashy or think my daughter is anymore special than anyone else (and I don't bloody get into debt for it either) but more because of the fact that I grew up having nothing. Absolutely nothing. My needs were not of very much interest to my parents and I suspect it's part of that why I sometimes go and buy stuff that isn't exactly needed for my daughter. I want her to have all that I can ever get for her. I love my daughter and I don't want her to ever feel like I was too much of a cheapskate to buy her anything nice.
I don't quite understand why this has brought so much negativity, but maybe If I reread what I originally posted I would see that I might have worded things badly or there's something I've just not understood.

I'm certainly not trying to seem like I'm from another class, or like I have any money- cos I don't and if anyone was to look at me they would know that. I just want to do all that I can for my daughter.

If the polo tops are an extreme, then ok I understand. I won't beat myself up anymore that she doesn't have them.

Cricket ave just realised that the dd isn't even 8 yet!

My dd wears a cheap fleece, scraggy polo shirt and scruffy trainers for school. A Ralph Lauren polo shirt?!

Why do you think wellies and Ralph Lauren polo shirts will make her feel happy?

Get her some shoes and don't let people snigger behind your backs. Dressing her in what you describe is cringeworthy.

Buy her normal cheap clothing and put the money saved in the bank for her.

I always finding it sad when a parent thinks that money can buy love.

What. You are actually serious? I thought this had to be a wind up. Why the hell does an 8 year old (any child really) need bloody labelled clothes?! They grow out of them in 5 minutes and they trash them along the way.

Put the money into an account for her for the future if you feel the need to waste spend this money on her. At least she may do something useful with it.

Spend your money on going out days out and holidays with your child. The time she spends with you and the happy memories will stay with her forever.
Buy supermarket clothing! Cheap and cheerful.
When she's 30 she will remember how you spent time with her. Not what polo shirt she had when she was 8!

Have you tried to deal with the issues from your childhood? Maybe post in relationships about your mum and try to start understand your actions and feelings. Constantly trying to buy you childs affection and happiness is leading you all down a dark path as she gets older, I fear.

Cheekymaleekey- I think I will. I had no idea that the stuff I was sending her to school in was so cringeworthy. I thought it was quite sweet.

In all honesty, I just thought cos they were a bit more expensive that they were more special, i look back and cringe that my mother didn't care what I had, as long as it was cheap when it was really needed that's what I got, and I always looked pretty grubby. I just felt like doing the opposite was doing far better.