To be fed up of hearing "oh my kids won't eat anything like that, I don't know how you do it"I

[Emillee1]

Basically i feed my kids a healthy diet (why wouldn't I?.....) and lately when I've had my neices round for lunch/dinner they've refused to eat what's on offer. When my SiL has turned up to collect them she told me that no wonder her kids wouldn't eat what i'd made as it wasn't typical "kiddy" food and that she's very surprised that I could "make" my children eat it.

Well to be fair her kids have existed on junk food since they were old enough to chew, and I can remember how on occasion my niece would be sat in her pram holding a burger dripping in fat, wrapped in a napkin happily chomping away and the tray in her pram was covered in chips!

Anyway this has happened a couple of times now and I'm getting rather annoyed with it. She asks me to mind her kids, which I'm happy to do but if they don't like what I've made for tea then it's tough, so why am I made to feel guilty? Without meaning to come across as one of THOSE mothers, my children's diet is very important to me. I was an overweight child and i'm still a stone or so overweight now as an adult and I put that down to the fact that as a child myself I was allowed to gorge myself on crap, my parents didn't know where the oven was and my meals were ready meals and convieinience foods, and I didn't want that for my kids. They get their "treats" an overall have a balance diet but I'm looked down on by my so called family for not serving up chicken nuggets and chips every night, so AIBU to feel a little pi**ed off?

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Who gives a crap what other people think / say,do what you want for your children.

Your stealth boast isn't even stealthy. Decent job at bitching about your sister though.

Good for you ! I had to laugh at your parents not knowing what the oven was lol same here ! What do you cook for them I do get a bit stuck trying new things with ds 11 wd love to lose 10lbs as well .

What do you mean by 'healthy'? In principle YANBU.

i'm still a stone or so overweight now as an adult and I put that down to the fact that as a child myself I was allowed to gorge myself on crap, my parents didn't know where the oven was and my meals were ready meals and convieinience foods

you put your current weight down to your parents? are they still feeding you?

Congratulations, you are now Parent of the Year.

Do your issues with your sister go back a long way?

It is hardly her kids fault. Just make them something they like. My youngest was a massively fussy eater. You would have hated trying to feed her. Stop being sanctimonious. We are not all perfect.

you put your current weight down to your parents? are they still feeding you oh sorry that made me laugh

anyway OP well done on feeding your children a healthy diet - why wouldn;t you - please show your sister this thread so she can have a huge laugh learns to be as good a mum as you

You don't say what you feed them. If it's quinoa and fois gras, YABU.

Agree this is a hell of a stealth boast though. Still, healthy is better, but not just for obesity reasons, natch.

I think that you're a better mother than she is.

Of bugger off, I am so sick of these posts bragging about their kids perfect diet whilst someone they know only feeds their child pizza and burgers.

Just fed my children chocolate spread sandwiches for tea because I couldn't be arsed cooking before they go to Cubs this evening. For pudding they had a bourbon (the biscuit, not liquor, I'm not at that point yet).

Hanging head in shame.

On a serious note, if they don't want to eat what you're offering they can be a bit hungry. Kids don't die because they miss a meal (unless they're very ill) so stand firm and let them see that you won't dick about at mealtimes.

Oh fgs I'm not boasting, why would I feel the need to about something like this? When I say healthy I dont mean a single food is healthy or unhealthy, I don't label foods in that way as I think all food should be allowed as part of a balanced diet, but what I was saying about my SiL is that her children's overall diets are pretty dire. For my own kids they'll eat anything really so for us a typical week is things like herby chicken kebabs and stir fry, salmon tomato and basil rice with peas/sweet corn, pulled pork on a wholemeal bun with salad, jackets with tuna and salad, homemade chilli/sbag Bol/shepherds pie with loads of veggies etc etc. To me these are just normal meals that me knock up in our house but to my SiL and her kids they're apparently poison!

I totally agree that Nuggets and chips every night is not a decent diet, and I don't believe that there is kiddy food and adult food and never the twine shall meet (maybe things like vindaloo aren't very child friendly)
BUT I do think you are a bit blinkered f you think children that are fed on processed food are suddenly going to sit down to a meal of quinoa, mushrooms, roasted peppers and quails eggs!
I would serve them chicken breast, mash and peas and broccoli or a nice tomato pasta bake or something a bit more in the middle.
We have lots of play dates (I have 3 kids) and one hose says I serve something middle of the road and inoffensive such as jackets spuds with a variety of topping and sales so they can choose themselves or something 'treat' like make your own pizza.

Have you name changed to criticise a close family member? Or are you usually looking for a fight in RL too.

In other news Katie Hopkins is now a columnist for the Daily Mail. I wonder where her researchers trawl for stories?

If I have visitors staying for a meal I try to ensure I cook something I think and hope they will like, regardless of their age.

If you are aware of certain things that you know they won't like, why would you serve them? I am sure they must eat some form of "healthy" food.

You say she liked burgers - can you not make a homemade burger and some wedges perhaps?

Ok cross post, your typical meals are very middle of te road and inoffensive. I would expect any kid to eat that.

Well to be fair her kids have existed on junk food since they were old enough to chew, and I can remember how on occasion my niece would be sat in her pram holding a burger dripping in fat, wrapped in a napkin happily chomping away and the tray in her pram was covered in chips!

This is kinda where you lost it. The unnecessary bitchiness. Totally unnecessary. Sorry but the whole thing reads as a 'I'm the better mum, she's just shit.' type post.

SurlyCue, pack it in! It's pretty obvious that my parent do not still feed me. What is obvious from my op (because I've already said it!) is that I picked up some very bad habits as a child and I've battled throughout the whole of my adult life to shake them off. I'm only 11st so hardly obese but if I'd had carried on eating into my teens and adult life the way I was allowed to as a child then I know 100% that I would be!

Your diet is very very good - I think you're being naive to expect visiting children to eat all those things. Why can't you find out what they will eat and make it a healthier version of that for the one night they're with you.

I like to cook and my kids are adventurous eaters. But when we have friends to tea, I make something I know they'll like. It's just easier for everyone.

There are not many things as divisive as food. When I have other kids here (which is a lot) I do a bit of what we are having and then things that are more usual like jacket pots and baked beans and everyone gets a bit of everything.

I made a really disgusting looking 2 lentil sludge bake. I served it up apologetically...and the kids were asking for more!

I think that maybe what other people eat is quite fascinating to a lot of people - we just dont like to admit it because it gets judgy so quickly.

Can't you knock up some homemade chicken nuggets or burgers for the next time? It can be a compromise, yunno.