To be fed up of hearing "oh my kids won't eat anything like that, I don't know how you do it"I

[Emillee1]

Basically i feed my kids a healthy diet (why wouldn't I?.....) and lately when I've had my neices round for lunch/dinner they've refused to eat what's on offer. When my SiL has turned up to collect them she told me that no wonder her kids wouldn't eat what i'd made as it wasn't typical "kiddy" food and that she's very surprised that I could "make" my children eat it.

Well to be fair her kids have existed on junk food since they were old enough to chew, and I can remember how on occasion my niece would be sat in her pram holding a burger dripping in fat, wrapped in a napkin happily chomping away and the tray in her pram was covered in chips!

Anyway this has happened a couple of times now and I'm getting rather annoyed with it. She asks me to mind her kids, which I'm happy to do but if they don't like what I've made for tea then it's tough, so why am I made to feel guilty? Without meaning to come across as one of THOSE mothers, my children's diet is very important to me. I was an overweight child and i'm still a stone or so overweight now as an adult and I put that down to the fact that as a child myself I was allowed to gorge myself on crap, my parents didn't know where the oven was and my meals were ready meals and convieinience foods, and I didn't want that for my kids. They get their "treats" an overall have a balance diet but I'm looked down on by my so called family for not serving up chicken nuggets and chips every night, so AIBU to feel a little pi**ed off?

Sorry I should have explained myself better. If day three times recently my SiL has asked me at the last minute to pick her kids up from school. I do work so I've already had tea prepped or in the slow cooker whilst I've been out all day, so tere was no way I was going to cook something else when I'd been up at 6.30am prepping everything. If I know in advance that they are coming then I'll make something thst they like but if I don't have the time then I won't end of.

Just say no to picking them up if it's too short notice. Easy.

I'd just ignore her and do what you do without acknowledgement.

I do understand how this can be annoying though. I have a friend who always says 'I wish I could do X but I don't have time', to pretty much everything: going out, gyming, exercising, cleaning up after herself... but yet she spends 3-4 hours a nigh chatting online or on yahoo answers or watching soaps. She could do many things, she just can't be arsed. I don't care if she can be arsed or not, just stop faking.

Just shrug and say you operate on a 'must try, okay if you don't like' attitude and leave it at that.

I'm hardly an 18st wheezing old woman who can't walk without getting out of breath, get some bloody perspective will you?

did I say you were? I responded to what YOU posted about YOUR OWN weight. if you don't want people to refer to that fact that you are overweight then don't bring it up.

I just try and give the visitor something they'll eat myself. I'd probably ask my sister - what will they eat then pick something mine might eat too.

If you're 5'10" and 11 stone then your BMI would be 22, so definitely in the healthy weight range. You're not overweight at all according to BMI.

There's a possibility that your views of weight and healthy diet are still slightly skewed, hence the over-critical way in which you talk of your SIL.

Yanbu.
Yep, what she's feeding them doesn't sound amazing (and I don't blame you not wanting to prep something else). Your meals sound fairly standard to me.

However, I'm not surprised they wouldn't be keen on the food, plenty of kids don't want to try new food.

Woman feeds her kids healthy food

Another woman doesn't.

It's hardly earth shattering news is it OP?

What I think you need to ask yourself is why you felt the need to tell the internet that your feed your kids healthily, just like millions of other parents and that your SIL doesn't, just like millions of other parents.

Do you lack confidence in other areas of your parenting, that makes you behave like this?

Do you feel that your SIL is superior to you in other ways?

You sound like you have serious issues with food and should get some support.

For what its worth my children had cocopops for breakfast, nutela sandwiches and Jaffa cakes for lunch. But they are as fit as a fiddle, do lots of sports and will be having pizza with mushrooms and tomatoes for dinner so it all balances out.

I have serious issues with food seriously?....I wonder if you would say this if I hadn't stated that I was slightly overweight in my op? If I had issues with food and was "obsessive" then I wouldn't allow my children any chocolate, crips, biscuits etc an that just isn't the case, they get plenty but in moderation, what would you rather, I let my children become overweight or obese?

Cocopops Jaffa cakes and Nutella, really? You're kidding yourself. That is a shit baseline diet even now and again. That's a total sugar binge.

They get their "treats" an overall have a balance diet but I'm looked down on by my so called family for not serving up chicken nuggets and chips every night, so AIBU to feel a little pied off?

That's ^^ what she's asking.

Now if her family were to post, it could well transpire that it's got nothing to do with chicken nuggets and chips, and more to do with her smugtastic from smugsville attitude.

It's quite clear to me from what the OP has written, that she is the one looking down on them.

But you're not overweight, surely, with a bmi of 22? Not even slightly.

My DCs eat quinoa . And spinach, kale and tofu. I'll get my organic unbleached lentil woven coat, shall I?

I'm 11st 12lbs, God I didn't think I'd need to elborate.

Other than the salad and jacket potato, I would struggle to eat any of the food you described so I'm not that surprised that there are children who won't eat it!

And I'm not particularly a picky eater.

I agree. Mine eat virtually everything which is great. We also have people over often for meals so I don't want to be serving crap potentially a few times a week. I now just say we are having x if they want to eat, if not they will have to eat before or after

Meh I don't think you have issues with food op but you maybe came across a bit bitchy about your SIL and people are responding to that. To be honest I'd come across like a total cow if I were to post my thoughts on what my DB and SIL feed their children so I don't

But yeah it's pretty annoying to do someone a favour and then have to put up with comments about your cooking/diet etc. Especially when you know theirs is absolute crap. I think next time you should agree to have them but say to her that you'll just give them toast as they don't like your cooking and she can sort them out later herself.

I'm not looking down on anyone, I've already said that my kids diets aren't restricted and that they can have whatever they want in moderation. The only reason I mentioned what my SiL feeds her kids is because she is the one who keeps commenting over and over again about what I serve up to my kids (and hers) when in actual fact I'm the or doing her a favour by minding her children in the first place!

11st 12 is still not overweight if you're 5ft 10...

If it's causing such grief then stop minding her children and tell her exactly why. Put a stop to all the resentment.

Maybe it's not but according to my doctor it is, but I've already said I'm not a hefer or obese so it's not as though I have a distorted view of myself.

That's the problem though, I love my nieces and I love having them, they're great kids but they're so fussy.