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Playdate hell

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scortja · 23/09/2015 16:17

I am not good at playdates but recently decided it would be the best for DS to try again.. He's just gone into Year 2 so thought it might be easier and they might be better behaved..

So - just brought home DS's friend who always seemed really sweet but it all seems to be going wrong - how do I turn it around?! Should I just call him mum to pick him up - that seems unfair to her! Help!

DS's friend is pretty worldly compared to DS and has demanded Lucozade, XBox, Playstation, money, Netflix and Transformers - all a no. He's thrown toys at the window to try and break it/them (firmly told not to otherwise he'd be going home), he's been pushing and shouting and telling DS2 that he hates him..

Now he's saying he's going to tell their teacher that DS pulled his pants down - which DS has taken to heart instead of laughing off.. DS is now not talking to him and DS's friend is playing with DS2 who is 3.. I have two hours to go and i have to try and feed him ..

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LemonBreeland · 23/09/2015 16:19

2 hours? Hell no! get him collected or take him home yourself. No way would I put up with that.

EatDessertFirst · 23/09/2015 16:19

I'd get hi, picked up/take him home. And tell his pafents exactly why. Sounds grim.

PfftTheMagicDraco · 23/09/2015 16:20

Call the mum. "I'm sorry, but your DS keeps trying to break the windows. Can you come and get him please?"

Sometimes, it's just not worth it.

EatDessertFirst · 23/09/2015 16:20

*parents

BigGreenOlives · 23/09/2015 16:20

Why don't you ring them & say he doesn't seem very happy, you think he should go home. No need for your son to suffer in his own home.

Sighing · 23/09/2015 16:22

There's no way I'd put up with that. Get him home.

m0therofdragons · 23/09/2015 16:22

Get him collected! My friend had a child round like that. In the end he barricaded himself in a room and was breaking lots of toys. She got him in the car and drove him home. She's one of the calmest mums I know so it must have been bad!

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 23/09/2015 16:23

Ring home. What would you do if your son was like this at another home? ...

sproketmx · 23/09/2015 16:23

How old are they? Do they not go out to play?

Excited101 · 23/09/2015 16:25

Why are you even asking?!?! Don't tolerate that behaviour- for God's sake send him home!

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scortja · 23/09/2015 16:25

Are they all like that though?! They are for me which is why I stopped..

I grew up in the 80s and I would have honestly rather died than demanded to know what I was having for dessert and why it wasn't something better..

Also his mum is really great.

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 23/09/2015 16:25

Year 2, so add 5 , 7 (ish depends on dob)

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scortja · 23/09/2015 16:26

They are 6 going on for 7 - we have a small damp courtyard so I wouldn't make them go outside except as a punishment..

Hmmmm....

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 23/09/2015 16:27

No! Tell him hes very rude, and wont be invited back.

EatShitDerek · 23/09/2015 16:28

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 23/09/2015 16:28

The other thing is maybe DS is rubbish at picking friends, find out who the nice kids are and invite them.

kali110 · 23/09/2015 16:28

Hell no!!!
I would never have behaved like this.
Get his parents to pick him up now.
Tell them why.
Doesn't matter if his mom is great or it's unfair on her, it's unfair on your son and you.

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scortja · 23/09/2015 16:29

There's been a thaw and now they're locking DS2 out of the living room - I can handle that..

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tiktok · 23/09/2015 16:29

He's a little kid. He's behaving horribly. He's not your 'job' to discipline or control. Call the mum.

m0therofdragons · 23/09/2015 16:31

No they are not all like this. You need to be clear that in your house people are polite. I bet he backs down. He's testing boundaries but it's not acceptable.

Hissy · 23/09/2015 16:32

Get him collected.

Why should your ds2 be suffering now.

Year 2's aren't routinely like this. I your child acted like this, wouldn't you like to know?

hiddenhome2 · 23/09/2015 16:32

I would be a bit concerned about the pulling trousers down thing. Sounds like manipulation and blackmail to me Hmm you need to tell the parents about this little stunt.

BitchPeas · 23/09/2015 16:35

Call his mum to come and pick him up and tell her and him exactly why.

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scortja · 23/09/2015 16:38

OMG! I thought it was all okay but he built a barricade in the living room by tipping over and armchair and piling up my knitting etc behind it so I couldn't get into the room... I wish I was making this up..

I would be LIVID if my son did that at someone else's house.. I would be so embarrassed..

What can I honestly say to the mum?! Maybe I should just put the playstation on for the next two hours and then never ever ever invite him back..

No wonder people insist on having the parents in attendance too..

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Jo4040 · 23/09/2015 16:39

I had a child round like this a few weeks ago. He told me he hated me and my fecking house!! I was called a dounut and its was apparantly 'tuff' if I didn't like it....this child was 4...

Get the kid back to his parents tho...however I hope you don't get the response I got when I told his mum he had been swearing.

'The bastad fuckin cunt, get in the house you little shit!' Was her response....Hmm

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