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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Or am I just a heartless cow-bag?!

388 replies

MadHattersWineParty · 15/09/2015 09:51

Okay so this is trivial but I am still pissed off and I need a good old rant about it.

Out at a gig last night, obviously a tense undercurrent between two of the people there who are a couple and live together. I'll call them Chris and Lisa.

I was trying to actually enjoy myself and listen to the bloody band sp I didn't want to get embroiled in it, they argue a lot and the tension is really obvious at times.

Anyway to cut a long story a bit shorter, when it was time to leave she was nowhere to be found. Apparently though she had text Chris to say she was leaving us to it. Chris didn't seem bothered, the other member of the group (Dave) was getting concerned as she wouldn't answer her phone.

Now, she has serious form for flouncing off. Earlier this year she did it when we were abroad and informed us she was going to walk the five miles back to the hotel by herself along this little unlit road. Cue us all cutting short our night to get into a taxi and drive along until we found her.

The tube stop that would get her directly home was five minutes walk away, so I sent her a text to say text me when she got in. She didn't read it so I assumed it hadn't come through as she was on the tube. Anyway after about ten minutes Dave (whose own girlfriend couldn't make it as was ill at home in bed) gets a call to say she had been walking for ages and was in a strange part of town.

So I said, well she's obviously just trying to make a point now and get us all to worry about her. She didn't magic herself to a strange part of town, did she, when she could have just gone around the corner to the nearest station.

As I get up for work at 6am and it's now nearing midnight, I said I'd had enough. She wasn't drunk, she had money on her. I left her a voicemail to say get to the nearest station, or get a taxi if you have to, get home and drop me a text when you're there.

Anyway Chris is useless and is now drunk and says he's just going to go home. Dave says I'm being heartless and he's really worried about Lisa (he is now the only person she will answer the phone to as he's the only one indulging her at this point!) I said if he wants to go and get her that was up to him but she's perfectly capable and in my opinion acting really immaturely. During the course of this discussion (everywhere is shut now so we're just outside, and I just want to get home) she texts to say it's alright, she's on her way home but there are drunk people on the night bus and she feels vulnerable. I leave a message for Chris to meet her off the bus, which he apparently did. So Dave talks to her on the phone until she's back and texts me at 1:45am to say she's now back safely but he couldn't believe, as a 'fellow woman' that I'd been so bloody unsympathetic to her and how would I have liked to be in her shoes?!

Isn't it all a bit childish though, this flouncing off and expecting people to run around fretting and picking up the pieces? Or am I really just a crap mate?! we are all nearly thirty for God's sake!

OP posts:
MadHattersWineParty · 19/09/2015 19:08

Well we are here. Lisa walked in with a face like thunder and went straight to the toilets. Chris says she's in a bad mood and has been all day! So I am going to crack on with the night now, and I will update in the morning. I am quite confident she will kick off at some point but Dave's girlfriend and I have agreed to keep on top of it so as not to ruin Dave's night.

OP posts:
NoahVale · 19/09/2015 19:28
FoxesSitOnBoxes · 19/09/2015 20:59
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WhoTheFIsJeff · 19/09/2015 21:31

What a bloody drama queen! She's going to try and turn this night into all about her.

Looking forward to your update!

UterusUterusGhali · 19/09/2015 21:35

Have a great night!

not marking place at all

TeaAndNoSympathy · 19/09/2015 21:49

I might be a bit too invested in how this turns out. Have a great night OP.

lurkinginthenorth · 19/09/2015 21:50

Loving this thread!!! Marking my place and can't wait for dramatic updates on the flouncing behaviour!

frenchcheeses · 19/09/2015 22:37

Marking my place too!

Missymoomoo197936 · 19/09/2015 22:37

You need to update sooner than tomorrow op, just to keep us nosey feckers happy Grin

MoreKopparbergthanKrug · 19/09/2015 22:52

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Salene · 19/09/2015 22:59

High maintenance, I'd be binning her off as a mate. Couldn't be arsed

emotionsecho · 19/09/2015 23:02

Enjoy the night, OP, hope Lisa doesn't try and ruin it.

Hygge · 19/09/2015 23:19

She sounds like hard work.

My MIL used to do this whenever she wasn't the centre of attention. We'd be in the middle of a family get-together and DH or one of his siblings would get a call because she'd decided to disappear for a walk, suddenly been taken ill, and needed to be rescued and brought back. Then everyone would have to make a big fuss about her until she felt better.

I think you did the right thing by leaving her to it. It's hard work feeding someone else's drama when they go all out to spoil things for everyone else. I hope tonight goes well for Dave and his girlfriend and Lisa behaves herself.

Cabawill · 19/09/2015 23:22

Can't wait for the update tomorrow. Have a fab night Hatters.

Bogeyface · 20/09/2015 01:16

Chris says she's in a bad mood and has been all day!

Because its Dave's night, organised by his GF, who will get the lions share of Dave's attention, when of course his attention should be on her.

I think a frank conversation with Chris would be in order, about demanding drama llamas who are too lazy to keep a job and how his life would be long term both her and without her.

In other words, he needs telling to LTB!

Bogeyface · 20/09/2015 01:17

with her and without her

OhBigHairyBollocks · 20/09/2015 08:44

Placemarking

beaucoupdemojo · 20/09/2015 08:56

If I was Dave's gf I'd be barring her from social events organised by me. Someone at some point has to stop putting up with this. If you all do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got!

marriednotdead · 20/09/2015 09:11

Just caught up. Do you think she's seen the thread and clocked that it's all about her?!

QOD · 20/09/2015 09:19

Ooooh I'm betting on a Facebook pity post at the least

MissEeerie · 20/09/2015 09:20

I didn't log in early for updates I swear....

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 20/09/2015 09:31

Sounds place interesting marking. Grin

Fyaral · 20/09/2015 09:35

Excite!

rainbowstardrops · 20/09/2015 09:53

GrinGrinGrin I have just sat here instead of sorting out my roast dinner and read the whole thread! What a bellend she is!!!
Can't wait for the update Grin

StayWithMe · 20/09/2015 10:03

I don't care if you're sleeping off a hangover OP. GET UP! WAKEY WAKEY! Time to update. If I can't get a lie in because of my comitment to this thread fecking dog wanted a pee then you can't.