To be really worried and to have called 101

[murasaki]

No one has seen an elderly friend of mine for 10 days. He's always in the pub near work, which is where I know him from, and hasn't been. And isn't answering his phone, and if he's not in the pub, he's always at home. Or his email.

So this morning having only found out yesterday that no one had seen him, as I hadn't been in the pub until then, I tried him again, both local hospitals, and then phoned 101 to go round as I'm the other side of London. I don't think this is going to go well. They said they would send someone round within about 60 mins, and let me know what the score is.

I hope I haven't wasted their time, the copper was v nice, and said I'd done well to check the hospitals first.

AIBU to hope against hope that I have wasted their time and the curmudgeonly old bastard is just taking time out from commmunications?

[Spilose]

I don't think yabu. Hope your friend is okay

[ImperialBlether]

He's not on holiday?

[sleepyelectricsheep]

You have done the right thing. Hope he's OK.

[honeysucklejasmine]

YANBU. Fingers crossed he's fine.

[DragonsCanHop]

Yanbu I did the same thing years ago, he was on holiday.

[TidyDancer]

You did the right thing in calling the police. I would've done exactly the same in the circumstances.

[goldglittershitter]

Yanbu, people slip under the radar all the time because people don't check in/report it. I hope ur friend is ok.

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

Yanbu at all.

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

We had something similar. Sadly he had died :(

Hope your chap's on his holidays op.

[murasaki]

He doesn't go on holiday! Seriously, he lives in about a square mile area, it's a running joke that if it's north of the euston road he doesn't go there.

I hope I'm wrong, and he'll be telling me off for being a nosy baggage next week over a cider, but I have a really bad feeling. And if I'd known earlier, I would have done something earlier, that makes me feel awful.

They said they'd call me, but am twitching at my phone.

Glad to hear you thnk I did the right thing in calling. He'd had two mini strokes a few years ago and is on medication, which is partly what prompted me to do something. I just hope he's alright.

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

I hope you've wasted their time and he's safe and well. YWNBU to ring.

[murasaki]

Movingonup - that's what I fear has happened. All alone in his flat.

[helenthemadexy]

its absolutely the right thing to do, I hope he is ok

[murasaki]

it also drew a parallel with another friend who died this year - his newsagent realised he hadn't seen him for two days, and he always got his paper, so went to the local to ask if anyone had seen him. Two friends who had keys went round and found him dead in bed.

I know that's a different case, but it's what started me worrying.

[Iwasworried]

Yanbu, well done for thinking of him and for calling. It's so easy for old people to slip off the radar, it scares me for my future. I really hope he's ok, fingers crossed for you.

[jorahmormont]

Hope he's safe and well, YANBU to ring at all.

[Twolefttoes]

Yanbu, better to phone and be wrong, than to do nothing and wish you had.

[duckyneedsaclean]

How worrying op. Hope it's a false alarm.

[murasaki]

Thank you all. I hope I am not being unreasonable to have a glass of wine, a fag, and judge judy on to distract me. DP is at work (have kept him in the loop) and this is one of the least pleasant saturday afternoons in livig memory.

Glad you think i did the right thing, one does worry that the police must have more important things to do, but they were very nice and at least pretended that I'm not being overly cautious

[Lj8893]

Yanbu. Hopefully he's just abit poorly and laid up in bed.

[Lj8893]

The police will be more than happy to do a welfare check, don't worry about that.

[DancingWithWillard]

I think they would much rather be called out to check on an elderly person and find them fine and well than to have to deal with the other side of the coin. I hope your friend is ok, and will be giving you grief over a pint soon. I absolutely think the police will be glad you called. Let us know the outcome.

[Finola1step]

You've done the right thing.

[Ratbagcatbag]

Agree calling was the right thing. I too hope that he's moaning at you shortly for interfering.

[murasaki]

Will do. As I say, he can call me an interfering baggage as much as he likes, as long as he's ok.

Just remembered I forgot to tell the cops that the lift is out in his side of the building (it's a mansion black) and you have to go round to the other door and up and over the roof. Bugger. Ah well, they'll figure it out.