Wibu? Dragging my son across the room?

[FuryFowler]

My son is 6 and was being a pain at bedtime this evening. I asked him repeatedly to come to bed. I just kept getting an outright no from him as he lay on the sofa. I asked and asked nicely, then I told him, then I shouted at him. Still saying no and basically being rude. I threatened him with dragging him off the sofa to his room, he still refused. So with 2yr old in arms I pulled him off the sofa by his arm and dragged him halfway across the room. I wasn't rough and was going to stop by the doorway in the hope that he would get the message and get up and walk.
I was stopped by my husband who yelled in my face scaring my 2yr old, shouting that "if I ever see you do anything like that again I'll slap you across this room!" He then took both crying kids off me, took them in to the bedroom and closed the door.
I was shocked. I'm now sitting in the car outside not wanting to go back in.
Not sure what to do now? Wibu?..... Tag, I've never dragged him before, he's never been so resistant before and my dh has never yelled like that before

FYI If she has said "I smacked little Tommy's bum because he hit his sister" it never would have crossed my mind to report it. Wasn't what was said at all & the name is random. Just in case I get accused of posting personal details.

Lweji's posts are hilarious. She clearly hasn't got a clue or kids, perhaps?

Did I hit a nerve somewhere?

No, just got on a few Lweji.

Glad I did. :)

Have you been name changing?

Me? No, not at all. Nothing to hide and not a care about being outed. Why?

Oh, I just thought it was too much of a coincidence two pps at the same time who prefer to put down people or insult them rather than put arguments forward.
I personally find that hilarious and quite telling.
Also feel sorry for the people in your lives if that's how you talk to them.
Just as I feel sorry for children of pps who can't ever think of ways of dealing with children who push boundaries other than to drag them or hit them. (Note: not the op who did it once, hopefully, and recognised it was an error) Also feel sorry for children of pps who are more concerned about being possibly reported than the effect their methods of disciplining have on their children.

I'm no one's alter ego or sock puppet. And please don't waste to pity on anyone in my life, it's neither wanted or needed. Very kind of you though.

I just thought it was too much of a coincidence two pps at the same time who prefer to put down people or insult them rather than put arguments forward. Far easier to insult people for the sake of it, isn't it.

I gave my opinion on the OP ages ago. So did Lweji. I don't care if someone disagrees with me. Lweji does and can't let it go. It's pretty difficult to argue with someone that's won't listen.

Projecting comes to mind.

The OP's had plenty of good advice so I've nothing new to add but it's a shame she's been turned into a Pariah for simply being a normal 'at end of her tether' parent.
Lweji, as you're such a perfect parent, how come you spend all day preaching to others on various Mumsnet threads rather than playing with your own children? Just seems a bit strange to me, that's all.

Lweji, as you're such a perfect parent, how come you spend all day preaching to others on various Mumsnet threads rather than playing with your own children? Just seems a bit strange to me, that's all.

So we can't think that what the op did was wrong, but you can criticize someone for posting on mn? How is that OK? Just seems a bit strange to me, that's all.

If you look at MN, it is full of women who are posting rather then playing with their children, me included. So you have probably insulted us all. Well done!!

Oh, I can multitask. :)

He's 10, perfectly content with his own games and I even know what achievements he has accomplished.

If anything I'm the one steering him away from them and getting his attention.

Also, I never said I'm perfect. Just that I don't smack, drag or shout at my child on a regular basis. I wrote I don't feel the need and erased it because sometimes I do feel the urge. I just don't do it, time out myself and find alternatives.

Also, I do waste a lot of time, including here. But if it happens that one child is treated better by their parents and one woman gets away from abuse, I think it's time well spent.

Your dh was wrong to say that he'd slap you across the room. Full stop. That being said ywbu and should have just left your son as a pp have said, waited until he fell asleep and moved him then.

Oh I should have last-paged...