Iam, he doesn't care at all about how clean the house is.
And what you are seeing is not frustration.
What you are seeing is a combination of self loathing on his part, and the desire to make himself feel better by humiliating you. Plus sheer laziness.
No amount of cleanliness or hours worrying that he will be frustrated by the state of the house are ever going to make him change his approach to your relationship. He will always find fault. If you do A, B and C, he will sneer at you for not doing X, Y and Z. You will not be able to win for losing. He has set it up this way. This is what he wants the relationship for -- to provide a handy whipping boy, namely you. He picks and chides, you rationalise and explain. He makes it plain that there is a problem and that that problem is you. In his own mind he is always going to be right and you are always going to be as wrong as another human could possibly be. Nothing will ever convince him otherwise.
He is not trying to solve a problem here. He is not trying to make things better for anyone. Above all, he is not doing his utmost to make sure the windows are not streaky. He is just telling you that you are accountable to him, that you cannot aspire to be his equal, that he owns you. All of this is about him however.
It is most important that you realise that the things he finds fault with don't matter at all to him. You are going to run yourself ragged trying to keep everything the way you hope will be pleasing to him, and you are going to be driven insane trying to explain what matters to you, and how you spent your day.
Explaining to him what you did is handing yourself to him on a plate. He will pick holes in what you did and complain about things you didn't reach on. You will be damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Please try to understand that you are in many ways irrelevant to him and so are the children. Certainly the stuff he makes such a fuss over is irrelevant to him. When he is living alone in some flat you will be astonished at how dirty and untidy it is. When he does his Lord of the Manor Inspects The Underlings' Work schtick, he is not even telling you how he feels about you. All he is doing with his belittling of you and his pickiness is telling you exactly how he feels about himself. He is a bottomless pit of self hatred. No amount of love on your part or love from his children will ever make a difference to the endlessness of that.
You and the children and the streaky windows (or whatever) just happen to be there, and because he is the sort of man he is, he is too lazy to find anything of substance to complain about. If he had a cat he would kick it. If he had a fish in a tank he would spit in the water. He lights on the first thing he sees and there is no escape from the criticism.