AIBU: What time do you put pyjamas on?

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My routine: have evening bath/shower around the same time as the kids, and put on pyjamas. Do bedtime stories in PJs, then downstairs for watching TV with DH, or chat, or video game, whatever. Evening stuff. Then up to bed.

DH believes this is entirely unreasonable and odd behaviour. "Everyone else" only puts on pyjamas at the very moment of going to bed. After evening bath/shower, one should put on proper clothes again and spend the evening properly dressed. He feels that wearing pyjamas in the evening is akin to going to the shops in them, or wearing them all day.

Of course, it's taken him 13 years to confess he does not like my evenings in PJs, and as a big fan of pretty pyjamas, I am both hurt by the confession and considering this a total LTB issue. He wants me to choose between him and my cosy checked pants? No contest.

What say you? Is spending the couple of hours pre-bed in your pyjamas a heinous crime, social faux pas or enormous turn off?

I like wearing PJs indoors; but I do go a bit further and have been known to wear them in the back garden (with trainers) while clearing leaves etc.

I got into my pyjamas yesterday evening around five. Just felt like being cosy. Usually change into comfortable clothes when I get home in the evening.

I change into PJs as soon as I get in, partly because I'm clumsy and would ruin my clothes, cooking and cleaning. I don't sleep in them, though.

I think it's totally bizarre to put them on any other time than just before you go to bed, but it's hardly a LTB offence.

I put my pyjamas on when I'm putting the kids to bed at around 7pm. I dislike wearing pyjamas during the day, but 7pm is evening and time for pyjamas in my opinion.

In the summer I am more likely to be dressed longer. Mainly because I'm more likely to be out and about in the evening and because there is a better chance I didn't get soaked on my way home.
In the winter Dp days he hardly sees me dressed I am often in my jammies or tracky bottoms when he gets in from work because I don't see the point in putting on fresh clothes if I've got cold and wet and I'm not going out again.

My compromise is plain black loungewear type pyjamas with a,sweater over the top and a scarf. I know it's ons-but if the vicar called, I think I'd get away with it!!

I don't own any pjs
Dd only wears hers in bed (unless we have a long car trip or a nappy disaster and that's all that's left in the change bag)
Ds is he same. But not in nappies any more.

I basically live in my PJs at home. I have so many pairs and if I've no plans to go out I will often get up, shower and change the PJs I was wearing for a clean pair.

i only really wear normal clothes if I'm out of the house or have formal visitors (close friends/ family get me in PJs!) - I'm just so much more comfortable in PJs than my day clothes!

I have a weird thing that I don't like people sitting in or on the beds in their day clothes, I just think theyusy have lots of dirt from days outside!

So I change into pjs prior to bedtime stories etc because I usually get into bed with the kids to read.

I often get wet and muddy with DD so once cleaned up and not going out I put pyjamas on.

Last Wednesday I got completely drenched, every item soaked through. I had a shower and put pyjamas on. My elderly upstairs neighbour came to get a parcel about 3.30 and made it clear she disapproved. In my defence I am pregnant and don't have enough clothes right now!

Yy to StrawberryLeaf especially if have been sitting on a bus, tube or train which I do a fair bit.

mrstwee - my thoughts exactly :)

AsTimeGoesBy - no, true, and it was a joke, but I think it's poor form to suddenly start sneering at someone's ordinary behaviour. It wasn't a jokey conversation. He called me 'disrespectful', 'low class' and said 'you've only done it since we had kids' (I disagree, I am sure I have done this since childhood, as do my family. I expect I did not change into pyjamas when we were younger and I turned up at his flat to go on a date, and he may be misremembering those apartment visits as "every pre-child evening ever.")

As soon as possible, just after dinner usually. It's occasionally been known that I don't take them off, just change into a fresh pair after a bath, before bed. I love those days

"Low class"?

He sounds like a twat.

These days as soon as I am back in the house and I know I don't have to go out again. I cannot WAIT to get my bra off.

I would stay in pjs all day though, unless I was very hungover ill.

I am astonished! I had no idea people did this, never come across it in my life. Unless I've got dirty (rare), I stay fully dressed in the same clothes I've worn all day until bedtime. So do my parents and ILs.

I put my pjs on after I've finished DD's bedtime. I don't actually wear them in bed though. I always wear some kind of lounge trouser in the house, since DD was born the knees have gone in too many pairs of jeans for me to wear anything but lounge trousers at home.

I always dress for comfort over style at home. Either leggings/yoga pants or actual PJs.

DP is the same. He has several very fetching pairs of Sports Direct trackie bottoms which he changes into when he gets home.

Slobbish and proud here.

Depends what I'm doing in the evening. If I've got chores to do, I'll do them in whatever I've worn to work (usually polo shirts and jeans), and stay in those clothes till bedtime, them put jammies when I got to bed. If it's a gym night, I'll get back from the gym, have a shower and get my jammies on, as it's usually gone eight by then and I see no point putting fresh clothes on only a couple of hours before going to bed.

Low class and disrespectful?! I would be choosing the pyjamas over him too!

For me it completely depends on the day. Sometimes I will put them on in the evenings when I'm winding down, basically when I'll be doing nothing more than lounging in front of the telly. Sometimes I will come in from work and put them on (around 5!), sometimes I will be in normal clothes if they're comfy ones until I go to bed. I will usually put pyjamas on far earlier if it's rainy and miserable outside, although logically I have no idea why this is!!

If you're comfortable in your own house, who cares, it's hardly like you're wearing them on the school run or to Tesco!!

I wear Falmer leggings from Matalan with a vest top for pyjamas (I have various colours) and normally put them on when I put ds3 to bed at 9:30pm. I always take the dog out for his "last wee" wearing them but the only person likely to see me is my neighbour getting her cats in whilst wearing her red fluffy dressing gown.

I very very rarely wear pajamas, when I do it is because it is cold in bed.
I would never come downstairs in pajamas, its a bit rough in my opinion, as is tracksuit bottoms and big t-shirts etc. Not as rough as going out in them though.

I usually put my pyjamas on just before going to bed as I don't like to wear them all evening. So I'm with your DH