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AIBU?

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AIBU to be a bit disapointed - Ring related

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 14:04

Ok so my snooping has brought up something which has disappointed me and it's my own fault I guess.

It was our 20th Wedding Anniversary this week and as its either china or platinum I bought DH a platinum disk of the album which contains our song. He presented me with a beautiful platinum eternity ring. We also went away for the week and had a lovely time.

While we were away we spoke about our presents and I said how lovely the ring was and how expensive it probably was, as I had looked at platinum rings for him but in the end settled on the disc, which still cost ?100. (I didn?t tell him the price).

Anyway, I know where he bought the ring from and today I had a look on the website, it was ?119, which isn?t the disappointing bit as price just doesn?t matter. But it?s a white gold ring, not platinum, which he kind of led me to believe, even if he didn?t say the words.

So AIBU to be a tidy bit disappointed, even though I love the ring?

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IfOnlyIKnewThen · 17/08/2015 11:33

Firstly OP YANBU

I can't believe how other posters have laid into you. You have stated that you were only a 'tiny bit disappointed' and yet from the responses you would think that you had said you were outraged. You even conceded early on that the consensus was against you but still the nasty comments kept pouring in. The personal judgements on you, your marriage and how your DH must feel about you are bang out of order.

I read my husband your post and he immediately said why didn't your DH just say. When I told him about the responses you had been getting, he said I should join MN (been lurking for past year) to defend you.

For what its worth, it's as plain as day your disappointment is not about the value of the present. I think some posters didn't even bother to read your op and subsequent posts.

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Greenkit · 19/08/2015 11:22

Thank you for the back up ifonlyiknewthen much appreciated. It is true some posters only see/read what they want to and then some just respond to others outrage, without reading the actual posts.

Anyway yes we are very happy (Lucky us) now, we had a blip a few years ago, hence the replacement of rings.

I have never been grabby, I apologise if I came across that way, I am not going to explain myself again, as I have said it all ^ up there.

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Costacoffeeplease · 19/08/2015 12:36

Oh yes, focus on one person agreeing with you again op! Well done

Bumbledumb · 19/08/2015 13:33

OP - have you read the hallmark on the ring? What does it say?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 19/08/2015 23:31

For goodness sake. OP, you went out your way to find the value of a present. How can you not see that that is wrong and unreasonable? I didn't jump on and comment due to what others had posted, I read your OP and subsequent posts and then replied.

differentnameforthis · 20/08/2015 06:47

For goodness sake. OP, you went out your way to find the value of a present. How can you not see that that is wrong and unreasonable? This!

whattheseithakasmean · 20/08/2015 06:58

YANBU - He deceived you about the ring, he doesn't care about your feelings, he probably has another woman, LTB.

Happy now?

Spitoon · 20/08/2015 11:50

YABVVVVU

Quite frankly, if you couldn't tell it was white gold and not platinum at first sight (or even by the most cursory glance at the hallmark) then you really have no excuse to be yapping.

pictish · 20/08/2015 12:08

You've nmade it quite clear this is not a cash spent issue, or a greed thing or a princess tantrum, so why people continue to shred you, I have no idea. They must be enjoying themselves.

I'm with you. I'm no precious missy but this would disappoint me for the same reasons as it has you. My husband would know the difference between platinum and white gold, and to pass one of as the other would be deliberate and therefore deceitful.
I don't need trinkets, but I do need not to be lied to and taken for a fool.

pictish · 20/08/2015 12:11

*made
*off

Greenkit - leave the thread alone now. Don't keep saying the same thing over and over. It's a pile in and they're not listening.

hibbleddible · 20/08/2015 15:37

I think you're too obsessed about value, rather than meaning.

Does the material of the ring have so much meaning to you?

We chose not to do anniversary presents this year as we have better things to spend the money on (our children).

pictish · 20/08/2015 15:56

Well that was pious.

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Greenkit · 22/08/2015 16:25

Thank you pictish and others

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Sansoora · 22/08/2015 16:29

*YANBU

I'm in floods of tears here on your behalf thanks xxxxxxxxxx*

Really?

I'm just rather shocked that someone would do a search on a present.

carabos · 22/08/2015 17:12

Wandering off the point, but how can you tell at a glance if a ring or whatever is platinum or white gold? DS1 got engaged recently, designed the ring himself online (who knew?) and chose platinum as that's what DiL2B wanted. He told me it was platinum in a "it's platinum by the way" tone as if I should know. I'm afraid I'm ignorant!

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