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AIBU to be a bit disapointed - Ring related

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 14:04

Ok so my snooping has brought up something which has disappointed me and it's my own fault I guess.

It was our 20th Wedding Anniversary this week and as its either china or platinum I bought DH a platinum disk of the album which contains our song. He presented me with a beautiful platinum eternity ring. We also went away for the week and had a lovely time.

While we were away we spoke about our presents and I said how lovely the ring was and how expensive it probably was, as I had looked at platinum rings for him but in the end settled on the disc, which still cost ?100. (I didn?t tell him the price).

Anyway, I know where he bought the ring from and today I had a look on the website, it was ?119, which isn?t the disappointing bit as price just doesn?t matter. But it?s a white gold ring, not platinum, which he kind of led me to believe, even if he didn?t say the words.

So AIBU to be a tidy bit disappointed, even though I love the ring?

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MidniteScribbler · 16/08/2015 03:01

So you spent 100 on him, and he spent 119 on you. So I guess that makes you the cheap one.

BettyVonBooperson · 16/08/2015 07:47

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TheCatsMother99 · 16/08/2015 09:18

I just don't understand why you'd look up the ring online? A gift is a gift, giving gifts isn't a competition either... Just be happy he picked you out a ring you liked (before you realised it wasn't platinum and then created an issue over it).

DawnOfTheDoggers · 16/08/2015 10:29

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Libitina · 16/08/2015 10:44

OP, YABU have a Biscuit.

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Greenkit · 16/08/2015 11:41

Well I have well and truely been AIBU'led Grin

I looked up the ring, I was bored at work and thought I would just have a nosy.

I have never bragged about anything we have had, in fact this is probably the most he has spent on a ring ever, or in fact most personal items I have, which isnt much.

He does know our song, and loved the present I got him.

We did discuss the years and what they are supposed to represent. We looked it up on line, there was a choice China or platinum (its just some fun).

I love the ring and I will always love the ring, he chose it himself and thats what matters.

I am not a showy, grabby, materialistic person at all

Some members understood what I was on about.

I am sorry I upset Silvernightfairy I do apprechate what your saying, and I hope you have many more years together.

Finally (From me anyway) like I said I really wouldnt care if he got me a china mug. It was more the suggestion of something which turned out it wasnt. And as other members have said/PMed me, he could of just not known, so not his fault either I guess.

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differentnameforthis · 16/08/2015 13:42

Does he know it was white gold? Dh wouldn't have a clue if it were silver, white gold or platinum.

We don't do gifts for anniversarys, we go out, have a meal, have a night in a hotel...too much onus is put on gifts giving/receiving these days & not so much on making memories.

differentnameforthis · 16/08/2015 13:44

He can try again at 70yrs.

Littleen · 16/08/2015 13:45

errr yabu :P how petty.

WilburIsSomePig · 16/08/2015 13:46

Jesus Christ.

Maybe he didn't realise, my DH wouldn't have a clue what the difference is between white gold and platinum visually. Nor would I probably.

tilliebob · 16/08/2015 13:53

My grandparents platinum wedding anniversary was their 70th. If you like the ring, who cares what the price is? Or do you equate money spent with amount of love?

differentnameforthis · 16/08/2015 15:02

Seriously? We "upgrade" engagements rings now too?

I also can't believe you looked at the website either. All that does is make it look like you value the worth of the ring rather then the sentimentality of it.

The cost matters not a bit So why on earth look it up? You weren't looking for details of what the ring was made from, so in my head, there is no other reason to look it up!

I was bored at work and thought I would just have a nosy A nosy at what though...the thing is on your finger, have a nosy at that!

now whether he didnt realise it was white gold or not, I have no way of knowing And you can't ask him, as you will have to explain why you looked it up, which you can't do!

cathcustard · 16/08/2015 15:09

I don't think my DH would know the difference between platinum and white gold.

Maybe he thought that stainless steel can opener he bought me at Christmas was platinum Confused.

Glad you're happy with the ring Op, that's all that matters.

SnakesandKnives · 16/08/2015 15:16

Which website was it and are you sure it's white gold? Most jewellery websites show the design and then you select the metal? The hallmark is the way to do this really. The end item will look identical anyway - I've been doing this for a looming time now and still have to check hallmark to be certain.

As a side note....plat is actually slightly cheaper than gold currently! Admittedly that's for 24ct but still interesting as a year ago it was twice the price.

elQuintoConyo · 16/08/2015 15:25

Here, have a whole frickin plate of these

Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit Biscuit

Reubs15 · 16/08/2015 20:57

Who on earth looks up the price of their gifts?! Only very materialistic people. You sound extremely ungrateful! Get a grip!

LegoComplex · 16/08/2015 21:17

ltb

LegoComplex · 16/08/2015 21:19

betty Grin I'm keeping an eye out for all those centerparcs returnees.. with ring problems Wink

bringthenoise · 16/08/2015 21:43

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RoboticSealpup · 16/08/2015 22:19

In Greece, everyone calls white gold "platinum". Nobody knows the difference. I think that's true of a lot of people here too.

harshbuttrue1980 · 16/08/2015 22:22

You gave him a present that cost £100 - is he bratting about it? If not, then why are you bratting over the fact that the one he got you cost £119?? Welcome to the era of womens' liberation.

BastardGoDarkly · 16/08/2015 22:44

Why did you look it up though? It wouldn't occur to me to do that, ever Hmm

Anyway, happy anniversary!

Aeroflotgirl · 16/08/2015 22:51

Yabvu, he could have bought you a candle, like the poor op on the other thread. You liked the ring, so what!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 16/08/2015 23:12

Just gobsmacked you searched for the price of your present. Awful.

Pancakeflipper · 16/08/2015 23:21

I'm glad you love the ring.

I don't think he's deliberately gone out to mislead you.
Do a jump and punch the air you have 20yrs of what is hopefully a happy marriage and enjoy your ring.

Don't be disappointed. He remembered. He bought you something you love. Result.

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