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AIBU to be a bit disapointed - Ring related

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 14:04

Ok so my snooping has brought up something which has disappointed me and it's my own fault I guess.

It was our 20th Wedding Anniversary this week and as its either china or platinum I bought DH a platinum disk of the album which contains our song. He presented me with a beautiful platinum eternity ring. We also went away for the week and had a lovely time.

While we were away we spoke about our presents and I said how lovely the ring was and how expensive it probably was, as I had looked at platinum rings for him but in the end settled on the disc, which still cost ?100. (I didn?t tell him the price).

Anyway, I know where he bought the ring from and today I had a look on the website, it was ?119, which isn?t the disappointing bit as price just doesn?t matter. But it?s a white gold ring, not platinum, which he kind of led me to believe, even if he didn?t say the words.

So AIBU to be a tidy bit disappointed, even though I love the ring?

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ReginaBlitz · 15/08/2015 15:01

If the price doesn't matter then why mention it!Hmm

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 15:01

Justabigdisco I said it must have cost loads being platinum and that I looked at rings for him but they were too expensive. He didnt really say anything.

Silvernightfairy, my brother in law has a brain tumor, but I dont see how that is relivant?

I love the ring, I would love the ring if it was silver, my point is above

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noeffingidea · 15/08/2015 15:04

The fact that you don't see the relevance of Silverknightfairy's post says it all really.

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 15:07

Thats probably it Spartans

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Greenkit · 15/08/2015 15:11

If I listed all the things wrong with my life everytime someone asked a question, well its just not relevent.

I know 'in the grand scheme of things' its a very small minor thing. Which doesnt bother me greatly, I was just a bit disapointed I fely DH had led me to believe it was platinum when it was white gold. When if he had got me a silver ring, a bloody tea pot or a china mug, I would have been just as happy.

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justabigdisco · 15/08/2015 15:12

In that case he was probably embarrassed that you assumed it was platinum and didn't want to say. Or he genuinely didn't know that it was white gold. Did you discuss beforehand that the anniversary was platinum even though it's not ? If he bought you a giraffe last year then that suggests you don't follow the gift guidelines too closely so he probably didn't know he was meant to be buying platinum.
I say give him a break, if you like the ring then that's what matters.
And please have a little think about why the PP's husband having a life limiting illness might be relevant here. Thanks To that poster

Costacoffeeplease · 15/08/2015 15:14

But he didn't lead you to believe that - you did it yourself, he didn't correct you either because he didn't think about it/didn't think it was relevant/or felt hugely embarrassed and didn't know how to tell you. I feel sorry for the poor bloke

MissDemelzaCarne · 15/08/2015 15:17

Twenty years is your China Anniversary! I got a China Scotland mug for mine, it's lovely.
I think your behaviour is a bit odd OP, and your DH's.

Costacoffeeplease · 15/08/2015 15:19

I can't even remember what I got for our 20th anniversary

Findtheoldme · 15/08/2015 15:21

Saying he presented it and now you're moaning does make it all seem rather silly.

Hipotle · 15/08/2015 15:21

You don't see why Silvernightfairy's post is relevant????

It is relevant because some, no, basically ALL things in life are more important than being so worked up about the price and metal of a beautiful, lovingly given gift.

Only if your original post read 'my husband gave me a ring which is clearly made out of the tin foil of last night's curry dish but he is in a furious rage insisting it is in fact chiselled out of moon diamonds, AIBU to think he's lying to me?' would you possibly receive more than a handful of YANBUs.

Your posts are becoming insensitive and you really really need to see the bigger picture here. imho.

Hipotle · 15/08/2015 15:22

*off

FenellaFellorick · 15/08/2015 15:23

you spent £100 on him and he spent £119 on you?

Why are you disappointed?

It's not about the cash.

Do you like the ring?

It isn't more or less lovely depending on how much it cost.

Desmoulinsonatable · 15/08/2015 15:24

Just read DH the highlights of this thread, his response - if 20 years is platinum, what do you get for 70, Unicorn's Tears? - I love my DH

Murfles · 15/08/2015 15:25

I say LTB. What a cunt, choosing a ring you love that wasn't platinum. Hmm

AnotherTimeMaybe · 15/08/2015 15:26

YANBU only because he led you to believe something different, so a bit cheeky/ lie on his part

Findtheoldme · 15/08/2015 15:27

SilverNightFairy - I'm sorry you and your husband are going through such a difficult time BrewFlowers

FenellaFellorick · 15/08/2015 15:28

Or what it's made of, rather, if it's what it's made of that disappoints you, not directly how much it cost

MissDemelzaCarne · 15/08/2015 15:31

I think you should be very disappointed, according to this monarchy site your DH should have applied for a telegram from the Queen as you can get one for your Diamond or Platinum Anniversary. Wink

LadyCuntingtonThe3rd · 15/08/2015 15:31

YABVU. He could've given you popcorn like one MNer got for her birthday.

Spartans · 15/08/2015 15:31

Thats probably it Spartans

So why are you pissed off then? You know that he just probably felt awkward that you assumed it was platinum and didn't know what to say.

Are you pissed off with yourself that you assumed it was platinum and put your DH in an embarrassing situation, after he went out and picked a ring that you love?

Spartans · 15/08/2015 15:33

des I was thinking the same....where do you go from platinum? Grin

LadyCuntingtonThe3rd · 15/08/2015 15:33

He could've given, I mean.

Desmoulinsonatable · 15/08/2015 15:36

Spartans, moon diamonds and angel dust I guess Wink

Desmoulinsonatable · 15/08/2015 15:36

Not the drugs obvsConfused