Netmums VS Mumsnet

[Samwelly]

Mumsnet seems more controversial in content to me (well the AIBU section anyway). I previously enjoyed Netmums but find now that I hardly ever go on it. I prefer the "lively" sometimes abrasive discussions on Mumsnet.

I'm another who was banned from netmums, for outing a troll. Bizarrely, I got away with being the most outspoken on there. I wore that badge with honour,however I'm right on the bottom of the list on here!!!

Funniest enough, I've mentioned before, I first came over to mumsnet while still a member of netmums on a night when we'd been bombarded with mumsnetters trolling us. So, a few of us came over to give it back hence my name on here

Must say, I much prefer mumsnet. You can actually have a discussion rather than just throwing around hugs and patting someone on the back for neglecting their kid and there are much more interesting topics discussed on here. Netmums was dreary, no chance of a decent conversation or debate etc. Although, I do miss the bun fights over chicken nuggets and fruit shoots, they were hilariously sad!

I doubt many parents would post 'my son is a dick' even on here. ( thankfully )

Well that was based on what I thought was a funny, jokey blog

I have never really got into mn, I think I joined but I have no idea what my un is though, probably my name and numbers. I would get banned though.

I first found Netmums when I was terrified and pregnant at 19, halfway through uni, total bolt out of the blue and I had no idea what to do.

I posted a thread on Netmums and immediately had them all telling me to drop out of uni, how dare I expect the taxpayer to fund me to continue studying while I had a baby, but telling me I was irresponsible and a scrounger at the same time. I reported them - Netmums perma-banned me for using a nickname instead of my real name - I think it was 'Moomin' rather than my real name, because I was scared someone would read the thread, see my name and realise I was pregnant - and refused to do anything about even the really vicious replies I'd received.

Came to Mumsnet, posted a thread and this nest of vipers put my mind at ease, reassured me, congratulated me and told me I could still do my degree, all anonymously, no judgement, no "should've thought of that before you opened your legs, I'd be ashamed if my 19 year old daughter was a slag".

I love Mumsnet :)

I use to like Netmums. Their was good heated debates between a guy called David and a woman called Fiona. They both disappeared and it got boring. There was a group of regulars who would have funny convos. They disappeared. There so strict. No swearing. No controversial subjects or debates. It got boring. Then I found mums net. And the rest is history. Haven't been on Netmums in awhile.

Thanks to everyone who highlighted the twat in Lightwater

Netmums is a bit more huggy and sparkly. I was on there ages ago, occasionally float back over. I like Mumsnet better for loads of reasons, the main one being if someone is being a twat they will be called out on it. Over there no one can say anything to remotely suggest someone is being a twat without being attacked, reported and banned

They do have a good a very good 'local to you' section for classes, activites, for sale board etc. I will give them that.

WhyStannisWhy, that is exactly why I love MN. I was in the middle of post natal depression and posted on a thread about things we wished we'd said or some such. MN told me that I wasn't stupid or over sensitive and that my in-laws treatment of me was bang out of order. Such a small thing, a couple of posts, but it did and has since made a world of difference to me.

I remember the debates between David and Fiona, they were probably banned too. Some of the advice given to posters worried me, especially child protection issues. ah well, at least I managed four days . I'm much more sûited here I think.

I did try babycentre when pregnant years ago but it was too cliqueyand like a school playground. I don't see that (as much) here - net mums was too sterile for my liking.

I think that's the biggest difference.

Mumsnet is run by actual humans with actual feelings and stuff.
Netmums has to be run by control-freak robots who don't care if people need support, SHE MENTIONED SCUNTHORPE, WHERE'S THE BAN HAMMER?

hey hun x x x x

I liked David he was funny and could really get some women totally wound up and hysterical by not saying very much. Just because he was a man with an opposing opinion.

I hated David with a passion.

Netmums is so...fluffy

I like MN.

I frequented babycentre before I made my way here however I found it very cliquey (they furiously deny it though!)

I had an unfortunate experience with Netmums and suspect I'm probably banned without every having posted there.

I was previously on another parenting forum - it was a bit pink and tickery but I didn't know what else was out there. They were always moaning about some strange place called AIBU and I came over to have a look and was utterly entranced - mainly by the unfettered swearing. I hastened to sign up.

The next day I tried to log in, and my log in didn't work. So I contacted admin and asked for it to be looked into, citing my username. No reply. I tried again. No joy. Sent a reminder message. Still not reply. So I sent a fairly arsey email, demanding to know why they hadn't sorted out my log-in problem as I had really wanted to join MN but was now reconsidering in light of their poor service.

Then I realised I'd been trying to log into Netmums, and angrily messaging their admin about my burning desire to be a member of Mumsnet

I wasn't banned on NM, but a post of mine was removed; I advised someone to telephone a soft play centre and ask if the accident that had happened to their child had been written into an accident book (the child had broken their arm). No swearing, no finger pointing....but it got removed anyway. I was little after that.

The reason why I like MN is we can make up our user names love love love anyfucker, eatshitderek..., as opposed to on NM where you have to use your name. I also like the intelligent and varied advice that you get here and also love a good goady troll.

Personally, it's down to personal taste.

I was before Davids time, think we only had 2 guys on there when I was on it.

Any of you 'old enough' netmums members to remember chicken nugget salads and Karen/Daisy with her diamond encrusted toilet, jag with cream leather interior and walnut dash, butler and helicopter and hiring a space rocket for her toddlers birthday? Or the one year old with £600 worth of Christmas presents including her very own tv?

They remind me of Seaweed Brighton and Hove Albion.

I got banned for managing to get around the swear filter

You don't have to use your real name on NM.

No, but they bloody need one buffy!

Hmm. I liked the no swearing actually. I also liked the fact that the mods took concerns seriously. But I did miss intellectual debate. And, if anyone wants to say Mnet is vulgar, thank God that Mnetters don't post pictures of vaginal discharge and pictorial views of what might comprise an early miscarriage. That was so far beyond the pale of swearing I still shudder and needed to run back very very fast indeed.