To think that if you're in a restaurant garden surrounded by children, you should try to swear less?

[BooChunky]

Yesterday was my mums birthday lunch, and I took my DD's (4 & 2) and we sat outside on an allocated table.

It was lovely weather here yesterday and there were loads of families with children around.

There was also one table of men around 40, and every second word was f*k or c*t. I'm not generally precious about swearing and have never brought it up as an issue if a friend or anyone has accidentally sworn in front of my children, and I'm sure I've done it myself and not even realised, but this was obscene. The conversation was so loud and raucous and everyone was looking over and a lot of parents were clearly not happy.

One woman with children of similar ages to mine asked if she could be moved inside and the waiter apologised but there wasn't a table large enough currently available.
She asked if perhaps the group could be spoken to, and the waiter said he couldn't do that. In fairness to him, he was quite young and I think in my waitressing days, I would've found them intimidating.

But AIBU to think that these people should have shown some respect for the families sitting nearby even if no one spoke to them? Just thinking about it now and it ruined my mums lunch really, as after finishing main courses my parents just wanted to go because they didn't think it was appropriate for the children.

(Or am i being precious?)

Can I just say that I think I love you a little bit maybebabybee

Well there is fuck and fuck. I walked by a group of men in the town center one pleasant sunny day to hear one loudly recounting how "his fucking legend of a mate just took the cunt and fucked her whilst his other mate fucked her mouth at the same time - fucking awesome", whilst his mates all roared with laughter. I have a problem with this kind of shit, as i imagine do some others (obviously timid, prudish types like myself in need of some smelling salts).

As someone who doesn't swear and doesn't like it, I find people, particularly young men do try and modulate their language around me and the dc. Or apologise if they do use things they think they shouldn't.

If I'd felt it was that bad I would have asked if they could keep it down, and I reckon most groups would do. However at 2 and 4yo mine would not have been interested in what another table was saying, so I'd have just made sure that they didn't have an oppotunity for their attention to wander off our table.

Well, good for those who don't mind and would happily join in with that kind of loud and somtimes aggressive sounding swear happy language you somtimes hear in public. I don't like it and i'll judge those who act like that, especially with strangers about who could feel threatened and intimidated by it. It's not acceptable or normal in my enviroment and amongst those i choose to hang out with.

agree with the poster who recommended putting a review on trip advisor - then those of us who find it offensive can avoid!
I was in our local pub last night and did not hear a single 'fuck'.

I just don't hear people using such words all the time at all socially - it is not the norm everywhere and in my working environment it would be completely unacceptable.

I rate serial swearers who can't control it or won't modify their behaviour according to the situation as rather thick, childish, pitiful and uneducated. I would never give a job to someone who couldn't control their language. They just seem to be saying 'hey look at me I am so grown up I can SWEAR!' Ooooh - great. That's not to say I don't appreciate a well chosen expletive when called for but the incessant peppering is very unattractive and just makes me recoil.

I would have found it shocking also OP and not sure I would have said something either in your situation but I frequently have in the past along with a well practised death stare.

I'm on the fence. I like a good swear up personally, however I wouldn't do it in front of children. But I think if you take your DCs to a pub, no matter the time of day or the fact there's a kids menu, you should really be prepared for an adult atmosphere.

Isn't just the other end of the scale to "look at my kids running around having fun, aren't they cute?"

What's adult or acceptable about a group ( men or ladies) being loud and lairy in public with all kinds of mixed company talking about the cunts they've fucked recently?