DH. Drink driving. Facebook. This one has it all!

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Im fucking LIVID with DH.

He went out for a meal last night. Came home at 11pm, and I got hit by the smell of beer straight away.

He said initally he had 4 pints with a big meal over the evening, today he has changed that to 3 pints.

Im literally fucking steaming. Im no goody goody, I drink like a fish, but Id NEVER consider getting behind a wheel.

What makes it worse is that it was a performance car he was driving, and he depends on his license for his job.

So, as well as possibly killing himself and others, he also risked his job, his home, everything. He had to come home rurally too, and the chances of hitting a deer or another animal at that time was increased. Not to mention teenagers hanging around during summer holidays.

Can you tell Im mad?

Anyway, I just let rip, publically, on facebook. He still doesnt think he has done much wrong and that Im over reacting. So Ive blasted him publically. I hope his boss reads it and I hope he is FUCKING MORTIFIED.

Its almost a deal breaker for me.

Anyway, Im wondering whether Ive made myself look like a twat for using facebook to shame him. Should I remove it?

I just can't believe that you thought it appropriate to post all this on his boss's profile.

Are you crazy? Facebook? No no no no & NO!

haha his boss has removed my comment and they are all carrying on as normal!!!!!!!

Fuck this Im packing the kids up and staying with my mum.

Yep what the OP wrote is definitely far worse and morally wrong than drink driving.

Sorry - fast moving thread but I can't find who said that ^^ or when?

I'm sure we'll hear that the boss "liked" the comments to so it's all, like, totes fine

Boss was there, so in all likelihood saw how drunk op's dh was & let him go off in that state, Boss can hardly pull the 'you're sacked for drunk driving' card when was more then likely aware of the dh's condition.

Would three pints with a meal over the course of an evening really put him over the limit?

How did his boss get him off before for speeding? Is his boss a magistrate or something!?

They all need to block you from FB, including your DH.

What if his boss assumed he could trust him not to drink and drive? What if everyone else got a taxi. You were not there, you do not know.
What if he goes in on Monday and is sacked because someone in HR knows how dangerous this is?
What if he looks for a new job and future employers look at his FB as they often do?
You have been an idiot. Take it down and hope YOU haven't wrecked the family.
Get him on a drink drive awareness course. He is an arrogant fool and deserved to have his license taken off him - but don't make it worse now.

haha his boss has removed my comment and they are all carrying on as normal!!!!!!!

It sounds to me as if your aim is to actually get him sacked.

You seriously need to calm down. You sound a bit hysterical

Good for his boss. I wouldn't want a domestic row on my Facebook! He's done you a favour by deleting it.

haha his boss has removed my comment and they are all carrying on as normal!!!!!!!

I'm not surprised he deleted your comment. Have you any self-awareness at all?

no idea rooby. We had the letter where he had to confirm it was him driving.

Boss said leave it with him.

Next thing 3 points and a fine. No court, no nothing.

Agree with other posters. YANBU to be angry, but shaming someone that publicly is probably a bridge too far. It can go viral frighteningly easily and once it's on the internet the baying mob may not want to let it go.

I totally get where you're coming from though, it is shameful behaviour on his part, but there are more constructive ways to deal with transgressions like this.

Jesus, don't take the kids! You're punishing them because you've failed to punish their father. How confused they'll be by the sudden packing of bags and scarpering to your mums! How old are you OP? He made a really stupid, dangerous mistake but don't just pack up and take the kids!

So what is the point?

erm..that the op is at the end of her tether, that she has tried everything & is thinking that a bit of shaming might scare her dh into not being such a fucking idiot next time..she's angry, fed up, scared.

Everyone is focusing on what the op has done, had her dh killed someone your rage would be for him, as it should be.

This guy is jeopardising their home, their life together. Let's support op in what she could do to move forward instead of questioning what she did something that is harmless! Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't make it OK to judge her for doing it.

Where's the support?

Right, so what do I do then?

Would three pints with a meal over the course of an evening really put him over the limit?

It's 6-9 units over around 5 hours, so I'd say yes.

How can we avoid this company, by the way ? I'd like to know when their next night out is, so I can be in a different county.

absolutely worra. block and delete

OP are you enjoying the drama? just a little perhaps?

if you were that bothered you would have contacted the police

delete your fb account. it doesn't seem to agree with you

Just one more thought, what he did was completely wrong and I'm not surprised you're angry. However, if you say this is a deal-breaker, what if due to the FB thing he lost his job and you ended up with an unemployed ex partner? Wouldn't this just make things worse?

No matter how angry you are you have to keep,this sort of thing 'in house' - seriously, what were you thinking?

NoArmani The same thought had crossed my mind. I'm not excusing drink driving, but was he even over the limit?

Let's say it was four pints (rather than the revision to three). Four pints, over four hours, with a big dinner. It's a risk that he was over the limit, sure, but there's nothing to say it's a forgone conclusion.

I can't believe you have put this private matter on facebook.