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One night of him has made me question our proposed wedding
MassiveFfingMug · 06/08/2015 22:52
DP is going away tomorrow with his adult kids. I was supposed to be going too but decided not to - for one thing I didn't fancy camping and secondly I thought he could do to have a weekend with his kids and I could have a weekend with mine. He seemed over the moon with this and I was chuffed about the arrangements too.
Anyway knowing what an utter twat he can be and the way he loves a fucking drama and to make out that I hate him doing anything with his kids (despite me encouraging this weekend and various other stuff) I thought to myself earlier "I bet he tries to start an argument with me later". Just so he can say "you're in a mood because I'm going away with my kids".
Anyway - idea was that as we won't see each other after tonight until Monday - we'd share a glass of wine and watch a movie tonight. Wine is sat there and he comes in saying he doesn't feel well enough to drink alcohol (despite buying two packs of beer to go away with this weekend). Fine - whatever. He goes off for a shower and I poor myself a drink. He comes down and starts ww3 saying I'm out of order for opening a drink without him. I ask if he wants one - he says no 
anyway this ridiculousness continues all night until he outright refuses to share a wine with me. Fine, whatever. But no - as he's not getting a reaction from that he starts nit picking - snapping, sarcasm every time I speak ... I ask if he has called the doctor about his urine test and he bizarrely accuses me of checking his text messages. I've resisted the urge to react to his shit all night and he's ginally said IT ... "I've not prepared for this weekend because of you". I asked how it's my fault and he says "you wouldn't have been happy if I'd prepares stuff so I didnt". Absolute shit and you know what, I'm starting to realise that if faced with a lifetime of this or being a crazy dog woman --- give me the kennel number
MassiveFfingMug · 06/08/2015 22:55
I was really looking forward to tonight. Snuggling on the sofa with him with a wine and a movie and he's been an absolute bell end all night. I've held back tears twice since dinner. I'm not giving him the satisfaction but I'm so disappointed and upset that he wants to argue with me and upset me on the night before he goes away. I don't deserve this.
PuntasticUsername · 06/08/2015 23:00
I don't think he really wants to marry you and based on what you've said, I can't see why you'd want to marry him either. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but I think you're lucky all this has come to a head this weekend rather than further down the line. Have a good cry, then chuck all his stuff out on the front lawn 
MassiveFfingMug · 06/08/2015 23:02
Good points are far and few between these days. I don't get it. I keep going over the night thinking where it went wrong and it's honestly been a case of "whatever you say, will be wrong". All fucking night. We were also supposed to be celebrating me finishing uni tonight but as usual I'm sat here drinking on my own. I just KNEW he'd start tonight and I KNEW he'd try and engineer a conversation where he could make out that I'd tried to wreck his weekend.
hesterton · 06/08/2015 23:04
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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 06/08/2015 23:08
Oh, so you stoke the limelight, and tonight was about you? And you have deserted him this weekend, and now has to entertain his own kids (and not have a lie in while you cook breakfast, afternoon kip and a few beers later) .... why didnt you say?
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