To think this isn't a joint party?

[TheOnlyReality]

Dh is a twin and they are having a big birthday on Saturday. SIL asked ages ago if I would host a party and she would split the cost with us. I was happy to as we do usually have a summer BBQ and I usually love hosting.

The party is this weekend and at least 40 people are coming with an even split of our guests and theirs. I've just done the food and booze shop and despite buying bog standard burgers and sausages, with six bottles of wine and a bottle of Pimms it has come to £165.

SIL had told me she's bought three bottles of wine and some gin, ten burger rolls and is making a pasta salad so she'd like to give me £20 towards the food.

I haven't told her how much I've spent and dh won't let me, his argument is we usually do a party and it's too much hassle to claw it back from them.

I'm currently severely depressed (signed off work for the past six months) and I'm on a lot of medication so I'm not trusting any of my reactions at the moment. But I'm fucking fuming. I feel like we've been scammed, the party is twice the size it would have been if it was just us and any fule would no that forty guests would be pricey to cater for. I feel a bit humiliated by the twenty quid offer and want to invoice them.

Aibu?

[Notgrumpyjustquiet]

Ooo yes, do update OP

[Theonlyreality]

Ah, it was fine in the end. We made a booze profit and she did a shit tonne of washing up. Party was a blast, and the was plenty of food.

[LaurieFairyCake]

What?

How was there plenty of food

Did folk turn up with food?

[esiotrot2015]

Hi Reality
I remember you
How is your nephew ? Did she find alternative childcare for him when you got a new job ?!

[guzzlewump]

Just out of interest - how much food did sil put on her plate? Bet it was more than 1/4 bun

But glad to hear that it went well and sil did plenty of washing up!

[Notgrumpyjustquiet]

Phew! Tbh I'd rather throw £ at food than spend time clearing up