to ask if you would be disappointed with this present

[Littleen]

It's my brother's 30th soon, and I've got him a candle for present. It's a nice, biiig candle from M&S, cost £12 and looks quite cool :) I am not great with presents however, and worry it might seem a bit random / not quite enough to form an actual gift. Should I add more, or would this be suitable for someone's 30th?

Just asked DH.

He looked at me like

Crap present!

My DH actually requested a giant candle for Christmas! But I wouldn't be particularly delighted to receive one - doubt I'd use it. As everyone says - depends on the receiver's tastes. Hard to guess if a random person likes candles!

This is where the OP drip feeds that her brother is a holistic healer and loves candles.

I don't like candles though. Too dangerous with the kids and cats plus I'm sensitive to strong smells.

My brother would rather a 6 pack of cider.

I don't like candles. But plent of people do. So if he likes them then I suppose it's an OK present. But maybe it's one of these items that people would rather choose themselves. Ican't think many 30 year old men would appreciate a candle as a present even if they are into house decor and so on.

Thats kind of what you give someone you dont know well as a small token. Or a thank you gift. But I know families have very different perspectives on budgets and presents. What are his interests there is blokey stuff you can get personalised on notonthehighstreet.com at really reasonable prices - I appreciate some men are difficult to buy for!

I wouldn't be. But I'm not him. What does he like?

Reverse?

why has the OP disappeared so frustrating

I am guessing her brother hacked her account to make a point

I don't think we'll ever know whether op's brother does actually like candles or not!

Dh loves candles and I've bought him Yankee candles before. I've also bought him roses on valentine's day although he was a bit at that Dh is a bit camp though. Either way, probably not the best present for the 30th birthday of a close family member. Assuming you are close of course.

It all depends if he is into candles, and whether or not you can afford to buy him more. If you are skint, then he will appreciate that you couldn't afford any more. If however you are well off then a candle is a shit birthday present for your close family.

Personally, candles are something I buy for teachers, girlfriends, and housewarming gifts.

For a 30th for my brother I would either have given him something expensive looking which he will keep like a leather bound journal, a pewter tankard, set of crystal whiskey glasses, a painting or framed print, etc.

I wouldn't mind a candle but it would have to be Jo Malone

But I can't think of a single man I know who would be interested in candles in any shape or form...

I'm going to stick my neck out and say of course the op's brother isn't into candles, no sane person can really be "into" candles it's just not possible.

That gift would be perfect for my DB squoosh. Where is it from, if you don't mind me asking?

I like candles. I wouldn't expect a candle as a 30th birthday gift from a sibling. A middling level friend, my boss, a sibling's relatively new partner, yes. My brother? I'd be hugely disappointed.

OP - If you know for sure your brother likes candles, then I suppose it's fine.

(If not, then it's a bizarre choice).

That said, i think a 30th is a birthday that warrants a bit of thought but unlike some posters, I'm big on birthdays for adults generally - I'm mystified by the attitude that only children need nice presents.

It depends entirely on your brother though. What have you bought for other birthdays? Sometimes even wine or chocs are a better gift if you know the person will like them more, but I can't imagine you've bought a candle with no knowledge of whether or not he would like it?

Haha this has got to be a joke? Surely? A candle

I am always gutted when I get given candles (especially when they look like they cost a bit). I don't really "get" candles unless they are on top of a cake. So. Does your brother like/use candles?

In my experience candles are the #1 present that people moan about!

I think it would be an ok gift for someone you barely know, or for a colleague who is leaving, but for your BROTHER's big birthday it seems a bit impersonal and like you didn't put much thought in it.

squoosh I love your brother's gift! Please come back and tell us where you got it?

As for getting your brother a candle for his 30th - no.

I would love to be 30 again

I wouldn't want a candle and not sure a 30 YO bloke would want one.

THIS SITE has some great ideas.
Memorable stuff as well.

And as for the candle, well, perhaps if he lives off the grid and lights his hand hewn cabin via candles made from the wax of fairy milked honey bees..well then yes AWESOME GIFT ( two thumbs up)

Goodbye and Woonerism the image I linked to is from a website called Ideal Bookshelf which seems to do set prints for different genres.

The print I got my brother looked very similar except I chose the book titles. It was 3 or 4 years ago now though and I can't remember exactly where I got it. Maybe Etsy? I'll see if I can find it.

squoosh I love that print! What an excellent idea! Where was it from?

Ah, cross post! Thanks!