To think my SIL over stepped the mark by assuming we'll be inviting her parents to our wedding?

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We're getting married next September so ages away, but still feel she had no right to even ask let alone assume it will actually be happening!

She is DP's brothers girlfriend, we'd popped in to see MiL who they live with when she asked us if we'd be inviting her parents and six brothers to the wedding 'because you've not got much family have you?'

I've never met said parents/brothers, nor do I know their names! DP has met them for all of about 5 minutes! They are mighty fine chavs and live bloody miles away anyway!

Really put us on the spot, I just kind of went 'oh ermm, we've not decided who we're inviting yet' wish I'd said 'you're lucky your being invited you moron!

Obviously we won't be inviting the rest of her family!

You sound lovely.

So you think I should be inviting strangers to my wedding?!

Chavs and morons? Charming.

I was with you until you mentioned the c word.

So you think I should be inviting strangers to my wedding

Not sure how you got that from Tidy's comment.

YANBU not to invite them. YABVVVVVVU is your sneering attitude towards them.

YANBU to think that, and she was being very much so.

On the other hand, you might need to work on your attitude to someone who, like it or lump it, you're likely to being seeing plenty of for the years to come.

I think you should take a look at your attitude and language and be grateful she wants to come.

Fair enough. I wouldn't want random chavs at my wedding either.

You've not met the little darling though! I'm nice to her face, because I have to be!

Yanbu

Is a Mighty Fine Chav better than a Standard Chav?

I need to know.

Good luck getting anyone to come if you're this unpleasant as a rule.

Sorry OP, I do think she's blooming cheeky to ask.

However, you are just going to get flamed.

For future reference...

Acceptable: cunt, fuck, bastard, wanker, cock etc

Not acceptable: chav, moron

But they are chavs and she is a moron, it's not like I'm making it up!

We invited my sil parents to the evening but not any other family. My bil had been married to my sil for 4 years before and my dn their dd was my flower girl and my sil parents wanted to see her in her dress.

It's horrible calling people chavs and morons OP.

You sound judgemental and unpleasant.

HTH

Ditto salmotrutta 100%

I think there is a difference in considering these people to be chavs and not wanting them to come to wedding because of it and calling them all chavs to their faces. I'm assuming OP didn't do that, so I don't see the problem. She gave them a nice elusive answer, she didn't say 'actually, I'd rather you lot stayed away, quite apart from the fact that I don't know them very well, you're all a bit rough for my liking!'. oP, she was cheeky. You invite who you want to your wedding.

Oh as if it's any better to call someone a cunt. God forbid you call someone a chav

OP, chav and moron are on the not allowed words list.

Yanbu to be annoyed though. I'm sure it won't be the last thing either so start saying 'no'.

Invite whoever you like but please stop using disabilist language to describe someone you dislike!

YANBU, of course you can't invite them, nobody would invite people they don't know. Be firm next time she mentions it, don't let it drag on.

We're not having a seperate evening, having an afternoon wedding and then reception at the village hall after, keeps costs down a bit! Would be probably about a 6 hour journey for them even if we did just invite them to part of it. I've never met them though! It'd be like me inviting my brothers, girlfriends family who I've also never met!

We're just having a small wedding with close family and friends, not some big extravagant affair!