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To like being called my first name?

98 replies

pinktrufflechoc · 03/08/2015 09:26

Inspired by the 'dad' thread Smile

DC have taken to doing this rather than 'mum' and I was telling someone about it the other day who was shocked I permitted such cheek!

I'd just been ignoring it but when I stopped to analyse it I realised I actually really liked it.

What do your DCs call you, and would you think it cheeky if they called you by your first name?

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VacantExpression · 03/08/2015 09:28

A mixture. I don't mind- although I agree a lot of people find it really disrespectful, it doesn't bother me at all.

GoooRooo · 03/08/2015 09:29

DS (3.4) calls me Mummy. Unless he really wants my attention and then he goes 'SARAH LOOK AT ME'

I try not to laugh Grin

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pinktrufflechoc · 03/08/2015 09:31

That was how it started here, as you tune out 'Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum!' but react to your name!

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treaclesoda · 03/08/2015 09:31

The dc call me mum. I prefer it to mummy. I wouldn't be devastated if they called me by my actual name but I think I prefer mum.

SoupDragon · 03/08/2015 09:36

Only 3 people in this world can call me Mum.
Billions can call me by my first name.

Eva50 · 03/08/2015 09:40

We're a blended family so it all gets a bit confusing. Dsd's little boy calls me Granny, Mummy or Eva depending on who we are with and so ds3 tends to do the same. I'm not bothered and don't care if anyone else is.

EatShitDerek · 03/08/2015 09:42

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grumpysquash · 03/08/2015 09:45

I looked after my friends little boy (2.5 years) after she had a C section - took him to nursery, collected him etc. He called me mummy. But he didn't think I was his mum - more that my two called me mummy, and his own mother was 'mama' (they were Swedish).
I wouldn't mind if my kids called me by my first name. They often call DH (their dad) by his first name in public places, followed by 'who are you? I'm calling Childline' just to wind him up.....

WorraLiberty · 03/08/2015 09:45

When my eldest brother was little, he called our Mum by her first name and told him it was very rude.

A couple of weeks later, a shopkeeper was asking after her and the conversation went like this...

SK: "How's your Mum, I haven't seen her for ages?"

DB: "She's fine thank you"

SK: "What's her name again?"

DB: "Oh, she has a very rude name so I'm not allowed to tell you"

Grin
mommy2ash · 03/08/2015 09:46

I would be really upset if my dd started to call me by my first name. I call my parents by their first names as a response to their terrible parenting and my abusive upbringing so I would link it to that and wonder how my dd feels about me. I know that situation is my own personal take in it so no reflection on anyone else

LittleCandle · 03/08/2015 09:47

DD2, who is 20, does this when we are out, as apparently i don't hear her call me mum anymore! It does annoy me a little, but she is doing it in a sort of jokey way.

FuckOffPeppa · 03/08/2015 09:48

I think it's maybe a bit old fashioned to see it as cheekiness, isn't it? Like when you had to call parents friends aunt and uncle so and so because it would seem rude for a child to use their names.

I don't see it as rude, anyway, dd usually calls me mum/mummy but sometimes uses my name if her friends are over and they are calling me by name

ILiveOnABuildsite · 03/08/2015 09:49

Dd (3.8) sometimes called me mummy but since about six months ago has started calling me Mother more and more. I think she did it once and I laughed and it's made her do it more and more. It's started to become quite natural for her. Not sure where she got it from but I blame Peter Pan and The Land Before Time. She also calls dh Father which is hilarious because he really isn't the 'Father' type at all.

It can be a little embarrassing at times particularly when out in town, people do look at me strangely but I had nothing to do with her deciding to call me Mother she just started doing it.

MammaTJ · 03/08/2015 09:50

My friends DC all call her and her husband by their first names. I hated the idea of it when DD1 was young (she is similar age to two of them).

Now DD1 is older she will often call me by my name, I quite like it now. It sort of represents our new adult relationship.

I would hate for my younger two to call me by my first name though.

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pinktrufflechoc · 03/08/2015 09:50

Worra Grin

I don't think of 'mum' as hugely special (it actually makes me think of the deodorant that was sold in the market when I was at school!) but then I have been a teacher and got used to 'mum, I mean, sir, I mean, miss ...' Grin

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NobodyLivesHere · 03/08/2015 09:51

My dc call me by my name, but lots of mumsnetters think this is beyond weird/means your relationship with dc is weird if past threads are anything to go by.

Groovee · 03/08/2015 09:51

My 15 year old uses my first name but in a patronising way rather than friendly!

RachelRagged · 03/08/2015 09:51

My DC call me Mum, occasionally the youngest (12) will say Mummy to Me.

I wouldn't be fussed if my grown up children called me Rachel but they never have

Goshthatsspicy · 03/08/2015 09:53

My youngest son does this- when l'm not paying attention to what he wants me to look at.
My eldest son (16) has stopped using my name completely.
For years l was "Mummy" then as he grew, he didn't want to use that anymore. Of ge didn't replace it with anything Confused. Actually, l've just remembered, if a name for me is imperative, l'm called "Mother"
I don't think it is cheeky really
My oldest friend's mum didn't permit her or her brother to call her mum/mummy they had to use her first name. When she remarried, her second two children were allowed. I think that has really messed her up, to be honest.

nmg85 · 03/08/2015 09:57

I work with mine so she is 'Mum' out of work and first name at work. To start with it was confusing but now it is just natural. Im 30 and would still always call mine mum.

Dowser · 03/08/2015 10:01

I'm in soup dragons camp.

MaitlandGirl · 03/08/2015 10:06

I get 'mum' from the older 2 and the youngest (15) calls me by name, mother or "lady with the pink and purple hair".

It doesn't bother me what they call me as long as it's not said in that irritating tone all teens use.

whatsagoodusername · 03/08/2015 10:09

DS1 has started to call me by my name occasionally. He's 4.5 and I think he's just realised I have a name other than "Mummy". So I'm assuming it's a phase and he'll go back to Mummy soon. I don't think I'd like it if he sticks with my name though.

FruSirkaOla · 03/08/2015 10:14

That's hilarious Worra Grin

A friend of mine apparently went through a phase of calling her dad different names. Finally she settled on 'Mr B' (surname initial changed, but you get the drift) and Mr B he was thereafter. Her older brother once told me that their dad was looked upon with some respect by a few other parents who thought that the Mr B was his idea!

AboutTimeIChangedMyNameAgain · 03/08/2015 10:18

My 3 year old sometimes calls my DH by his name rather than Daddy. I find it really funny.

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