To like being called my first name?

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Inspired by the 'dad' thread

DC have taken to doing this rather than 'mum' and I was telling someone about it the other day who was shocked I permitted such cheek!

I'd just been ignoring it but when I stopped to analyse it I realised I actually really liked it.

What do your DCs call you, and would you think it cheeky if they called you by your first name?

I just prefer my first name I think :)

My DDs both call me Mummy,

I love it and don't ever want to be Mum!

I wouldn't like them to call me by my first name.

DD1 calls me mama (she is 1.)

I don't mind mummy/mum but on balance I do prefer my first name.

I'm with you OP. I'm actually not at all fond of the moniker "Mum" or any of the variants. I feel annoyed that when you have a baby your name has to change.

DD called me by my first name when she was about 4 for a year....people were shocked but I just can't see it as "cheeky"

I know one woman who won't answer if her boys aged 7 and 9 call her anything but Mummy....she won;t accept Mum!

Buildsite my DD does that! We've been Mother and Father for about a year now. I don't like it at all! But the more I complain, the more she does it.

I like Mama...it's cute.

I think Mummy and Mum are quite ugly words and I think of Egyptian Mummies! And "Mummers"...the old performers from Medieval times!

Peppa we had to call our parents' friends Aunt and Uncle. I ended up really confused about who was my real Aunt and Uncle. I told everyone at school that 'Mary' was my cousin because I called her mother Aunt 'Jane'. 'Mary' promptly denied that she was my cousin and everyone called me a liar .

Two of my friends call their Dad by his first name and it's always struck me as odd. Each to their own though.

Very funny story Worra

Mine call me Mum. Sometimes I have a secret pang for the days they would call be Mama.

The one that grates on me is the really drawn out 'Muuuuuuum' when you just know they are going to ask for something. Usually when I have just managed to sit down and read something.

Yes I was always made to call parents' friends auntie and uncle too.

Mine say mum/mummy but I don't mind at all. As long as its not something derogatory I'm happy. My uncle asked me to stop calling him uncle when I was about 18. He hates it apparently!

I detest "DADDY" (the diminutive form) Dad was better, but I asked DD (4) to call me by fred or dad, she chose fred.

I detest it even more when other people call me daddy, and hopefully DD will prevent that by not, sometimes think it's a bit odd in the park etc. but who cares, they'll just think I'm some other carer. No-one has ever suggested it's cheeky though.

Really fred
I'm nearing 50 and still call mine daddy. I think he'd be mortified if I didn't.
He's such a kind loving man that it just suits him.
My mum however, is MUM, not mummy. No idea why?

My DD calls me mum and like so many on here she has to call me by my name when I'm 'zoned out'

I feel annoyed that when you have a baby your name has to change.

My name hasn't changed. I might have gained a new nickname that a tiny handful of people are allowed to use but my name hasn't changed in the slightest.

I would hate it.
I completely agree with soupdragon, only my girls will ever call me that. It's a symbol of our unique relationship.

It makes me squirm when other people's children do it but it's a very personal thing. I do see it as a bit of a sign of disrespect but maybe that's outdated.

Soup I know what you mean but once you become "Mum" then multiple healthcare professionals seem to think it's ok to use it.

My neighbour works in a nursery and refers to the children's parents as "Mum" and "Dad"

"Well Dad thinks that he should be eating with a spoon on his own now."

"Mum wasn't happy that Tom got whacked with a ball in the face."

And if you visit the hospital some staff will say "Ok then Mum let's get you prepped for surgery"

None of which is ok.

dd2 called me by my first name for a bit when she was three
knowing how oppositional she can be, I let her do it until she got bored with it, as telling her otherwise would have guaranteed she'd do it forever

she's nearly 5 now and I can't remember the last time she did it

My sister and I used a nickname for my mum based on her first name, which we called her just as often as 'Mum'. She pretended to mither but she actually loved it.

My two call me Mama. They also went through a phase of calling DH 'Honey' because that's what I call him!

I think my first name sounds more personable somehow - can't really explain it!

Thehouse we often do this as teachers too but for two reasons. If discussing parents amongst ourselves as staff we often don't know their name so when discussing jack it is easier to say "mum said he's not allowed to do pe etc." We just drop the 'his'.

Also we sometimes refer to the parent as mum to the child because that's who they are to them. "Jack why don't you grab a chair for mum."

Never saw any harm in it.

On a side note my little brother has always called me sis which I actually quite like. When he was about 8 one if his friends called me it too and I realised he had heard it and assumed it was my name. I corrected him but he continued to call me it.

If you said "Jack why don't you grab a chair for your mum", then I think it would be utterly reasonable, but it's a bit grating otherwise. Mind you I don't get particularly annoyed with HCP's and similar who have to deal with loads of "mums" and "dads" and use it, I'll cut them a lot of slack, so I wouldn't complain and would only be slightly annoyed. Most people don't mind you doing it I'm sure, us who do are a minority.

Bring it up every time with the IL's etc.

Starfish well I know a LOT of women on here who absolutely hate it. Just say "His Mum" and "Your Mum." please.

When DCs were little they called me mummy, then it became mum, then in their teens they went through a phase of calling me made-up nick names, like Blubberbum, Geekface etc! Fortunately, they've gone back to calling me me mum again now!

Mum or mummy. Or sometimes DS3 calls me mama when he's pretending to be a baby!

Don't think my kids have any concept of my name. They still get confused when DSS calls me by my name!

my DCs call me Saz, my Dd started it to be annoying when she was 15, but all her friends carried on, then my DS started and all his friends too and their parents so now Im Saz. DD has gone back to Mum for some occasions

My children's nursery teachers did the 'mum' 'dad' thing and it was quite grating. A bit babytalk I think, made me feel quite patronized.
Still they were lovely otherwise so it wasn't a big deal. I've never been bothered about being referred to as dd's mum/'ds's mum, just 'mum' from an unrelated adult. Actually thinking about it I don't like it when my mother does it either.

My two always use a mother title, usually mum now, sometimes mummy, or mumsy, or mother dearest all of which are fine by me. dh got very upset when one of them tried using his name, it really bothered him, he felt 'unfathered' somehow.

Oh and we've got friends who call all of the men in the family 'brother' and all of the women 'sister'. It was very confusing for a while and then we just joined in