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OnlyWantsOne · 2015-07-30T16:27:35+00:00

Last week we got married Today is my birthday. My husband bought (and wrapped) for me, a bag of morisons popcorn.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 30/07/2015 21:47

So what plan do you have Only ?

fourtothedozen · 30/07/2015 21:50

You got married last week OP?

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 21:51

Plan? None.

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ohtheholidays · 30/07/2015 21:51

Oh only what an arse he has been,I think from now you need to start thinking about what you want and need.Tell him and let him decide if he can step up to the mark.

Make sure he knows that your serious.If he can't or wont be the husband that you want and deserve then you need to start putting yourself first instead of him.

My ex husband was a complete arse but even he managed not to fuck up my birthdays,anniversarys,Christmas or Valentines day.

RedDaisyRed · 30/07/2015 21:57

We never bothered with presents. Not all couples are materialistic or into birthdays!

SylvanianCaracal · 30/07/2015 22:02

But that's not really the point Daisy. Op's H should care about what she wants. One cue for how she'd like to be treated on her birthday is how she treats him which is kind and thoughtful. If he's not materialistic and doesn't want presents, he/they could have discussed that. It's not that – it's that he's hurtful and uncaring.

morethanpotatoprints · 30/07/2015 22:13

Of course it's nothing to do with materialism. It's about loving somebody enough to want to be on the same page as them.
He doesn't mind accepting nice gifts himself. It's something you decide together.
We used to buy each other domestic stuff as it's what we needed. He bought me a drill and I bought him an iron we did swap.
The Op's dh either doesn't know her at all or knows her well and is purposely acting like a twat.

Ohfourfoxache · 30/07/2015 22:29

Only you need a plan.

This guy is a tosser. It might be my imagination, but have you posted about him before?

Oh, and think about getting this moved to relationships - it's pretty conclusive that Yanbu

weeblueberry · 30/07/2015 22:29

Er Daisy have you read the thread?

Everythingwillbeok · 30/07/2015 22:48

Good evening OP I hope you're ok, I know your probably not...take comfort in the fact the DCs have been fed and are safely tucked up in bed.

Now as mentioned unthread you need a plan...start making very discreet enquiries and getting some advice but don't let him know....no matter how fucking tempting, don't tip him off.

You can come out of this intact and still have the rest of your life to find someone who will cherish and adore you, you deserve it.

My birthday is Christmas Eve, my husband went out at 9am to pick me something up, returned back at gone midnight with a carrier bag with a pair of nylon pjs in them with a price sticker on that said £4.99.

He was so pissed he was sick all over the piles of presents I'd wrapped and put out for our DD on my own and fell into the Christmas tree.

We are no longer married I would have ended up doing something terrible to him I think if I'd had to endure any more of him.

I'm now with a man who is wonderful, treats me like a goddess and we have a DD who is 10.

Whatever you decide please let this be the last birthday he ruins.

Because even worse than the fact he's ruined it he's so cold he doesn't even care.

SistersofPercy · 30/07/2015 23:04

I mentioned this to dh earlier, he smiled and said 'yes but what was the real present?' And this from the man who once bought me a Dyson for Christmas (I was thrilled to be fair ).

Op you are worth so much more than this. Please set yourself a goal that on your birthday next year you will be living the life you deserve how you want to without this man.
Today you've had the best birthday present ever, you just don't realise it yet. You've had the wake up call you needed and a positive furture handed to you if you decide to take it.
Happy birthday,

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/07/2015 23:19

He bought you a bag of popcorn because you broke your tooth on it? Ha fucking ha. I wouldn't want to go out with him either.

I'm with XiCi and others, ask him WTF with the popcorn. I think it was probably a joke present that would have been funny alongside some jewelry and make up but NOT alone.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/07/2015 23:22

I x-posted with about 6 pages (bugger). He's a shit. Tell him a fixed tooth is your birthday present and book that.

dougieroseagain · 30/07/2015 23:34

He sounds like my Ex who once bought me a rubbish bin for Christmas.

I was a SAHM with an 18 month old - was completely financially dependent on the bloke and thought I had no way out. ....... So I started to daydream....

I daydreamed about thousands of ways I could leave him and start again. If one idea didn't work out then I would try another. I would walk through each step to see how realistic the outcome would be.

Ultimately I worked out that it would be cheaper for him to remortgage the house to buy me out of my share so that he could give me a lump sum for me to buy my own house in a v vvvvvvvv cheap part of the country. As I could easily prove that I was divorcing him because of his unreasonable behaviour (not just the bin, a whole catalogue of crazy stuff) then the court told him that he had to pay for my legal costs.

You've done a wise thing getting married. Regard it as a financial investment rather than an sentimental thing. Research your exit plan (deleting your internet history as you go along) and then present your divorce as a fait accompli when you are a thousand per cent sure of your and what you are entitled to. You see - you shouldn't be called an entitled bitch and not actually enjoy the benefit of it, should you? xxxx

ijustwannadance · 30/07/2015 23:34

I'm only going by this thread not the previous years worth, but op seems to be avoiding some of the questions.

Eg someone asked why she hasnt had tooth fixed. Op says no money, when earlier said money for a present wasnt an issue. Then ignored when someone questioned this. Why not ask for tooth fixed for birthday? Although i'm surprised not fixed before costly wedding.
If she knew he was a twat already then why marry him?
She cant admit to friends he is a prick because theyre probably sick of telling her to get rid for years.

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 23:56

Wedding was booked and paid for before tooth broke. My parents have paid for 95%

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 23:56

Friends all think he is charming and lovely

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achieve6 · 30/07/2015 23:59

Tell them the truth, then they won't think he is lovely. I've seen this happen many times.

ijustwannadance · 31/07/2015 00:15

But you said money is no issue for him so why cant he pay to have your tooth fixed?
Have you led your friends to believe he is charming and lovely? Are they jealous of your 'perfect' man? Surely real friends would believe you if you just told them.

Ohfourfoxache · 31/07/2015 00:16

Only I've been cheeky I'm afraid - I've searched for and read your past threads.

Jesus wept what a life you've had - not exactly easy, eh?

I'm going to go all "pop psychology" now - you've stuck with this moron because he "isn't as bad" as your abhorrent ex. And yes, this man isn't violent and, in one way, he may well not be as bad.

But here's the thing. This moron, your "d"h, is also abusive. You need to have a tooth fixed and you don't have the money to do it. Well, in an adult relationship, in a marriage, where 2 people love and respect each other, if the money is there you get your tooth fixed regardless. There is no "his and hers" - it is shared.

Look at your relationship. You're making do, aren't you? This "man" lied to you and then did fuck all for your birthday, and Christmas before that. He had the opportunity, you made suggestions, but he doesn't think enough of you to put his words into actions. And instead of being remorseful, he's cold and heartless.

I wish you could see how much more you're worth

Ohfourfoxache · 31/07/2015 00:17

Only I've been cheeky I'm afraid - I've searched for and read your past threads.

Jesus wept what a life you've had - not exactly easy, eh?

I'm going to go all "pop psychology" now - you've stuck with this moron because he "isn't as bad" as your abhorrent ex. And yes, this man isn't violent and, in one way, he may well not be as bad.

But here's the thing. This moron, your "d"h, is also abusive. You need to have a tooth fixed and you don't have the money to do it. Well, in an adult relationship, in a marriage, where 2 people love and respect each other, if the money is there you get your tooth fixed regardless. There is no "his and hers" - it is shared.

Look at your relationship. You're making do, aren't you? This "man" lied to you and then did fuck all for your birthday, and Christmas before that. He had the opportunity, you made suggestions, but he doesn't think enough of you to put his words into actions. And instead of being remorseful, he's cold and heartless.

I wish you could see how much more you're worth

Ohfourfoxache · 31/07/2015 00:18

Ah stupid bloody double post

TheFormidableMrsC · 31/07/2015 00:34

I'd be angry and upset too. It's nothing to do with being spoilt and entitled, but you'd expect a bit more love and care on your special day.

When my mother died of cancer my STBXH bought me a book about a woman dying of cancer because he thought I'd find it "interesting". He bought me a pair of size 9 hideous plastic boots, I haven't got size 9 feet either. He also asked me if i'd like an i-pod. Absolutely not, said I, I'd never use it, waste of money, suggested favourite perfume instead. He bought the i-pod

These are not the only reasons he is a STBXH

Happy birthday OP, go and treat yourself to something really lovely

CatMilkMan · 31/07/2015 00:37

I feel bad for your husband.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 31/07/2015 00:45

Why do you feel for the husband?