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AIBU - my friend pinched a boy

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mamasilla · 26/07/2015 14:48

My friends and I took all kids to a soft play area today. After 10 mins one of the kids came crying to us saying that another boy had punched him as he wanted to take a toy of him, he identified the kid to us so we decided to keep a closer eye. Five mins later the same happened to my girl. I went over to where the mom was with her friends and asked her to keep an eye as this boy was upsetting the rest. When the mom dismissed my point I pointed out that it would be very unpleasant if one of our kids punched him back. She said that her kid knows how to look after himself (the boy must have been 4 or 5 years old). When it happened the third time one of my friends reacted and pinched (not punched) the offending kid on the arm (his mum continued to be oblivious).
The debate then started, was she being unreasonable? I'd be interested in hearing your views!

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crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:17

why on earth are you saying im a wind up merchant? I stated that a nip in a certain situation is, by me, very allowed.

im not sure why you need to blow a thing up into something it isnt. Im not sure why you think its "terrifying".

Take care and sleep well Little.

Notnowdarling01 · 27/07/2015 00:17

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crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:19

really Not? threats now... are you sure. Again Id say get a grip and take what I said in context.

Madness... sheer madness.

Singsongsung · 27/07/2015 00:21

It's allowed by you Crusts? Marvellous. We'll be glad that you're not in charge of the country then hey.
Would you take the same approach if a teacher or nursery worker nipped or bit your child I wonder, or is it just parents who are allowed to do that in Crustland?
Ho hum. You won't answer as the question is too hard.
Night all.

LittleLionMansMummy · 27/07/2015 00:21

Yes and perhaps the 1 year old will become 11 The5DayChicken! Grin G'night!

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 27/07/2015 00:21

As a social worker you go to cases where things are in question. My normal life and actions arent so I wouldnt even pass your desk. Why on earth cant things just be put into context.

^Thinks that behaviour that would be deemed abuse by social workers is only abuse if it is brought to their attention. Haha! If a tree falls in the forest and no-one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?

Zen contemplation mode

But mainly:

You however have become nasty in a politically correct manner.

I'm dying to know what this means. Anyone got any ideas?

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:21

Context Sing, context.

Singsongsung · 27/07/2015 00:25

Context? Ok, 2 year old bites a nursery worker. Can they bite back?

Notnowdarling01 · 27/07/2015 00:26

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Singsongsung · 27/07/2015 00:28

Let's hope not hey

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:29

Oh for fuck sake, are you still at me... In a professional manner of course I wouldnt. In a normal setting if a kid kept biting mine again and again Id give him a little nip to remind him it hurt. I did that with my own and it worked. Now... good night.

ilovesooty · 27/07/2015 00:29

Context? Ok, 2 year old bites a nursery worker. Can they bite back?

According to crustsaway what you do at work differs from what you do at home.

The5DayChicken · 27/07/2015 00:29

Probably not Sing. I imagine they can nip though. But I'm not certain what the difference is. Or why, if they're different, nipping teaches anything about biting.

broken record award goes to me

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:31

If what catches up with me? my demonic biting/abusive attitude? oh just sod off and go to bed Not.

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DixieNormas · 27/07/2015 00:34

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Singsongsung · 27/07/2015 00:38

If you intentionally bit a child at a soft play area and the news of that got back to your workplace I would be astounded if you weren't sacked, bearing in mind you work with children.
As a teacher, certainly my behaviour outside of work has a baring on my job. I am expected to conform to certain standards and there's no doubt that biting, nipping, slapping a child would fall way short of them.

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:38

Dont let the bed bugs bite Grin

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:40

are you still banging on there sing? give it a rest Grin

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The5DayChicken · 27/07/2015 00:41

Night Not Smile

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:42

There are always what i call "jobsworths" about.. dear god relax, bite, be happy Grin

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:44

please do, it may become anotherenterprising job of mine NOT Grin

The5DayChicken · 27/07/2015 00:45

(starts to suspect that crusts has no teeth and this is all a fantasy to make her feel better)

crustsaway · 27/07/2015 00:50

Funny you should say that Chicken, I actually have nightmares about them falling out now. I have a masterplan though, its called going to budapest, they charge a fraction of what the UK does. Im off there next year. Would you like their details? Its a genuine clinic and I have many a recommendation by the elite?