To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

In my experience wild teenage girls care very much what people think of them - and if they can attract a bit of attention (in whatever way) then so much the better. If they can attract attention and cause a few raised eyebrows then it's a huge success

I would be shocked.

And I agree with OTheHugeManatee, I do wash and dress and look presentable at communal breakfasts, but I find it so much easier to stay in the kind of hotels that have room service, rather than having to drag myself out for last orders when nothing's left at 10am and then be observed by people such as Nurserywindow.

Why would anybody even notice what a couple of teenagers wear?

Wideopen - the people that I have seen doing this are portraying the 'look at me' message through their whole demeanour. Loud voice, swinging hair, watching for reactions. I know them pretty well and it's exactly what they are doing.

Certainly not just unselfconscious. SirChenjin, has it spot on.

Never go camping, everyone wanders about the campsite in their PJs in the morning.

I wouldn't care if someone had their PJs on in an hotel either.

They are just clothes.

Needsasock it stands out when everyone else is wearing their day clothes and there's a couple of people in pyjamas. Of course people notice.
I agree with the OP. It is bad manners and I wouldn't have allowed my kids to get away with it. I also don't agree with shopping or taking the kids to school in pyjamas either. It looks sloppy and unkempt.

Bet you'd go down to breakfast in your Slanket and Big Slipper usual

Why would anybody even notice what a couple of teenagers wear?

NeedsAsockamnesty I have to say I would. But it would be swiftly overtaken with my breakfast buffet thoughts:

'I want a freshly fried egg not one that's been turning to rubber for 10 minutes.

'And oh, is that a rhubarb yoghurt over there? I really like those. Can I ask the person next to me to save my place while I nab it or would that be rude?''

Not true about the camping, only very odd people wonder in their pj's. Really not on in a hotel

I've just come back from a camping trip, I can assure you that plenty of people wandered down to the shower block in their PJs.

I don't even think it's laziness on their part to not get dressed to come down for breakfast. How hard can it be to throw some clothes on. I think it's more like a well thought out planned look. It was meant to look casual as if they'd just got out of bed but it probably had the same planning as an afternoon up town outfit.
Totally inappropriate but if the parents don't put them straight they aren't going to learn.

I like the etiquette of the toaster at the breakfast buffet.

Lots of people anxiously hovering in case someone nabs their bit

So what if people notice.

People should only concern themselves with what they wear not what other people wear.

Do you wear your PJs out to the shops NeedaSockAmnesty?

It's a similar principle - hotel dining room is just as much a public place as the shops.

But that's just my opinion.

If I run a hotel I'm going to make it a rule that everyone has to turn up in their PJs.

Why would anyone dress in such a way to make sure rhey are noticed?

Of course, in an ideal world, everyone would behave with decency and kindness at all times, and no-one would judge. Until such a day exists, dressing massively out of the norm means you will attract attention - as well the wearer knows.

Yuck - sweaty unwashed people at breakfast. Your audience will be about >< this big and you will go out of business within around a month

Why would anyone dress in such a way to make sure rhey are noticed?

I do this all the time.

Not in pyjamas, but the essential concept is no different.

I don't think so Sir. I think I have a secure niche market.

I reckon people would make a proper effort with their nightwear.

I don't actually go to the shops, I'm not especially keen on them, and I don't own any pj's

People should feel free to wear what ever they want

I did go to work the other day wearing onsie and slippers,because I felt like being comfy and it worked for me.

What's your job NeedsAsockamnesty?

A niche market? Yeah, you've got that alright - so niche that only a few sweaty mingers will stay. Would love to see Deborah's face when you pirch that to the Dragons!

So what job allows you to schlepp up in a onsie??

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