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To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 13:48

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

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Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 16:14

People who go to spas don't sweat either. They waft and smell faintly of eucalyptus. Trufax.

Ilovetorrentialrain · 22/07/2015 16:18

I've never seen this happen anywhere I've ever stayed. Never heard of it either. I'm fining this quite hard to believe...

Not unreasonable to find this bad manners.

HemanOrSheRa · 22/07/2015 16:24

It's a hotel with a spa Salmo. Honestly, the thought of having to go from room to spa area in a robe with a swimming costume underneath makes me come over all peculiar . I've tried to find out if there is some sort of special route to save guests blushes. But I can't find any info on line.

Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 16:28

Ah!

I think you swathe yourself in the big towelling robe, stick you nose in the air and stride confidently out there to the Spa.

And it's not like you are going to eat in the dining room in the robe and swimming costume.

Or is it?

Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 16:30

Or get a maxi dress and a fuck you attitude?

AmIthatsummery · 22/07/2015 16:31

Last year I saw a whole family come down to breakfast in their PJs.

Judging by their behaviour they weren't used to hotels.

I wouldn't say I was offended, but I did judge

MissBattleaxe · 22/07/2015 16:32

I believe it happened! We saw a 10/11 year old boy eat his breakfast in a onesie in a v posh hotel and I thought either his parents just didn't know the etiquette or that it was lazy.

I think it's bad manners and on a par with doing the school run in pyjamas. How hard is it to put trousers and a top on? There's got to be some standards.

HemanOrSheRa · 22/07/2015 16:41

Wide and Salmo

I've been to a spa before and had to eat my lunch in a robe. Just Wrong.

I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm going to have to try and style it out in the robe. I need to use the spa - it looks lovely. Sadly, the reality is, I'm very short, the robe will be too long and I'll probably fall down the stairs in the style of Frank Spencer.

Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 16:43

Sarong?

limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 16:43

why on earth did they have to take ipads down to breakfast?

Maybe they were doing a review for Trip Advisor SallyingForth?

HemanOrSheRa · 22/07/2015 16:55

Ooh there's a thought Wide. We're attending a wedding there and staying overnight. Stuff it, I'm going to strut about in a bikini, kitten heels and my cocktail hat

Number12 · 22/07/2015 16:56

Yanbu, however I would love to do this. To have the attitude of not giving a shit what anyone else thinks, being comfy and eating before I had to get dressed do hair and make up. I love it, i might give it a go!

Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 16:58

That's what I'm talking about with the fuckoff attitude heman!

limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 17:04

DH always wears a skimpy baby blue towelling shortie dressing gown with a vaguely Japanese or Chinese writing motif on the left breast when we visit his mother.

She's had it since around the mid Seventies and I think it was inspired by the craze for all things Far Eastern such as Carl Douglas's opus Kung Fu Fighting or The Water Margin, Kung Fu with David 'Grasshopper' Carradine and not forgetting

He doesn't wear anything under it when we eat over the Sunday papers on high stools at the breakfast bar in her sunny kitchen . I used to think it embarrassing but they seemed unperturbed so I've learned to relax. I'm sure she's seen his winkie before and she is a nurse.

Perhaps she's more shocked by my habit of coming to breakfast wearing last night's make up but I doubt it. And if she is, she's far too polite to say.

limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 17:09

Sorry, I don't know what I was thinking of by posting a Wikipedia link. deserves a You Tube link.

I'd be pleased if someone livened up a dreary hotel stay with this kind of performance at breakfast.

SirChenjin · 22/07/2015 17:13

Yanbu. My teens are 15 and 17 - if they insisted on doing this (they wouldn't, they're decent kids) then they would be sitting on a different table and there would be Consequences.

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 22/07/2015 17:13

I do think words like 'revolting' and 'disgusting' are just inappropriate in this case.

HemanOrSheRa · 22/07/2015 17:15

I misread your post limited at first glance I thought it said your DH wears a skimpy baby doll .

I can just imagine DP's face if I tried to do that Wide. He never tells me what to do, obviously. But I think he may try and put his foot down with a firm hand on that one .

Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 17:18

BoysFromTheBigBadCity - is minging a better adjective?

I think so.

Don't you?

limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 17:21

I misread your post limited at first glance I thought it said your DH wears a skimpy baby doll

I'm always doing that HemanOrSheRa.

My dad bought my mum a baby doll and my sister mortified her by innocently wandering out in it while my mum was chatting to a neighbour over the fence.

My sister was only about six though. And I'm sure she was wearing her Little Cherub brand vest and knickers underneath.

GrumpyOldBiddy2 · 22/07/2015 17:22

Sorry if the thread has moved on but this is very typical of some of the teenage girls I know - 'Look at me!, Look at me!, LOOK AT MEEEEEEE!!!!!!'

The parents of those girls seem to vary between those who are intensely proud of their daughters ability to attract attention and those who have given up trying to argue with them.

Am trying to think whether I have ever seen a boy over the age of 10 in his pyjamas in public and I really can't.

Gruntfuttock · 22/07/2015 17:25

PamBagnallsGotACollage "Yes, why wouldn't you do your make up? All women must put make up on before going to any public areas. "

Don't be ridiculous! I was specifically referring to OTheHugeManatee's post saying that she disliked staying in hotels because "I hate having to get out of PJs before breakfast, and then eating it in public where people are going to judge my bed-hair and lack of makeup." I assumed from this that she wasn't happy being seen in the hotel with "bed-hair" and no makeup, hence my question. I certainly wasn't saying that I think that "All women must put make up on before going to any public areas", because I would neither notice nor give a flying fuck whether she or anyone else was wearing makeup.

Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 17:27

Why is that 'look at me' behaviour grumpy?

It might just mean that they are blessedly unselfconscious and don't really care too much what people think...

Sgtmajormummy · 22/07/2015 17:28

I saw this in a cheapish/backpackers B&B in Oxford recently when breakfast was nearly over. People had obviously tumbled out of bed just in time and didn't mind who knew it.
That would be the only acceptable reason for "hotel" breakfast in PJs IMO.

limitedperiodonly · 22/07/2015 17:32

And if it was me, I would hiss: 'Go and put some proper clothes on' even if it was an un-ironed t-shirt and joggers. As long as they were clean.

If it was someone else's children, and their appearance rather than their behaviour was the biggest sin, I'd ignore them. If the parents were dressed I'd feel extra sorry for them.

Where do people stand on ironing btw? I insist on it. When I ambled around public areas as a hospital patient in pyjamas and slippers I insisted that they were clean and ironed. I wore hospital gowns in bed and saved my nice PJs for visits.

I wouldn't judge anyone for wearing creased and dirty clothes in that situation because you can't, can you?

Though some people might. Especially if they're huddled round the front door having a fag.

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