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MIL birthday cake - I know I am being childish

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Happy36 · 20/07/2015 17:19

Today is MIL's birthday. We are on holiday with them so all staying in the same house. She spends the entire time in the kitchen watching television. Last night I went into the kitchen and said, I hope you don't mind, I am going to make a cake. It's her birthday today and I bake rarely; my husband who helped me with the cakes vakes even less frequently than I do. So it was pretty obvious we were making her birthday cake.

Then after she had gone to bed, we iced and decorated the cake and put it in the fridge, where everyone could see it.

This morning my husband spoke to his father and said that we would give MIL her gifts and sing Happy Birthday and cut the cake after lunch (when my husband's younger brother usually gets up). So I told the children and they were wonderfully stoical about waiting until 4pm to give their grandmother their cards and gifts, and to try the cake.

Now it's 6.15pm and there's no sign of any present-giving, (slightly irrelevant but I am angry so I'll add that brother-in-law has eaten multiple slices of brioche smothered in Nutella) and the kids know that they mustn't complain as it's not their birthday which is almost heartbreaking to watch. I asked my husband to have another word with his dad but he said it would be rude as it's his mum's day and we will do the singing, etc. when she says she wants to.

Now father in law has just shouted upstairs that we are going out in 20 minutes. I have no idea what is going on and my husband is taking a nap.

I know I am being very childish but I rwally needed to rant. Sorry.

OP posts:
CigarsofthePharoahs · 20/07/2015 20:07

Punch the cake in true mn style.
Then serve.
I bet they're all sat round a table at a restaurant just glaring at each other. I bet the mil has chocolate cake for pud.
Right now the op is probably wondering if she can stab mil in the eye with a cake fork.
Have a Brew

Olddear · 20/07/2015 20:09

I've no wish to be nosey, but I'm desperate to know why DH/FIL would go mad OP if you went ahead with the cake and presents?

wankerchief · 20/07/2015 20:09

Fuck the cake, run for the hills.

Your dh and and fil sound creepy

Littlegreyauditor · 20/07/2015 20:09

I would eat the cake, but then again I am a savage. She doesn't seem to want it, cake is just sitting there, uneaten and unloved, waiting to achieve its cake destiny.
Let the cake become OP, help it to be.

eat the cake

whatnoww · 20/07/2015 20:10

Marking my place, never been so interested in a cake that I'm not even going to eat!

OttiliaVonBCup · 20/07/2015 20:10

Such a sad waste of cake, isn't it?

Olddear · 20/07/2015 20:10

Eat the cake, eat the cake, eat the cake.........

lutra3d · 20/07/2015 20:14

Perhaps everyone got plastered last night.
BIL and dh have been sleeping it off all day.
Mil is massively hung over and only a Big Mac meal will do.

Rubberduck2 · 20/07/2015 20:17

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pissedglitter · 20/07/2015 20:18

And now I want a Big Mac Confused

CigarsofthePharoahs · 20/07/2015 20:19

On second thoughts, don't damage the cake. You've clearly put a lot of time and effort into it.
Just get it out of the fridge and start tucking in in front of them all. If they start to look cross just say 'What?' in your most innocent tone. Then share with the children.
Ah the politics of cake.

DowntownFunk · 20/07/2015 20:20

I think OP should pipe a nicely PA birthday message on the cake

I'd go for "Happy ??th Birthday Granny" ... where ?? equals DMIL's age plus 3 years.

OttiliaVonBCup · 20/07/2015 20:20

I have one of them Waitrose Ramequin Chocolate Orange puddings.

Dafspunk · 20/07/2015 20:22

Love tales of other people's bonkers family dynamics Grin

Olddear · 20/07/2015 20:24

Has she even had her gifts yet?

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2015 20:26

Passive aggressive cakes. Enjoy.

AllThatGlistens · 20/07/2015 20:28

If it's lemon drizzle then it should be punched Wink

It should be either carrot or pistachio, you can come and eat it at my house, I'll brew fresh coffee and everything.

Otherwise, I'd be injecting the fucker with laxatives and leaving them to it, and take your poor DC out for cake and ice cream.

Cake hierarchies my arse!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 20/07/2015 20:29

It is a massive gooey chocolate cake like the one that Bruce Bogtrotter eats in Matilda. OP is looming over MIL screaming "you wanted cake, boy, you eat cake!" in the manner of Miss Trunchbull. (Sorry OP, bet you're more of a Miss Honey)

lutra3d · 20/07/2015 20:29

Give her this card here

AllThatGlistens · 20/07/2015 20:30

MrsTerryPratchett Grin Grin

BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 20/07/2015 20:31

This thread is just making me feel hungry. Please. Eat. The. Cake.

TendonQueen · 20/07/2015 20:32

Someone's in a diabetic coma now, we just don't know who. Go for the cake, OP!

UrethraFranklin1 · 20/07/2015 20:32

Do you reckon OP is off having a cake fight? I think they are throwing it at each other.

Bakeoffcake · 20/07/2015 20:35

Has she given permission to be presented with her cake yet OP?????

The whole family sounds weird

PinkPopPony · 20/07/2015 20:35

what is going on !?
I would have snapped by now.

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