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MIL birthday cake - I know I am being childish

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Happy36 · 20/07/2015 17:19

Today is MIL's birthday. We are on holiday with them so all staying in the same house. She spends the entire time in the kitchen watching television. Last night I went into the kitchen and said, I hope you don't mind, I am going to make a cake. It's her birthday today and I bake rarely; my husband who helped me with the cakes vakes even less frequently than I do. So it was pretty obvious we were making her birthday cake.

Then after she had gone to bed, we iced and decorated the cake and put it in the fridge, where everyone could see it.

This morning my husband spoke to his father and said that we would give MIL her gifts and sing Happy Birthday and cut the cake after lunch (when my husband's younger brother usually gets up). So I told the children and they were wonderfully stoical about waiting until 4pm to give their grandmother their cards and gifts, and to try the cake.

Now it's 6.15pm and there's no sign of any present-giving, (slightly irrelevant but I am angry so I'll add that brother-in-law has eaten multiple slices of brioche smothered in Nutella) and the kids know that they mustn't complain as it's not their birthday which is almost heartbreaking to watch. I asked my husband to have another word with his dad but he said it would be rude as it's his mum's day and we will do the singing, etc. when she says she wants to.

Now father in law has just shouted upstairs that we are going out in 20 minutes. I have no idea what is going on and my husband is taking a nap.

I know I am being very childish but I rwally needed to rant. Sorry.

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AllThatGlistens · 20/07/2015 20:36

Ha possibly Urethra I'm imagining some kind of manic frenzy, OP is slamming the fridge door on MIL's head whilst the kids are shovelling handfuls of cake into their poor wee mouths as she yells at them to "Eat Eat Eat!", and the DH and BIL saunter in yawning and looking bemused.

I may be slightly over invested in this now.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 20/07/2015 20:40

I assume MIL is a bit annoyed that dear sons are lazy arses in bed all day on MIL birthday .... what kinda boys has she raised that cant put others before themselves ocassionally?? ... OP you sound caring .... eat the cake...

Olddear · 20/07/2015 20:41

OP got the cake out, put it on the kitchen table, MIL screamed 'NOT YET!!!!' And OP slammed the bitches face right into it. That's what happened.

kungfupannda · 20/07/2015 20:41

We need to find out where the OP is, and then all local MNers should go round, one by one, and knock on the door. OP will admit them, and they will process through the kitchen, looking suitably solemn and funereal, while the OP opens the fridge and gives them a quick glimpse of the cake. Then they should hug the OP, shake her DH and FIL sadly by the hand, and leave again, all in silence.

When the MIL queries it, OP can look surprised and say 'They've come to view the cake' in a hushed and respectful tone.

Olddear · 20/07/2015 20:44

Yes. With a little black hankie covering the cake.....

Bestoftimesworstoftimes · 20/07/2015 20:44

Just read 8 pages through straight and kungfu I laughed aloud at the great climax

OttiliaVonBCup · 20/07/2015 20:45

OP is probably too pissed to type.
I know I would be-

JellyQuivvers · 20/07/2015 20:46

I have ACTUALLY just gone and baked a bloody cake (mostly scoffed already, cheers family). I must be really suggestible, or maybe just a greedy bastard Smile

Slowtrain2dawn · 20/07/2015 20:47

MIL is alpha, alpha normally makes cake. Whole pack, sorry family then fawn over cake confirming her status.
When it is her birthday, her alpha position is threatened because someone else has made cake. She must assert her status by not eating cake until SHE chooses.

Thisismyfirsttime · 20/07/2015 20:48

I could have cried laughing at Redglitter's comment. Imagine if OP's all sad 'mil doesn't want the cake' and mil's all sad 'she baked me a cake and then didn't mention it and my own gc's didn't acknowledge my birthday'
Neither will ever say anything whilst both being utterly stumped at the other's behaviour!

TipseyTorvey · 20/07/2015 20:51

Marking place as have just read whole thread and need to know what's happened with the cake, I'm imagining some horrible rage incident that will appear on the news as an attempted murder with the cake knife....

CigarsofthePharoahs · 20/07/2015 20:52

I made cakes this afternoon. Little butterfly cakes. They were just going to be iced cup cakes, but the bloody things sank. I have craftily disguised this and ds1's preschool group will never know! Heh heh.
It's his last day tomorrow and his taking them in to apologise say goodbye.
I want to see a picture of this icing encrusted wonder.
Perhaps the op has been arrested for milicide.

Littlegreyauditor · 20/07/2015 20:52

I have gestational diabetes and I can't have cake, but I so very much want cake. God I want cake. In my head I can see a vast chocolate cake with buttercream filling and shiny, shiny chocolate icing. Maybe with sprinkles, or those wee chocolate curls on the surface.

For the love of all that is holy will someone, anyone, please eat some fecking cake for me?

It's that or I drive to the garage, buy the first poor effort of cake I can find and rub it into my skin whilst weeping softly.

I have taken against your MIL, OP. To have cake and withhold cake, worse, to ignore cake is just wilful spite and I would dearly love to slap her for you.

I fear this thread has become too much for me. I can't stop saying 'cake'. Sad

Binglesplodge · 20/07/2015 20:55

God. I have never been more invested in whether someone else is eating cake... please update, OP!

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2015 20:55

Tell me you chose that user name before the gestational diabetes Littlegreyauditor because that's spooky.

oddfodd · 20/07/2015 20:57

Is she perhaps guarding the cake? Has no one seen the MIL all day long? Surely you've been into the kitchen for breakfast/lunch and acknowledged her (and possibly slung a happy birthday her way?) Confused

enderwoman · 20/07/2015 20:58

I'm another one who's desperate to know if there's any further development and what the cake looks like.

Twiggy71 · 20/07/2015 21:01

Nooooo I've just read 8 frigging pages and nobody has had any cake yet.
What a waste of a chocolate fudge cake ( yes its chocolate cos its my fav) Grin

Littlegreyauditor · 20/07/2015 21:04

I did Mrs TP! Honestly. It's been my user name since I started. Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2015 21:05

Spooky indeed. Shock

LaurieFairyCake · 20/07/2015 21:09

What the fuck is going on with the thread ?

Kill the fucker, that is all

Littlegreyauditor · 20/07/2015 21:13

When I return to my non diabetic resting state I am having ALL THE CAKE.

Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake Envy

annatha · 20/07/2015 21:16

OP!!!! I hope either a) cake has been served and normality has resumed or b) you smashed it into MIL's ungrateful face.

Taytocrisps · 20/07/2015 21:20

God, I'd love some cake now. Digestive biscuits just won't do it for me I'm afraid.

LooseSeal · 20/07/2015 21:21

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