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To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

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ghostspirit · 12/07/2015 14:55

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair
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ReginaBlitz · 12/07/2015 22:41

Is the greasy comment referring to what I said? Read it back Ffs I said MY FRIENDS sons was greasy I haven't even seen said picture on this thread as I phone app doesn't show pics seriously!!!!!!!!

answersonapostcardplease · 12/07/2015 22:46

I would in theory like ds to have long har but alas, i dont think it will suit him and i have 3 dds with long hair, too much hassle!

ToFleaOrNotToFlea · 12/07/2015 22:47

My nephew has long hair and is often mistaken for a girl. DM is always telling them to get his hair cut but they ignore ignore ignore.

RachelRagged · 12/07/2015 23:01

Oh my DM is like that with my Son's hair. Not overly long at all, just touching his shoulders with a long side type fringe.

Told her, It is DSs hair and DSs choice , which at 14 I think he is entitled too.

SoozeyHoozey · 12/07/2015 23:09

Not a fan of long hair on little boys, to me it screams middle class parents trying to make their kids stand out from the common short haired little working class thugs. I often suspect it is usually the mothers, more than the boys, who want it like that.

sweetgrape · 12/07/2015 23:10

Personally I don't like long hair on boys but if they do it should still be boyish looking iyswim. That hairstyle is very feminine tbh.

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/07/2015 23:22

This is what my son decided he wanted his hair to look like (aged about 8).

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Oldraver · 12/07/2015 23:27

Not a fan of long hair on little boys, to me it screams middle class parents trying to make their kids stand out from the common short haired little working class thugs. I often suspect it is usually the mothers, more than the boys, who want it like that

Sighs...after the 'get your hair cut, you look like a girl' shit our sons have to put up, the (usually) mothers have this shit to contend with

Is it really that hard to comprehend that a little boy doesn't want his hair cut

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/07/2015 23:28

Sorry, posted too soon. It wasn't my choice, it was harder to take care of than short, but I saw no reason not to let him grow it longer. It got to just past shoulder length. Then he decided he wanted it shorter - can't remember why.

So no, not always "middle class parents trying to make their kids stand out from the common short haired little working class thugs". First time I've ever been accused of being middle class!

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 12/07/2015 23:29

My 12 year old has never had his hair cut...
He used to have the fringe cut, but grew that to match the rest recently.

It reaches his bum!

Strangers either say " isn't she pretty?" ( yes HE is, thank you)
Or "Wow. Are you serious? His hair is brilliant"

Quite often, little old ladies ( I know it's a stereo type, but it always seems to be them) get a bit upset. We think they are jealous, as they have ruined their hair with curlers, perms, colours etc over the years...

SkodaLabia · 13/07/2015 07:27

In the photo you posted your son looks like a girl IMO. Not remotely like a boy.
But that's only a problem if it's a problem for him.

Sallystyle · 13/07/2015 07:52

Those little boy's I posted are now 14 and 16. They now cut off their curls.

Sparklingbrook · 13/07/2015 07:57

After reading this thread and looking at the pictures it has made me realise that rightly or wrongly my personal preference is that young boys look so much better with a neat short haircut.

Marcipex · 13/07/2015 07:59

It does look girly tbh.

However , I wouldn't dream of saying so in real life.

Eversobusyeveryday · 13/07/2015 08:01

If you like it and he likes it that's all that matters but you can't seriously be surprised people think it's a girls style. Personally I dint like it but that's not your problem

Sallystyle · 13/07/2015 08:05

OP it is a very typical girls haircut because it is just long, but if he is happy with that then that shouldn't be a problem for anyone else.

I definitely would have thought he was a girl though.

RufusTheReindeer · 13/07/2015 08:08

Don't have a problem with boys with long hair

I do think that it suits some boys, but also doesn't suit others...exactly the same as a certain hairstyle might suit one girl but not another

Ds1 and ds2 have completely different hair, and head shapes. I think one would suit long better than the other

But I completely agree with all those who said that its the style/cut that matters not the length

I've also never seen a teenage boy with long hair that looks like a girl, they all look like boys, small children just look cute usually...boy or girl

Charley50 · 13/07/2015 08:16

Come and live in north London. Half the boys have long hair here. It's not a big deal at all.

19lottie82 · 13/07/2015 08:17

Long hair is cute on little boys, but it could do with a few layers in it.

Sparklingbrook · 13/07/2015 08:17

MN has now alerted me to yet another thing that I have never given much thought to before. i will now be actively looking at boys' hairstyles. Sad

Charley50 · 13/07/2015 08:19

Snoozy hoozy - I agree there is definitely an element of class consciousness in regards to boys hair styles.

Charley50 · 13/07/2015 08:32

Not that the class thing matters - just an observation.

Oliversmumsarmy · 13/07/2015 08:34

Ghost your ds has what I would consider to be short hair not long. Ds at 8 had waist length flowing White blonde locks. He has never been bullied for his hairstyle ever.

The closest he came to anyone uttering anything negative was in the park one day when 2 boys he had not met before asked him if he was a boy or a girl. They then returned to their mums had a conversation with them then returned to my (I think he was about 7 at the time) son and said our mums say boys shouldn't have long hair, to which he immediately replied, "Well then your mums should get out more."

Ds had his hair cut for senior school because he didn't want to wear a pony tail and everyone still thought he was a girl, he just has one of those faces. He actually thinks it is quite funny to reply in a deep voice, "Im a boy" when people mistake him for a girl.
Ds has let his hair grow for the last couple of years. The school did have words with me about getting it cut but because ds has a certain personality I think they did let it go as long hair is just him.

tictactoad · 13/07/2015 08:46

Another child of the 70's who was well used to boys with long hair. It looks lovely. All the time he's happy with it I'd leave it.

DS2 grew his hair when he was about 15. He got fed up with it after a while and got it cut short. Both his choices.

moosemama · 13/07/2015 10:46

I don't think it's a class thing. I am far from middle class, yet both my boys have long hair. It's not a statement on my part, it's their choice. The majority of children at their school are middle class though and almost all of the boys have short hair. I have friends whose sons have long hair too and none of them are what I would consider middle class either.

To be honest, the main reason it was long intitially was because ds1 has ASD and was extremely tactile defensive on his head as a small child. It was hard enough getting it washed and brushed, let alone cut. We've worked on the sensory issues and he is now fine with washing brushing and cutting (although he draws the line at clippers, as he can't stand the noise and vibration) but he still chooses to have long hair - as does his younger brother, who also has long hair. Both boys had their hair cut short last year and absolutely hated it. In fact ds1 got quite distressed about the way it looked. They have now both grown it long again, although admittedly not as long as some dcs on here, they are more layered/tousled/surfy in style.

Dh had similar hair as a child and his grandparents used to get upset and tell him off if he had it cut, because he was 'cutting off his beautiful curls' Grin which of course is exactly why he did it. His hair was white blond and with lots of curls and piercing blue eyes people used to say he looked angelic. He seriously didn't want to look angelic, so he chose to keep it short. Once he hit puberty it became dark blond/mousy and started to frizz up, which in overall effect was a bit too Art Garfunkel. These days it's a no. 1 all over, as sadly it wasn't just the hair, but also the hairline that resembled AG. Grin

Both the boys have inherited dh's post-puberty hair colour, but not the tight curls. They both have looser, wavy curls like me.

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