School reports on Facebook

[WaltJunior]

I can't handle it! I'm not sure why I hate it so much I just cringe so badly
Aibu to think people should keep their child's report to themselves??

Er no. Just no.

MandMand you have more restraint that me, I would have done it. No matter how good their marks are some kids are just horrible. She can be as pleased as she likes with his marks, he is still a brat.

I bet your son is a nicer little boy and that is so much more to be proud of. Awards and certificates are far less important than being a nice person.

Glittery7 I bet your child has had lots of achievements this year, they might not be the same one measured on the school report but they are just as important, as special and as worthwhile.

I have never seen a whole school report posted, just a few comments about how pleased they are that their child has done so well but said in an nice way not in an obnoxious way.

I don't post my son's actual school results even though I am really pleased with them from what I can work out. He is at a special school (autism, GGD, speech and language delay) and works on an adjusted national curriculum. it is hard to understand the levels but he has surpassed when they predicted he would be so I am ultra happy.

It is most amusing to me to post the teachers note about their recently trip to pick strawberries and making jam where she commented in the politest way possible how they managed to persuade him that some strawberries should be in the jam not his mouth. It is just the most tactful way of saying she couldn't get him to stop eating them and amusing to me because it is very him.

I post fairly regularly about my children but generally more funny than achievements. I suppose (hope!) it is less obnoxious when I do post about their achievements because they both have additional needs so they are generally doing things a long time after their other children in their age group.

I wouldn't want to made anyone feel bad, I know what it is like to read how all the other children have achieved something you can only dream of for yours.

I must admit to a small FB post about my ADS's report this week. Not any in depth details (and I never post his name on there anyway) It's our first one since he was placed with us earlier this year and the progress he's made is amazing. I just kind of said that really as I know all the friends and family I have on FB love to share in our happy news.

I only have proper friends and actual family on my FB though so anyone who might "roll their eyes" or think I was bragging wouldn't be able to see it anyway.

Wow this thread is bitchy

I posted a paragraph from my eldest son's report on fb today. I don't have any of his current teachers or parents from his school as friends.
What I do have though is plenty of friends who have supported us through the hard times we've had. I like to show them that we're getting there and share the good as well as the negative. It seems that the majority have continued to be supportive and happy for us and those who aren't have either kept quiet or have defriended me and I haven't even noticed. (I don't think any have though).
I sometimes wonder what kind of friends people on here have.

I rarely go on Facebook but are you actually saying that parents are photographing their kid's private school reports and putting them on the internet??

Christ on a crumpet. Is nothing bloody private any more?

Fair enough if parents want to mention this sort of stuff, but to photograph and upload school reports is beyond invasive imo.

I do wonder if all these over sharers are going to cause their kids any future problems/embarrassment when they're adults.

I'm glad I was a child of the 70s/80s and all I had to worry about was my Mum getting the family album out when friends/family came to visit. That was bloody embarrassing enough.

I find it pretty cringeworthy. Just seems so boastful if it's and preceded by 'proud mummy alert' then followed by gushy adjectives describing the report, worse still posting the actual thing.

Yes, of course it's lovely to be proud when your kids do well, nothing more natural in the world. So give them a hug and tell them so. Tell the grandparents in person or over the phone. I really don't understand the need to boast in detail on FB though.

Having said that, it is more understandable for parents of SEN children that reach milestones they hadn't imagined etc, those things can be quite heart warming to read.

Thanks KER she is very modest but it's very easy to put your kids on a pedestal when they are young. Once they get older it's a different story. We're all proud of our children. The older they get the harder it is. I've seen a few tonight and I've thought 'just shut up' but they're over sharers in general. I do have one friend who posts everything but then her daughter is sen and every achievement is a big thing. I still do feel it's projection on the parents part tho. One over sharers dd actually said 'mum would you please stop I don't want everyone knowing everything' and the mum said 'it's my page I will post what I like' disgusting. And she still carries on.

I've had it on my FB feed today from an old friend & I felt very uncomfortable about it, she's posted photos of the whole report, yes it's good & she has every right to be proud of her daughter, but putting out there for the world to see is very naive & IME puts her daughter at risk of bullying & herself bit he'd about. Sadly having a bright kid just isn't something you can boast about, it gets a lot of people's backs up.

I also felt quite sad seeing it, my daughters last report was brilliant, she's always been a very high achiever & her kindness & thoughtfulness towards others has always been mentioned too - lots of reasons to be proud of her, but she's had enough flack at school without my adding to it by boasting & posting a school report on FB, plus I think of the kids who don't score the high marks, its unkind to kids & parents, so I think it's really inappropriate all round.

This year my daughter has barely made it to school at all, stuck in a wheelchair in so much pain & the medication & pain means she just can't be her amazingly bright self, so I do feel a little bitter towards people making those post - I could have done it time & again & then some, but I didn't because I feel going as far as posting a whole report is tacky & thoughtless to others - this year I really know why I believe that more than ever

I sometimes wonder how parents would feel if they found their kids sharing their private business on the internet?

Imagine 'that photo'...you know the one where you actually looked fantastic but the camera was at the wrong angle, and as you leant forward or raised your arms, a roll of fat was visible or deep stretch marks for example.

Imagine if your kids posted about the private argument you had with your DH the night before, or if they shared the fact that you're worried about where the next meal will come from before pay day.

Does the thought make you cringe? If so, it's probably because you've lost control of everything that you deemed private and behind closed doors.

Just like many, many children today.

I love people who do this.
I find it absolutely hilarious, it just screams I'm insecure but look how special my child is.

OP I totally agree it is completely cringeworthy.

We are breeding a generation of narcissists. I would not dream of posting my children's report on Facebook.

Get a life people!

I just can't understand it. I mean would you put your child's report on a billboard, in a newspaper or on the side of a bus? To me FB is the same and don't give me all that privacy stuff because once it out there any picture can be saved and/ or shared. How can you ask your child to show some restraint online when they are older if you've been documenting their whole life on FB

It is unfair and an intrusion on your child's privacy

Mindful, You might be. My children are pretty well balanced.
Probably a good thing with an insecure, cringeworthy, boastful and tacky Mother like me.

Also makes me cringe. There is a lady on my fb who updates with really personal details from her daughters SEN and school reports -it's so inappropriate. The poor girl is 11 and I'm sure she wouldn't want her private life plastered all over Facebook where her friends parents and older friend group can read them. I completely understand pride, but seriously, rein it in! There are a few parents who write posts TO their children which I find hilarious, especially as the children in question are aged from 3 -11 and do not use Facebook. Things like 'well done Mummy's special princess (name) I love you so much and I'm so proud'. She's 4, tell her! It's mainly harmless I know, but god, it's so toe curling.

I would love to brag about ds report and sats levels. But haven't as I don't think others would understand that average happens to be brilliant after starting from 2 years behind. (Sen) and he wouldn't forgive me for the privacy violation. He's 11 and he very much gets the whole digital footprint thing.

Interestingly those who are normally going on about how proud they are of their brilliant dc haven't yet published sats levels. I'm wondering why? Surely they aren't average?

HA HA HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA people do this? really? WOW.

I've said I am pleased with DS and that the class teacher has done a brilliant job this year but that's it. I'd never report levels or photograph the thing. I want planning on discussing it at all but my friend has been asking me what DS got so I did tell her. I won't shout it from the rooftops though as DS has done very well and it would seem like bragging.

I want an oversharing FB school report friend. Dang it. I want one.

How can you ask your child to show some restraint online when they are older if you've been documenting their whole life on FB

That's a very good point actually. I wonder if some parents (not all, obviously), even realise what a bad example they're setting?

Oh yes. Lota of parents from my daughters school excited about their amazing, special little bright star who has just the kost amazong, womderful report.

Just why?!

One mum I used to know posted photos of every offer letter her DD received when sitting entrance exams for secondary schools, along with comments such as "it's such a challenge to know how to go about parenting such a gifted child". Poor kid, if she saw that she must have been horrified.

At that point I deleted her as I couldn't take any more of her nauseating posts. A shame, her DD is actually lovely, she is not so much.

I asked a question about the report. Tbh I am seriously pissed off with the report sent home. It tells me nothing, there is no indication of progress and when questioned the child involved doesn't feel he has learn anything or made any progress this year. I don't give a shit where my child is in relation to his peer and government standard. I want to know he is making progress and developing. The report does not tell me this and I have felt this way about most of the reports in the last few years but this is ten times worse.

That irritates me no end about the newer reporting structures. Your child could be below standards every year for years simply as a child with some difficulties. Instead of celebrating progress made, each year youre reminded theyre simply "below".

Or as a parent of a child who can read early etc they could be exceeding for several years but coasting in early knowledge.,,