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School reports on Facebook

173 replies

WaltJunior · 10/07/2015 20:03

I can't handle it! I'm not sure why I hate it so much I just cringe so badly
Aibu to think people should keep their child's report to themselves??

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HighwayDragon · 10/07/2015 22:16

I've actually enjoyed looking at my friends kids reports, it's really great to see them grow and flourish. Does that make me weird then?

Emochild · 10/07/2015 22:17

Dd's report today said '...is enthusiastic in PE lessons (except when it's cold outside)'

Made me giggle -my 80s report said something similar except not quite polite!

Teachers can give negative points in reports but they should not be a surprise to the parents

I think some people cherry pick what they want to take from reports and use their imagination to fill in the gaps

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 10/07/2015 22:18

I love it when people post about their kids school reports.... it never ceases to amaze me just how many perfectly mannered,funny and gifted children are top of their class. Particularly with so many all being top of the same class.

Sirzy · 10/07/2015 22:18

highway I think it makes you nice, and probably shows that you are friends with the people on your Facebook so of course you care!

ConfusedInBath · 10/07/2015 22:27

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thelostboy · 10/07/2015 22:28

I could put DDs report on FB ( if I had an account) but the school may be embarrassed at their failure to properly proof read the cut and paste report which left a whole host of non-sensical sentences, details of another child's after school activity successes and one sentence where she was called by another child's name.

This report having been signed off by her two class teachers and the head.

Philoslothy · 10/07/2015 22:29

I have just made a point of posting all of my children's reports on FB. I will do count in about an hour to see who has de friended me.

How sad that a friend can't share with you the pride they feel for their children.

Only1scoop · 10/07/2015 22:30

Do people actually do this

How crass
Awful

Altinkum · 10/07/2015 22:31

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Philoslothy · 10/07/2015 22:35

DD2's report says that talks too much in Art and needs to read more at home. Her music teacher said that she has talent but prefers to be popular than to showcase here talent.

DS2 report said that he is overly competitive, bordering on selfish and needs to be willing to work with others as a team in PE, His handwriting is untidy and he needs to take more care.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 10/07/2015 22:44

I had one of these today. She's a terminal over sharer so I just rolled my eyes. I'm extremely proud of my ds's report and I'm not stupid so I know all kids get positive reports, so I'm not going to share it with anyone apart from family!

JessiePinkMan · 10/07/2015 22:45

How refreshing philo

My sister is a teacher, and we have a good giggle at people who show off and post up things that the teacher has said, when my sister knows it's exactly the sort of thing you write for a child who does nothing but mess about and wind up the other kids
Yes I do this too There's one tonight for a child I taught last year gushing about what a 'swot' he is [criiiiiinge] he's a total pita & constantly disturbs others learning but...what can you say?? She's read 'swot' so good for her and for me

KERALA1 · 10/07/2015 22:45

Massive breach of your child's privacy. Anyone that does this should be ashamed. Wtf are you thinking?

Nettymaniaa · 10/07/2015 22:49

Seriously can't be bothered with this type of shenanigans. No sign of my child on my facebook page.

usualsuspect333 · 10/07/2015 22:54

If you don't like it, hide it.

It's not hard to hide or delete someone off your FB.

But then what would you have to bitch about?

usualsuspect333 · 10/07/2015 22:56

People can post what the hell they like on their FB.

That's how it works.

KERALA1 · 10/07/2015 23:02

Yes post what you like. Take a photo of your work appraisal and post that.

It's not your report it's your child's - who has no choice about you plastering confidential information about them all over the internet to either boast or make people snigger. Well done.

passmethewineplease · 10/07/2015 23:03

Tbf most of the crap on FB nobody really cares about.

I don't mind the people saying they're proud but to screenshot actual reports seems unecessary and is massively over sharing.

whoreandpeace · 10/07/2015 23:03

Seems to me that those who post their DC reports on social media have self-esteem issues and thus need approval from others. I only ever post anything about my DCs after asking for their permission (eg a photo). I would NEVER EVER talk about their results to anyone except their grandparents. It's such a pushy-parent thing to do.

From my experience of having DCs doing sport at national level, I have met many pushy and competitive parents. What I have observed over the years is that the kids with quieter parents who simply support and encourage their children without fuss and bother, offering praise when due and comfort when things go wrong - they are the kids that make it to the top. The parents who consistently talk about how amazing their kids are will have to skulk off at some point because their kids will give up when they fail to 'make the grade' and feel they have let their parents down.

If your DC has a good report then give them a hug, tell them how proud you are of them and encourage them to continue in the same vein. File that report away and look forward to the next one and let's hope the same wonderful words pour out again.

Foreverconfused · 10/07/2015 23:10

I posted a my son's report. Saying that , it was his nursery one , the whole report consists of a paragraph and there wasn't anything in there that could say I was bragging. I was just pleased that he'd come out his shell apparently and wasn't his speech was coming along (has a speech delay ).

If people didn't like it then they can always delete me Basically everything you lot moan about on here when it comes to facebook I do

travertine · 10/07/2015 23:12

My daughter is a 'high achiever' I am immensely proud of her. She is 17 now, A level results next month. I will keep fingers off keyboard. Her brother likes to share every achievement cos he likes the Facebook attention but she is mortified. Hates it when he posts her results. It's like the grief wankers. It's 'look at me!' The people involved rarely want the attention.

KERALA1 · 10/07/2015 23:12

I don't know anyone that posts childrens reports cannot believe its a thing til I read it here.

travertine · 10/07/2015 23:14

I don't mean everyone obviously but people do post just tell bask in the glory of what a great parent they are! I have done it in the past.

KERALA1 · 10/07/2015 23:15

I have found it's the quiet unassuming ones that are usually the most high achieving of all. They don't need to boast and shout. Your dd sounds lovely travertine.

DisappointedOne · 10/07/2015 23:20

I wish some people would afford their kids some privacy. Just think of the cyber footprint you're leaving behind that could well affect your kids as they grow up.

How would that work them? DD (4) has no FB account. How would anyone in 12+ years know to look at my account for details about her?!

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