School reports on Facebook

[WaltJunior]

I can't handle it! I'm not sure why I hate it so much I just cringe so badly
Aibu to think people should keep their child's report to themselves??

DS got an excellent report, he's a late July baby and yet he's well above average for his year.

We're really proud of him... so we told him that, no need to post it on FB.

I told my DS and haven't posted it on FB... I do understnad although not the actual report if that is happening. I haven't seen it..People are proud and often it may not be playground friends but family and friends far away

Teachers aren't allowed to say anything negative in reports! So take them with a pinch of salt...

That is not universally true. I always wrote the truth in reports and read the reports of other staff and they tended to say it as it was.

Mine always have the truth. The truth is just not written the same way as it was in the 70s.

It frustrates me actually when I meet parents and they give me the wink in a sort of 'we know what you really mean' when actually I mean what I wrote!

My son has ASD, and has always struggled at school, always been on the bottom table, always been below expected levels and never gets any awards or certificates.

So yes, seeing my Facebook feed full of proud parents detailing all their children's achievements does hurt. A lot. Especially this time last year, when the mother of the child who had tormented mine relentlessly posted about how proud she was of him for "excelling in every single area".

I was very tempted to add a comment to the effect that if she could just stop her son from constantly calling mine dumb and a loser, that would be grand, but I restrained myself, and just deleted her instead.

aren't reports always positively written?

as someone said upthread - there seem to be a disproportionate amount of above average kids out there

I've seen a fair few photos of actual reports but mostly these are for kids with major disabilities or sen. One mum I know was nearly in tears because her child now manages to make eye contact although he still fakes sleep when it's time for physio! I loved reading it and am so happy for his family.

Mostly I skim past, I don't even have dds yet, she was on a transfer day so will get it Monday.

Can't believe people do this....

Surely then all the parents will work out the whole class got more or less the same copy and paste report?
Ha! I'm sure most teachers don't do this but last year someone posted a photograph of the summary & it was word for word the same as my dds and several others from the class it turned out
There's 3 or 4 photos but mainly paraphrasing the report in my newsfeed tonight...I have to say it seems mainly pfb... Having been through it lots of times I do wonder if they'll ever realise every report is very positive

I was very tempted to add a comment to the effect that if she could just stop her son from constantly calling mine dumb and a loser, that would be grand, but I restrained myself, and just deleted her instead
Oh mandmand I can totally understand how much that hurt. Better to have a kind heart than a 'wonderful' report

I did it, and you know what, if you don't like it then get off my Facebook. I'm incredibly proud of how my daughter is doing. She's on the g&t register in maths and because of this I never ever ever post about her abilities but I have today, and why shouldn't I, she's been assessed at a level 2 in maths and is about to enter year 1.

I do it, because I'm very proud of dd.
I also post photos of my dinner and my cats.
I'm your FB nightmare

IHBH are you me?

The reports I write are positive in that I would never right "wee Jimmy is an irritating wee bellend who could to with picking his nose less and listening to me more"

I see report writing as a chance to look at that child. Separate them out for the wee crowd they sit with or the wee niggles that can set your teeth on edge and see them for what they are as a whole. And as a whole almost all children have some really nice characteristics and are lovely to be around. If I think they are a blether to the detriment of their work or that of others then I will say that also

Thank goodness - none of my friends have posted their dc school report on facebook. Occasionally, very occasionally, some of my friends have posted about a vip milestone that their child has achieved (usually to do with Universities or outside of school activities) and I am always delighted for them.

If any of my regular friends actually had a little brag about their perfectly ordinary child's school report on Facebook then yes I absolutely WOULD roll my eyes and think they were a bit of a twat. And I might unfollow them too.

Good for her, HighwayDragon!

I see nothing wrong with exclaiming how proud you are if your kids on FB. Not all kids excel academically, but they will achieve other things. I have a friend whose son has special needs, and she "bragged" the other day on FB that he was able to get his teeth cleaned at the dentist without being sedated for the first time ever. I thought that was an amazing achievement for him, and I was truly happy for him. He may never get straight A's on his report cards, but he'll grow and achieve in his own way.

I wish some people would afford their kids some privacy. Just think of the cyber footprint you're leaving behind that could well affect your kids as they grow up.

No need for reports to go up at all.

"I did it, and you know what, if you don't like it then get off my Facebook. I'm incredibly proud of how my daughter is doing. She's on the g&t register in maths and because of this I never ever ever post about her abilities but I have today, and why shouldn't I, she's been assessed at a level 2 in maths and is about to enter year 1."

And that is great (is it ... I can't actually remember, but I imagine it is) but who else actually cares apart from you and her father and maybe her grandparents?

And as she is 6 years old or something like that, then she isn't on FB to see it.

at my own typo! Oh the shame!!

I haven't posted anything about my dc's school reports, but I think people who moan about it are a bit pathetic really. It's the same as people who moan about other people's holiday snaps because they can't afford to go away.

Everyone on my Facebook is someone who I genuinely wish well even if they aren't agood friend. I like to see their lives going well. I think you should take a hard look at yourself if someone else's good fortune makes you miserable.

I find it really odd that people post their kids reports on Facebook. It's boastful and tacky.

I'm glad I don't have Facebook

I never ever ever post about her abilities but I have today, and why shouldn't I, she's been assessed at a level 2 in maths and is about to enter year 1
That is wonderful, really great for her But to see that on someone's fb I would immediately think that poor child's now set up for a fall

My sister is a teacher, and we have a good giggle at people who show off and post up things that the teacher has said, when my sister knows it's exactly the sort of thing you write for a child who does nothing but mess about and wind up the other kids.

I'd never post up my DCs' reports; why would anyone care?!

I've had surprisingly few report based posts on my feed this time round.

I have one academically flying child in yr2 and another in yrR who's only 'exceeding' was that he has a vivid imagination (he's a born liar)!

So I won't be posting anything!