AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

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Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

No idea why the WILLY post is cracking me up, but it is.

Dear Crisp Lady,

There appears to be some confusion as I left a tenner on the kitchen counter before I left your lovely party. Please let me know when it will be convenient to come round and get my change,

Thank you!

I like Cain's response.

Or:

'Dear Crisp lady, I really don't know what to make of this. Has everyone been asked to contribute?'

I think you need to do something though, because you can't keep hiding behind walls.

Hahahahaha grace I like your style girl

Tell her you're not sure about what to say, so have taken the advice of others who will be contacting her directly with their views and give us her number!

crisps £5, flowers £6, wine £12 entertainment for mumsnet priceless

please message her, what is the other person who received the message doing?

Loving crispy criisp bag ....lol

Are you sure you don't know her from somewhere? Maybe you got off with someone she fancied once or something?

Or maybe it's a case of mistaken identity and she thinks you're her DP's ex or someone who bullied her at school.

Or perhaps she's just batshit...

Ooooh Teenage, you are naughty!!!

OP do it! Then Grace can text 'WILLY, WILLY, WILLY' to her all night!

actually - I have changed my mind - I would message her back with "listen crazy lady - I ate about 10 Very mediocre crisps and had one drink in the hour that I had to endure of your mind bogglingly dull soirée - you are out of your mind to think that I , in any way shape or form, owe you anything whatsoever and in fact feel robbed of my time - hosting is obviously not your thing, please do not contact me again."

Or send the £5.00 in a taxi, whose fare she must pay.

But I think we should have her number

So many brilliant come backs, but I think maddening has nailed it.
OP I too would have avoided this crazy woman but a quick text will make you feel sooooo much better!

Oh OP, I'm so disappointed you hid. It's also quite funny as well though.

Seeing as you have no backbone then surely a message reply is the way to go.

I suggest "Oh, I didn't realise this is what we do. Where do you want me to send the invoice for the wine and flowers I left you? I'll let you have my bank details if you'd rather settle up that way."

This!!

Hilarious thread

Just reply "Sorry, who are you again?"

I reckon you should ignore her and carry on hiding behind walls, then one day leap out in front of her, wave a fiver in her face and run off cackling.

You have to text Crispzilla back one of the replies on here OP.

Go on, you'll feel better for it and we can wait for her reply.

oh, oh! reply:

hi who is this?

This is Crisp Bag. It was my party you turned up at the other day.

Oh yes! Who was that loon who came up to me and demanded I sing to her? Her poor husband was mortified and who can blame him! :D

Yes... WILLY WILLY WILLY is the only way to go

I'm STILL sniggering at WILLY, WILLY, WILLY.
It's been nearly a day. I'm 46 and a grown up but clearly I've the mind of an 8 year old boy.

Ah well.
(chortles some more)

Is crisp lady Gary Lineker in drag?

Please send her back a text - even if it's just a quick "Who is this and how did you get my number?" type text. That way, she'll have to say who she is and let you know who gave your number to her (still think it's your friend who did that even though she says different).

Then I'd go with the suggestion of referring to the flowers & wine and looking for a refund from her as a result seeing as how she is brazen enough to look for money to a party that didn't have bouncers or a cover charge at the door mentioned at any point.

On what's app you get other people's phone numbers if you're all in a 'group' together.

Have you ever been in the same convo as her OP?

Or has your friend fuelled this madness by handing it over?!