AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

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Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

If you invoice her for the flowers and wine (and you really should), don't forget to tell her she "must" pay!

Surely it is your friend having a laugh?

even if the friend cocked up and took a +1 when not supposed to, then the hostess still should not bill her . And the friend should be apologising to both YOU and her for the embarrassing mess, not telling you to suck it up and pay.

Just send her a link to this thread and say "I thought about your request (briefly) then handed it to the MN jury to decide. The consensus is I should bill you - but hey I guess I'm not as crass as you ."

Sorry but this is brilliant!

This is hilarious OP.

I think you should whatsapp her a photo of a £10 note and ask for £5 change.

Oh come on let us know what you texted back.

I would have offered Crispzilla instalments.

By the way, if the friend who you went to the party with didn't get a message about payment, why does she think that is and why does she think you should pay but not her?

place marking hilarious

Marking place. Suspense!

Speechless I am!

What about 'I think you must have mistaken my number for someone else. I came with OF and I only had a few crisps in exchange for a naice bottle of wine and a lovely bouquet of flowers.'

Oh and I'm not shamelessly place marking at all. No not me

Agree to deduct her £5 from what you spent on wine and flowers and present her with the bill.

Oh please please reply with the invoice for wine and flowers. There is simply no other acceptable outcome.

It is, generally, perfectly acceptable to bring an additional friend to an informal party; loads of people say, oh bring a friend if you like, when issuing invites.

Ask her if you can pay it off weekly. Something like 10p a week but she'll have to come round for the payments perhaps every Friday evening. Tell her some weeks if you're a bit flush you might be able to manage 20p.

I came back expecting an outcome.

Disappointing.

Call me an old cynic but this all seems slightly, ahem, far fetched to me.

Mn never cease to amaze me ,

"Dear Crisp Lady:

You have a wrong number.

Thanks [Fake name]."

If your friend wants to pay it to avoid embarrassment, she can feel free to do so for you. As you were her plus one and not actually an invitee, she's the only one who would know whether there was a cost associated.

The attitude of people posting here amazes me. It must have taken a lot of courage for this poor woman to send this text. You all sound rather mean spirited to me.

Taken courage?!

Courage to text a party guest and order them to pay you a fiver for a few crisps?

Yup, courage almost worth of the victoria cross.

BOOM we have found crisp lady!