AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

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Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

Very courageous if you want to lose friends over crisps ...

children we sound mean spirited?

But the Host of the party, retrospectively charging £5 for snacks, after having received wine and flowers ISN'T??!!

What exactly is courageous about sending a text children?

What exactly is brave about TELLING the Op to pay her £5 to contribute to her party?

Why didn't crisp lady ask the op directly? Now that would have been brave!

Oo and if you are crisp lady children the mumsnet jury have spoken!

Place marking! I'd love you to send her this thread!!

First message on MN and it's to place mark!

Have been following this thread in utter disbelief! Who charges a guest at a party full stop?!? Strange strange woman.

Tell her she 'must' pay for the wine and flowers you brought. I can not believe someone could be so cheeky!

Please elaborate on that children. Why is it courageous to send a party guest a text requesting payment for snacks in any case at all?

Totally crazy!

I think children was joking but forgot the

Courage.
Just like the cowardly lion in Oz.
Except he didn't bill Dorothy afterwards.

Come on OP, come back and update.

Sorry but I thought 13 pages all saying the same thing was too much. I can carry on though, here goes.....

Perhaps the crisps were M&S hand cooked crisps, have you seen the price of them?
OP didn't have to go after all it was an invitation to her friend not her.
I think she was very brave to send that text, would you have done it? .

Literally ROFL at this thread, and thank you children - it really does take all sorts !

Please, please OP, text her back thanking her for the party and attaching an invoice for your wine and flowers.

children! This is way too much excitement for a mere Wednesday morning.

I knew it children

No Children I wouldn't have sent that message, not because I am lacking in courage but because I am not that cheap, or rude..

How does it take courage to send an arsey text?
How is she a poor woman?
From her behaviour before and after she's a terrible host, prone to embarrassing herself in front of her guests and incredibly rude and grabby.
I suppose we should feel sorry for her lack of basic social skills and the way she has publically demonstrated her ignorance, but not after the terrible way she's behaved

I guess if the crisps were from potatoes hand picked by virgins at midnight, peeled with a silver knife and fried in truffle oil?... Nope, it still doesn't compute.

The Crisp Bag was probably pissed off because she was pissed, and was pissed again when she sent the text.

OP should respond with details of the local AA chapter.

Shameless place marking!

Crisp Bag. [thumbs]

Any update op??
Please tell us you sent her a message asking for a refund for the flowers and wine.

You'll all be sad to hear that I'm a coward and haven't replied to her, but yesterday I was walking to the shops and saw her coming towards me down the street, she was walking with a friend and I panicked and hid behind a wall until she had passed. I don't think she saw me .

You wuss! You should have embarrassed talked to her about it in front of her friend.

OP, why on earth would you do that?