Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

457 replies

MyNameIsPinkiePie · 01/07/2015 10:35

I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

OP posts:
AbbyCadabra · 01/07/2015 10:58

People stare because you look younger than you are? How do they know how old you are in the first place?

theDudesmummy · 01/07/2015 10:58

I can never understand the threads about what people wear for the "school run". How is it different from any other part of the public environment? Whatever you would wear to leave your house for any other reason is surely what you wear to collect your child from school (ie for me varies from tatty sweatpants and jumper to a suit and high heels depending on whether or not I am working that day).

Lateswim16 · 01/07/2015 10:58

Oh dear.

no one gives a fuck what you wear. Why on earth would they?

They may dislike you for other reasons but my guess is they are thinking about their own lives.

People are funny that way.

My dds are tall and slim and have no problems with lots of friends. Maybe it's because they are nice girls and not self obsessed narcs.

fairnotfit · 01/07/2015 10:59

Oh for goodness' sake. Really??

Delilahfandango · 01/07/2015 11:00

stay so was it a wedding or a funeral you went to?Wink

Lateswim16 · 01/07/2015 11:01

Do you have a birthday badge on the poster who amazes people that she's mutton not lamb? Wink

CrispyFern · 01/07/2015 11:01

Was she carrying a muslamic ray gun?

MrsBattersby · 01/07/2015 11:02

I wore a keyhole cut out above the knee summer dress this morning on the school run. Quite a bit more noticable than your dress if I'm being honest. I received no dirty looks, just the usual friendly morning greetings...

littlemslazybones · 01/07/2015 11:02

Where you posing about like you are in those photos OP?

Carrying on like a tinkerbell fairy is a bit odd on the school run, tbf.

NealCaffreysHat · 01/07/2015 11:03

Was she carrying a muslamic ray gun? just made me snort out loud at my desk.

MaggieJoyBlunt · 01/07/2015 11:04

It may make a difference that the woman was wearing a head scarf so probably Muslim. But we live in a very diverse area and haven't had this happen before. With the hot weather she will have to get use to other woman showing off extra skin.

Who's got the popcorn?

Hoppinggreen · 01/07/2015 11:04

I thought this was a stealth boast thread but my mistake it's a stealth anti Islam thread.
Go find something better to do OP

MerryMarigold · 01/07/2015 11:05

Personally think too much cleavage for the Christian youth group. Poor, teenage boys!

But a) I'm not convinced she was 'looking at you funny' and b) If she was, I doubt it was the dress.

AllThatGlistens · 01/07/2015 11:06

Oh dear..... Grin Grin

Sparklingbrook · 01/07/2015 11:06

So what have we learnt so far?

MerryMarigold · 01/07/2015 11:07

Oh blimey, I missed the headscarf bit.

Still think too much cleavage for work or youth groups. (I am not Muslim, I am Christian though).

AllThatGlistens · 01/07/2015 11:08

I've learnt that popcorn isn't going to be enough for this thread Sparkling, this calls for an ice cream cart Wink

Klayden · 01/07/2015 11:08

I doubt she was giving you a filthy look. Maybe she suffers from bitchy resting face syndrome?

Starbrite00 · 01/07/2015 11:09

Why would you think it was the clothes you wear? Unless you subconsciously think its inappropriate.
You look normal to me.

CrystalHaze · 01/07/2015 11:09

Personally think too much cleavage for the Christian youth group. Poor, teenage boys!

Oh hell, I can't believe I picked up on the anti-Islamicism and the 'look at my tits, I look so YOUNG!' compliment-grabbing, but totally missed the Christian youth group detail! Grin

Jumped the shark, OP. Must try harder.

MaggieJoyBlunt · 01/07/2015 11:09

It's interesting that UKIP have a cleavage wing, though.

Is the idea just to thrust it at people suspected of being Muslim, yelling "Get used to THIS"?

It will keep the narcs occupied, at least.

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 01/07/2015 11:09

What have we learnt, Sparkling?
OP prefers taking selfies to making her bed.
OP is good at noticing other people's facial expressions and applying them to herself: mostly these expressions denote admiration of her youthful beauty but sometimes they denote anger and fury at her youthful beauty.
If the latter, it is probably relevant that they might be Muslims.
OP attends Christian Youth Group - due to youthful appearance, I am not sure whether this is in a supervisory capacity or as a member?

martikaskitchenaid · 01/07/2015 11:09

Was she maybe trying to alert you tactfully to the fact that you appear, in that photo, to have stopped your fake tan at the knee, and this dress finishes mid-thigh?

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 01/07/2015 11:10

Hahaha, a lot of loooook at meeeeeee with a dose of racism thrown in for good measure. Suffering from a lack of self-esteem by any chance OP?

MerryMarigold · 01/07/2015 11:10

AllThatGlistens, can we create fantastic ice-cream recipes?

I've always wanted to try ginger ice-cream with dark chocolate chunks. Do you have any?