Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

[MyNameIsPinkiePie]

I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

[Garlick]

PinkiePie, do you know the song/poem recommended by Wideopen?
Here are the words: Wear Sunscreen. Read them!

"Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults"

Several posters remarked that you were ignoring the many compliments sent your way, choosing instead to focus on the criticisms, insults, and indeed to post ever more convoluted hypotheses about the negative intentions of badly-behaved random strangers.

Fair enough, it's hard to ignore criticisms and insults. It is both ill-mannered and self-injurious to ignore praise and compliments.

I think you'd benefit more from a good therapist than anything I can post here. But 'Wear Sunscreen' is a good start!

Here's another good one: Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson :)

I had both poems on my wall for years, reading them many times a day. They helped.

[Rainbunny]

She probably was glaring at your perky breasts :)

I'm slim but cursed (I actually hate being well endowed) with large boobs and the most respectable dresses/tops/jumpers somehow look naughty on me.

I admire your confidence, I personally hate people staring at my chest so I only wear things like your dress when I'm with my DH, his presence seems to magically make people (men) remember not to stare at my chest :)

[TheMaddHugger]

Wowza.... what a thread O.o

((((((((((((soft Hug)))))))))))) OP

[Gabilan]

"I have NEVER heard a man complaining about being looked at/blanked/snubbed/treated badly (insert any interaction) by another man and be told 'they're probably jealous of you'."

It's almost as if we live in a patriarchal society which values men for their achievements but values women for what they look like. And it's almost as if the media incessantly reinforces this by portraying women as pouting, static decorations whilst it portrays men as active, sporty, and capable of a variety of emotions.

It's no wonder that women pick up on this and then judge each other for their appearance. However, if you start recognising it you can start to change things, starting by not castigating other women for how they look.

[chaiselounger]

Do men worry that school mums are looking down on their choice of dress? Doubt it.

[YouPooPooBumBum]

This is an odd thread.
I do think the OP has had a hard time on here.
Women who are slim and attractive aren't necessarily going to have a high esteem but also can have some nastiness from other women directed at them for some reason

[BallsforEarrings]

This thread has to be the most immature bit of literature I've laid eyes on recently.

I would find it hilarious but I think the OP had a genuine concern about herself when she first posted and now that concern must have assumed epic proportions.

I've never met people like this in RL, except the ones who answered her actual question, of course.

For what it's worth, I agree the dresses are fine, nice and shouldn't put cause a second glance.

[gingermopped]

I like the black dress, where's it from? x

[CarrotVan]

The only reactions you can control are your own so dress how you like and stopping worrying what randoms think about you or your clothes. Why do they matter so much to you?

If you don't like too much cleavage buy cheap vests from Primarni and wear them under cleavagy dresses. That's what I do for work/day time but wouldn't if going out for the evening.

If you're worried about looking too young then you can dress older but with young kids and still bf I'd just wear what was convenient/comfortable/clean

[SuperFlyHigh]

OP I feel a tad guilty for lambasting you....

the best place for your post initially would've been Style and Beauty or perhaps Chat.

The vipers (including me do tend to jump on board especially if something close to the bone (Muslim woman) is mentioned.

So for what it's worth they're nice dresses but you really really shouldn't put too much thought into what a random woman does when she looks at you. Heck if she is jealous that's her issue.

As someone else said here you should maybe see someone or I don't know healer (I'm not being nasty!) for self esteem issues.

Seriously I'm a pretty (so I'm told) 10 years younger 43 year old, and yes I get 'looks' sometimes... If I over analysed every single one of them I'd end up a jibbering wreck. Also sometimes I too am guilty of shooting a look at someone not judgy but maybe it comes across that way.

So calm down.

[SpunkOnMyBouquet]

Gordon Bennett, why did I read all this

[WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat]

That's a really lovely post super

[Knightsbridge]

The dress is fine, and looks lovely. Ignore her.

[Mulberry72]

ZOMBIE!!!!

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

Eh? Why resurrect this?

[IceIceCoffee]

I was sat thinking she must be freezing then realised old post

[WendyImhome]

Haha, same coffee. Though she was looking as it’s Janury! Weird thread to start up again...

[Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom]

Ffs sake! knightsbridge!

Iv just spent ages trying to work out why she's dressed for summer in bloody January only to see eventually this thread is from fucking July 2015

[Geminijes]

If you wore the dresses with just a cardigan and the sandals as in the photo then maybe she was staring at you wondering why you were wearing inappropriate shoes and no coat in the cold weather we have recently been experiencing.

[DadDadDad]

The thing is, @Geminijes, I suspect it wasn't quite so cold when the OP started this thread in the recent summer of 2015!

[Darkautumn]

Knightsbridge. Why would you.

[Nanny0gg]

@Knightsbridge

Where the hell did you find this thread?

[Meralia]

Ha! I was also thinking the dress was not great for this January weather!
OP, how have the last 4 years been?

[Member869894]

too much cleavage for work; probably a bit OTT and alarming for the school run toot

[DadDadDad]

It always amazes that some people apparently just read the OP to a thread which clearly has lots of responses, don't even do a cursory check to see if there's an update or what the latest posts are saying, and then comment.

For the rest who do have some common sense and are checking the end of the thread:

ZOMBIE THREAD! 3 and a half years old!!